Put your hands in the service of her unlimited pleasure and use these creative techniques to make a memorable hot encounter!
When I ask women what is their favorite part of a man’s body, they almost always start with “His hands”. This is so unexpected for many men, as you would think she could choose anything else: your toned glutes, your muscular shoulders, your strong legs… or even that REALLY obvious part you are thinking about right now. And while all of those other features are indeed arousing to your woman, there is something magically irresistible about your simple hands. As with everything, there is a very good reason for that.
At the beginning of our evolution, men did everything with their hands. They had to make creative tools for hunting, so studies confirm that their hand abilities were actually much better than the ones of the modern man, mainly because you don’t need that kind of dexterity anymore. As a matter of fact, you taking the time to read this article is proof that we have come a long way when it comes to evolution, but there is one surprising thing that hasn’t changed: women’s intrigue for your hands. Actually, women are biologically drawn to them, because in their subconscious, male hands still represent a way of survival. They are powerful and capable — a tool for putting down the big prey or for holding a female waist firmly during penetration. Now look at your hands and see them as the magic tool that they are. Then, ask yourself: are you really maximizing the advantages of this beautiful feature of yours?
Know your advantages
What I mean by that is… your hands not only are the most arousing tool for foreplay, but also for making her orgasm happen in a very different, intimate way, as shown also in my intensive course on the matter. Truth is, every woman is shaped differently, which means there is no secret recipe for making her reach that big O. This also means that penetration is most certainly not enough. Did you know that only 12.9% of women consistently reach orgasm by penetration alone? When you use your hands to pull her closer, to push her against the wall or to softly caress her body, your woman’s brain sends signals to prepare her body for a sexy time. And once she is ready for more, you can help her explore a new kind of pleasure by using the magic of finger stimulation.
Be the master of details
You gotta love a man who’s paying attention to details — and she sure will! No matter how attractive your hands are in theory, if they look too rough or your nails are not taken care of properly, the whole thing will just turn into her biggest nightmare. So take care of your hands before going to town — this will even make you more confident in your technique. Keep your nails clean and short and even exfoliate the skin of your hands using a mix of coconut oil and coffee grounds. Strong + clean soft hands? She’s already thinking where to put them!
It’s more than an “in-and-out” move
Because I really do want you to enjoy the ultimate sex experience with your partner, I’m going to tell you the ugly truth: most of what you know about fingering is wrong. Actually, when it comes to fingering, a lot of women complain about their partner’s skills, saying things like “It’s boring”, “I don’t feel anything” or even “It hurts”. That’s because most men think it’s enough to just put your fingers inside and make an exhaustingly “in-and-out” move to give her the orgasm of her life. But as I said before, female anatomy is far more complex than that. Simple penetration means accessing only 5% of her pleasure potential — and wouldn’t that be a shame?
Why is fingering causing pain for some women? Well, because she needs more foreplay to get her vagina properly lubricated so that everything goes smoothly down there. Other reason could be that you’re being too rough: intense friction can create microscopic tears in the skin of her intimate area, translating into a burning sensation that says goodbye to even a half orgasm.
Make sure you enjoy an intense foreplay together using the whole potential of your hands. Start by feeling the details of her underwear and pretending this is the first time that your hands reach that intimate warm area. Draw small imaginary circles in the area of her clitoris with your index or middle fingers, but do not touch the spot directly. This subtle teasing and the warmth of your finger will increase the blood circulation in this area full of nerve endings. Now use the palm of your hand to apply slightly more pressure directly on the clitoris, using a sensual up and down type of movement. Do you feel her underwear getting wet? It’s time for the next move.
Mix your moves
Fingering is not only about the inside of her intimate parts — leaving the clitoris out of the picture is a rude thing to do. Be a respectful fellow and make sure all the area gets attention from your sexy naughty hands. Use your right thumb to gently massage the clitoris with circular motions. At the same time, put your other hand to work: create a V shape with your index and middle fingers, placing them on the sides of her big labia while applying moderate pleasure. This is the best way to make sure you cover the most of the nerve endings surrounding her vagina, giving her an intense wave of pleasure before you even get to the best part.
Massage those secret spots
The elusive G-spot might be an intimidating concept for most man. And like that’s not enough, scientists have also discovered the A-spot, also known as the anterior fornix. You can really stimulate these two spots during fingering action, and there’s no reason not to. With a little practice (and with the help of my detailed course on the subject) you can help her reach the sex revelation of her life.
Let me tell you a little secret: the more you stimulate her vulva (meaning every visible part on the outside of her vagina), the more her G-spot will want to join the party — swelling up on the inside, which makes it easier to find and stimulate it. Assuming you’ve taken the foreplay stimulation steps above, introduce one or two fingers into her vagina slowly and increase the intensity as you go. Every woman has a slightly different body shape, but her G-spot should be located one to three inches inside of her, on the roof of her vagina. Massage this general area and try to let her moans lead you — when she goes crazy, yup, you’ve found the right spot!
On the other hand, the A-spot can be found much deeper into her vagina, between the cervix and the bladder. Stroking this area will make her crazy wet — actually, most women have a squirting orgasm when you massage this little miracle worker. Don’t forget communication is always key: ask her how she feels at all time, making sure you discover and enjoy together the unlimited pleasure potential of these two secret spots!
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. I am genuinely pleased to know that I have given you access to such precious information on the mysterious and subtle art of fingering! To discover even more new hot ways to please her with your sexy hands, check out my program on the matter — Flirting Fingers.