Have you ever had really out of this world sex with your partner? Sex that was beyond all other experiences and you just knew you connected with her on some other level? If this sounds like something you want to experience then tantric sex is for you. A lot of people are intimidated by tantric sex because they don’t really know what it’s about or how it works. I know I felt that way many years ago when I first heard of tantric experiences, but of course being the sex curious person that I have always been I was dying to know more. Even if it wasn’t for me, I knew I had to learn as much about it as I could. And I sure was glad that I did.
Now all these years later I can tell you that even if you aren’t going to practice tantric sex every day of your life there are tantric practices that you can incorporate into your sex life that will majorly improve you and your partner’s experience. Today I’m going to share 3 fundamental tantric moves with you that you can start doing now to forever change your sex life.
What is tantric sex?
Tantra comes from India and was born over 6,000 years ago. In Tantra is it believed that sex expands consciousness and blends the polarities of male and female. There is a lot to Tantra, but to put it in simple terms, it is a meditative approach to sex that involves staying in the present moment during sex and not letting outside distractions enter your mind. Considering the fact that this is a huge challenge for many people, especially women, tantra has a lot to offer us to help us increase our pleasure.
The 3 Fundamental Tantric Practices You Need to Know
1. Use the 5 Senses – When you are with your partner use all 5 of your senses to experience being with them in that exact moment. Focus on what they smell like in the moment, what they taste like, what they look like, what they feel like, and what they sound like. Pay attention to the sounds, smells, flavors, sensations, and sights that you experiencing right in that moment and don’t compare it to other experiences you have had before. Don’t judge the experience based on expectations. Don’t think about what you want to happen next or what you hope the result will be (for example, an orgasm). Just focus fully on what you’re experiencing right there in that moment. Tune in to the sensations and rushes of pleasure that your body is having.
2. Breathe Deeply Together – This is a breathing exercise that you will practice every day with your partner. At first you might not see the point in it because there is nothing seemingly sexual about it at all, but of course it’s about connecting with your partner and using that to have better sex. First you stand facing your partner, holding one another. You place one hand on her back between her shoulder blades and the other at the base of her spine. She will face you and put her hands in the same position on your back. You’re going to start by focusing on your breathing. Pay attention to how it flows in and out of your body. Slowly start to notice her breathing and begin to synchronize your breathe. You should do this daily for 5 minutes. In order to be able to fully stay in the moment and not think about when the 5 minutes will be over, set a timer when you begin. This exercise will teach you breathing that you can use in the sexual act, plus it connects you on a daily basis and will heighten your sensitivity to sensations (your partner’s and your own!).
3. Your turn, My turn – Practice taking turns giving and receiving. You can start with something simple like a back rub for 2 minutes. Your partner will rub your back without receiving anything for 2 minutes. When it’s her turn she can choose what she would like you to do for 2 minutes. You should give your partner feedback and instruction during your time to receive. This teaches great communication and it encourages the sexual process to be about giving and learning how to be the best possible partner for your partner (something you know that I find extremely important!).
Alright tantric lover, it’s time to get started with these simple practices. Do you use any other tantric practices in the bedroom? I would love to hear all about it in the comment section below.