“The ocean fill’d with joy — the atmosphere all joy!
Joy! joy! in freedom, worship, love! joy in the ecstasy of life!
Enough to merely be! enough to breathe!
Joy! joy! all over joy!”
– Walt Whitman
If sex is just a routine for you, a way for you and your lover to de-stress after a hard day, then it’s time you took things up a notch and found a way to make sexuality and intimacy a major priority in your life. Do you have any routines that you have in your life that remind you of the sacred nature of your love? If not, start with this incredible exercise to affirm the sacredness of both your bodies! When you have some experience with affirmations, you can write your own for daily loving talk and touch.
The Five-Fold Kiss
Honoring the Feminine:
Kiss her feet: “Blessed be thy feet, that you may come to the Sacred Places”;
Kiss her sex: “Blessed be thy sex that fills the well of Sacred Spaces”;
Kiss her heart: “Blessed be thy breast, that your heart beats with the Sacred Drums”;
Kiss her lips: “Blessed be thy lips, that you may speak in Sacred Tongues”;
Kiss her 3rd eye: “and Blessed be thy mind, that you may see with Sacred Eyes”.
Honoring the Masculine:
Kiss his feet: “Blessed be thy feet, that you may come to the Sacred Places”;
Kiss his sex: “Blessed be thy sex, that lights the flame of Sacred Spaces”
Kiss his heart: “Blessed be thy breast, that your heart beats with the Sacred Drums”;
Kiss his lips: “Blessed be thy lips, that you may speak in Sacred Tongues”;
Kiss his 3rd eye: “and Blessed be thy mind, that you may see with Sacred Eyes”.
You Are
This next affirmation will give you the chance to tell your wife exactly what she means to you and your relationship, and she can do the same for you. Stand or sit comfortably and then look deeply into each other’s eyes before you speak.
Touch the top of her head and say, “You are woman.”
Touch her forehead and say, “You are understanding.”
Touch the small of her throat and say, “You are my link with the spirit.”
Touch her chest and say, “You are nourishment.”
Touch her belly and say, “You are the chalice of life.”
Touch her sex and say, “You are the maker of forms.”
Touch the top of his head and say, “You are man.”
Touch his forehead and say, “You are wisdom.”
Touch his chest and say, “You are my strength and my protection.”
Touch his abdomen and say, “You are my warmth.”
Touch his sex and say, “You are the fountain of life.”
Come together and kiss as lovers and sacred partners, than sit facing one another in a comfortable position and meditation on your love and commitment to one another for 5 to 10 minutes.
Yoni Worship
To really allow your lover to feel like the Goddess she is, you need to take the time to truly worship her, to give her the opportunity to feel pleasure and bliss without expectation, without the pressure to feel a certain way or react as you desire, without the requirement that she reciprocate in some specific way.
The next time you have an opportunity for date-night, which should be sooner rather than later, you should make it absolutely clear to your lover that the night is all about her, a chance for you to show her your love and devotion. Explain to her how enjoyable it is for you to give her pleasure and see her ecstasy, and continue to affirm it as she experiences the bliss you can give her. If she reaches to touch you in a sexual manner, explain that in order to focus on worshipping her properly, she should save her touch and desire for a date-night focused solely on you as God. Assure her that you have the whole night together, she can take as long as she wants or needs and experience as many (or as few!) orgasms as she desires, and that at the next opportunity you can take a night for her to worship you as well.
Create an environment, in which she can relax; light some candles, put on some sexy music, and give her a sensual massage before you move down to worship her sacred yoni. Touch her gently and listen to her reactions to your touch – her moans, her rate of breath and any feedback she gives you should be taken into consideration to give her the most pleasure possible. Devote yourself entirely to her ecstatic pleasure in whatever form that takes and show her that she is a Goddess in your eyes.
