Are you ready to spice up your sex life? Perfect! Let’s do it!
You’ve heard of bucket lists (50 things you want to do before you die). Well, here is my take on it: the Sexy Bucket List for Couples, that is sure to add more thrill and sexual excitement to your relationship.
The start of any great sexy bucket list for couples begins with communication. First, you both need to put aside some time to discuss the idea together. Once you’ve agreed that you’d like to add some sexy excitement and fun in your relationship, (and who doesn’t want that!?) you then both sit down alone in private and each write out your own sexy bucket list.
Each partner will write out 25 sexy things you want to do together as a couple. Then you will combine your lists to make 50 sexy activities.
If you are a bit afraid of what your partner will come up with, or fearful about sharing your own, you may want to set up some boundaries or limits first, such as, no anal sex or no sexual activities with other people. That way, you both know each other’s limits and can write lists you feel comfortable sharing, knowing your partner will most likely be open to your ideas.
Your activities can be any type of sexy, sensual, hot, kinky, romantic, or adventurous activity you want to add to your list. It could be as simple as a sensual bubble bath together, or as kinky as a full blown dungeon scene.
Write down the activities you are most excited about, like hot fantasies or something you have always dreamt of doing. For some really kinky ideas, check out a BDSM activity checklist online and share it with your partner. There will be lots of interesting things on it you may want to try as well as things you’ll want to avoid as well.
I have provided 50 sexy ideas at the end of this article to get you started.
Share Your Lists
The most intimidating part of this process is sharing your lists with each other. But, remember, you’ve already made your ground rules up so this should be fairly easy!
Cut up your lists into individual pieces so each activity is on a separate paper, and then place all your activities into separate envelopes. Next, set aside one day/night a week or a month for your sexy bucket list. Each week you’ll alternate picking from each other’s envelope and plan the activity for your sexy adventure.
Or, you could simply read each other’s lists together and then decide which activities from each list you’d like to try first.
The most important thing to remember during this process is to not judge each other. No matter how weird someone’s activity may seem to you, it could be a real turn on for your partner. So try to keep an open mind and don’t judge them for sharing their fantasies with you. Praise them for being brave enough to share them.
That doesn’t mean you need to like everything they like. There will be things on both your lists that A) don’t float your boat or B) turn you off. For the activities that don’t get you hot, but you are not opposed to, try keeping an open mind. You don’t know what you may like until you try it. Plus, your partner’s enthusiasm for that activity may just rub off on you. For things that turn you off, you can just kindly decline and pick another type of activity. You both have the right to refuse any activity, at any time. Mutual consent of any activity is crucial to having a good time.
Your Sexy Adventure
So, you’ve picked one activity and are getting ready to try it. Be sure to set the scene and get any props, costumes, sex toys, and whatever you will need to pull off the fantasy. If you are going to be away, make sure to pack your sexy props and don’t forget the lube!
You both may be filled with fear, excitement and anticipation the night you try out your sexy activity. Again, keep an open mind. Try not to have too many expectations. This is not about achieving orgasms or accomplishing goals, but about exploring, having fun and adding excitement to your relationship. Be playful, be positive, be supportive, laugh if you feel uncomfortable and have fun together. Let that giggly, bubbly, sexy excitement erupt out of you! Even in serious play scenes, laughter is great at breaking the ice.
Ideas for Your Sexy Bucket List
1. G-spot sex.
3. Sex on the beach.
4. Skinny dipping.
5. Romantic dinner out.
6. Erotic massage
7. Tantra sex.
8. Tickle fight.
11. Make your own sex tape.
12. Sex toy shopping.
13. Erotic spanking.
14. Dominance and submission.
15. Trying different positions.
16. Role play that you just met in a bar.
17. A sexy resort or hedonist cruise.
18. Mile High Club.
19. A romantic train trip.
20. Rent a cabin in the woods.
21. Dance all night and make out.
22. Go to a drive-in.
23. Watch a sexy movie.
24. Watch porn together.
25. Mutual masturbation.
26. Lick chocolate and whipped cream off of each other.
27. Try a stimulating balm.
28. Anal sex.
29. Nipple clamps.
30. Sensation play with fur, ice cubes, and hot wax.
31. Take a bubble bath.
32. Sex in the shower.
33. Take ball room dancing.
34. Dirty dancing.
35. Talk dirty.
36. Pillow fight.
37. Make out on a Ferris wheel.
38. Bondage or hand cuffs.
39. Rough sex.
40. Sex in public. Just don’t get caught!
41. Office sex.
43. Roleplay and costumes.
44. Be a sex slave.
45. Play doctor and nurse.
46. Sex in the rain.
47. Sex in the woods.
48. A sexy picnic.
49. Shave each other’s genitals.
50. Do every hot scene in the Fifty Shades of Grey books!
So, that’s it. Now go get your partner and start having some hot fun as you create your own Sexy Bucket List together!