When it comes to sex, oral play is the cherry on top. You don’t need it to make the act worthwhile but you have to have it in order to make it extraordinary… On one condition: to be good at it.
Cunnilingus is not an easy walk in the park if you aim for intense pleasure and erotic abandonment. It is a complex process, an elusive dance of sensation, intuition, and technique, and it requires very personal knowledge of your partner’s sweet spots in order to offer her the gift of complete pleasure. Despite the effort, it’s all worth it in the end because you’ll become the most powerful activator of unlimited pleasure… The only one to know the code for out-of-this-world pleasure and lust.
See, it’s well known that almost 50 percent of women can’t reach orgasm through penetration alone – no matter how crazy good it feels, they just can’t reach that point of maximum pleasure. Imagine how frustrating that can be.
And the main reason for that is the inability of proper clitoral stimulation during basic penetration. While it’s enough for you to stimulate the penis, your lady’s extra sensitive spot is not the vagina, but the clitoris. This hood-shaped spot located above her urethra is packed with millions of nerve endings which make it pulse once stimulated, giving her the most intense orgasm ever (many women say it’s more intense than the vaginal orgasm).
While there are ways to involve her clitoris more during penetration, the good news is that cunnilingus offers you the opportunity to make it the star of the show. What does that mean for your lady? Intense climax, 100% guaranteed.
Now there is one more detail that could compromise your cunnilingus performance and this one has nothing to do with you. Most women are not comfortable with spreading their legs in front of your eyes/tongue – they feel vulnerable and insecure. Which makes them tense, unable to experience an orgasm. Remember that she needs to feel completely relaxed in order to reach climax.
That’s why I recommend you check out the “Sweet Spot” Oral Sex Position program created by my friend Susan Bratton – it offers fully relaxing techniques which enable your woman to come harder, longer and MORE OFTEN. NOTE: This program was NOT created by me.
Here are my favorite techniques of intensifying her pleasure during cunnilingus:
Don’t rush it
Most women who complain about their partner’s technique say he’s turning it into a marathon, thinking that this is the sure way to orgasm. In reality, you’ll only make her tenser. As I said, she needs to be fully relaxed and feel safe around you, which means you have to take your time. Show her how much you enjoy exploring every inch of her vulva and tease her until she begs you to get to the clitoris.
Taking your sweet time means you can also explore and experiment more, getting to know exactly which moves get her off. Because cunnilingus is not an exact science – every woman is different and you need to find out what YOUR woman likes.
Warm up her clit before you “attack”
Most men go straight for the clitoris thinking that it will speed things up and make her come faster. Truth is you will get the opposite result. The clitoris is very sensitive and it needs to be warmed up before stimulation – otherwise, you could even cause physical discomfort.
Teasing is the way to go. I always recommend treating her vulva like a clock (with clitoris being noon) so that you can reach all the other areas while the clit is getting warmed up. That way, when you begin to stimulate it the amount of pleasure will be overwhelming.
Give her variation
As with pleasure of all kinds, variation is key. If you only use one type of stimulation, you’ll get a weaker response over time. I suggest you alternate tongue and lips and even hand. For example, applying pressure with the palm of your hand might feel a lot more pleasurable than inserting fingers while licking her clit. Also, the tongue is not your only asset. A lot of women say they love it when their partner uses the entire mouth to stimulate their intimate area. Pressing your lips on her clit and lightly sucking on it could make her go wild!
Try an exciting position
Yes, there’s more than one position for oral sex. My favorite one is the “Chair” position because you have access to all of her sensitive parts AND you’ll be able to also use your hands for greater stimulation.
Lie on your back with your knees bent and put a pillow underneath your head for support. Have your lady lay on top of you and move her feet by your head while resting her head on your knees. You’ll have an awesome view, not to mention the intense stimulation she’ll get.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S.: Sweetheart, oral sex is one the most intimate and pleasurable experiences you’ll enjoy as a couple but in order to make it truly epic she needs to be comfortable and relaxed. And she needs to trust you completely. If you think you’re not there yet, I recommend this sexy program called Oral Rapture.
