Don’t buy into these sex ‘facts’

“When authorities warn you of the sinfulness of sex, there is an important lesson to be learned. Do not have sex with the authorities.” – Matt Groening

Thanks to false erotic information, you may be missing out on some real pleasure… and that’s a tragedy in my book.

Mattress Myth 1

To have great sex, she must be ‘in the mood’

She’s had a hellish day at work or just doesn’t feel sexy. Meanwhile you, a poor horny guy, are trying your best to seduce her. You may think that she won’t be able to amp up, but you’re wrong. First, help her tune out any doubt that she’ll get turned on. As you’re touching her, envision a fantasy in which she is the hot one of the two of you. She’ll be pleased by your sexy scenario and focus more on the sensations your touches are bringing her. Soon, her physical arousal will override any mental hang-ups.

Mattress Myth 2

Missionary position is (yawn) boring

So it’s not a wild, pretzel-y configuration, but there are perks to it. It’s very intimate, and since you’re doing most of the work, she is able to get more fully into the experience. And with a few small tweaks, this position can be exciting. Have her keep her legs together to provide more friction or lift them over her head, bringing her knees to her face, to allow for deeper thrusting.

Mattress Myth 3

You need to handle her junk with care

Yes, their merchandise is valuable, but for most women, it’s not as fragile as you might think. Some women are particularly sensitive, but the majority want you to manhandle them. Women often complain that men are afraid to grip them or suck really hard. During manual or oral sex, tightly grasp her vulva [with your hand or mouth] and move up and down, maybe even using a twisting motion. As an added bonus, gently tug on her scrotum while she’s having an orgasm.

Mattress Myth 4

She can’t climax from a quickie

Don’t underestimate the benefits of wham-bam booty. Once she’s turned on, it doesn’t have to take long for her to attain orgasm. Usually, as she approaches the peak, you should turn up the intensity on a reliable motion. So instead of varying the moves, get right to your ‘old faithful’ technique, using constant stimulation at a steady pace. You’ll both be wowed in a matter of seconds.

Mattress Myth 5

Once you bring a sex toy into bed, you’ll always need it

You’ll only become reliant on a sex toy if you allow yourself to believe it’s the one thing that helps your partner (or yourself) to orgasm. To ensure that doesn’t happen, only use your vibrator with your girlfriend on occasion, making it part of your repertoire, but at the end of it, don’t let it become the most important part of your sexual intercourse. Think of your penis as a mainstay and the vibrator as a side dish and you’ll never be in danger of becoming addicted to it.

Have a wonderful week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. One surprising truth: A guy can actually get abrasions on his penis from too much sex, so don’t indulge in intercourse for hours. Trust me, those porn movies, they lie!