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Energy Orgasms: Hands-Free Sexual Experience

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Energy Orgasms: Hands-Free Sexual Experience

Recent coverage on several major news networks, including this CNN HeadLine News video, has brought a whole new meaning to hands-free sex! Check out the amazing Barbara Carrellas, in conversation with Joy Behar talking about “Thinking Off” – her own moniker for hands free “energy” orgasms… a whole new kind of sex for those uninitiated in the ways of tantra.

In a recent episode of TLC’s Strange Sex, Barbara showed the world why just about anyone can find a reason to fit meditative sexuality into their daily routine – to help with stress, anxiety, energy or just give a boost of sexual confidence and independence. Because “Thinking Off” describes a physical orgasm without external stimulation, it is especially useful for people with physical disabilities resulting in little to no genital sensation, or extreme difficulty in applying manual stimulation, along with anyone who struggles to experience orgasms partnered or through masturbation.

In addition to applications for the physically disabled or those struggling to experience their first climax, energy orgasms can be incredibly healing and helpful for sexual phobics and others who need to work through intimacy anxiety. The process of sexual meditative trance is designed to slow down the erotic experience, allowing you to first feel the body begin to power up towards orgasm, gaining strength as it increases in intensity, and then simply allowing the sensations to wash over you, your expressions of pleasure flowing freely and going on as long as your body needs.

Energy?

Erotic energy is difficult to measure and even more difficult to explain. Scientists don’t know much about the female orgasm and how it functions in the body and the brain. You may not know it when you see it, but many women are capable of hands-free orgasms. Some women experience climax from nipple stimulation or other kinds of non-genital touch alone, and some may even have had an orgasm simply from a very sexy story! Most of our understanding of these orgasms comes from Carrellas and her willingness to submit herself to MRI orgasm testing. What scientists have found is that the female body is capable of contracting and relaxing the pelvic muscles in such a way that the internal (and sometimes even external) clitoral tissue is squeezed and released. In other words, the clitoris is stimulated from the inside out, without the need for anyone else to be any the wiser!

If your lover has never had a hands-free orgasm before, don’t pressure her to experience something new just for you. Take the time to relax together and enjoy the feelings of erotic energy that you can pass between you. Breathe together, and touch each other slowly and purposefully. You may want to use specific words and phrases as you move through the phases of energy orgasm. This kind of repetitive wordplay can make it easier to experience this same kind of orgasm in the future, using the words as cues to the body. Breathe deeply together and relax into sensation. Let sensation become all there is, without stressful thoughts or worries, negative or overwhelming emotions. Allow only love and joy to rest in your hearts as you come together.

Now What?

You will find that energy orgasms happen when you don’t think about then too much or try too hard. The purpose of sexual energy exploration is to relax the body and the mind, allowing the energy to slide over your skin, through your flesh and move you to new depths of feeling, new heights of ecstasy and new breadths of experience.

The best way to experience an energy orgasm may actually be to… fake it! That’s right. I don’t advocate faking orgasm with your partner, especially when the reasons are to hide your own lack of pleasure, or make your partner feel better, or relieve some kind of pressure you feel to perform.

Instead, go into sex encouraging your wife to playact an orgasm. As she is going through the motions – moaning, squirming, arching her back, clenching her muscles, especially her pelvic floor muscles – continue to stimulate her in a way she finds enjoyable, without genital contact. Touch her breasts, kiss her neck, pinch her nipples, caress her thighs and belly… do whatever she loves the most. You may just find that “just pretend” becomes very real, sooner rather than later!

The meditative technique for this kind of trance work is not complicated and anyone willing to lower their boundaries and let go of themselves and their preconceptions about sex can learn. Remember, as with all the sexual skills, practice makes perfect.

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12 Comments

12 Comments

  1. life

    January 25, 2012 at 10:20 am

    Look Mom no hands

  2. marco

    January 26, 2012 at 5:51 pm

    hello,
    My special Gabrielle, sounds like feeling anything sensual tonight? The more you explain, the more…you make me…hum…

  3. michael

    January 26, 2012 at 10:30 pm

    My Friend, This is the greatest the ever. I have ben doing this for years. My wife could not beleave it when I gave her one of the best orgasms by just looking into her eyes.
    Keep it coming honey.

  4. lamsy fuck

    January 26, 2012 at 11:54 pm

    thank you my friend i am getting all what said and developed alot thank you

  5. pink helmet

    January 28, 2012 at 6:09 pm

    I am female. An have never orgasm in my life! I wud do anything to orgasm!! HELP?

  6. Srini

    January 30, 2012 at 1:48 am

    Really helpful info my frnd…

  7. Mancham

    February 4, 2012 at 10:29 am

    Wow moore t knew everything

  8. taurai

    June 13, 2012 at 7:02 am

    cool

  9. Tina

    June 20, 2012 at 1:19 am

    Men make the mistake of thinking that just because a woman enjoys sex she is fulfilled. The difference between the lamely acted eroticism of most porn and deeply fulfilling eroticism is much bigger than most men think. The touch of a hand can be more erotic than full on sex. But that means some kind of story going on between people; some kind of unfolding connection. Human beings are not like vending machines. You can’t sustain truly erotic sex for too long without being truly in tune with the uniqueness of another human being.

  10. nasser

    October 11, 2012 at 1:48 pm

    My way of thinking and attitude about sex life has changed a lot, after reading your articles and looking the pictures .My relationship has also improved so great, I strongly believe by following your wisdom step by step I can learn and improve my sex life perfectly.

  11. soulgirl

    January 15, 2013 at 10:18 am

    For many years (i am 54)i have been able to have an orgasm with tantric sex and omg it is amazing ,but i have never had 1 with a bloke ,xmas eve i was with a old male friend,known him 25 years ,he told me he had always fancied me ,that was a shock,we decided to go back to his place and just talk ,(yes right)We just sat and talked ,drank a couple of bottles of wine together AND ENJOYED EACH OTHERS COMPANY,,MMMMM,But he didnt know what my body was doing ,,,UNTIL i just sort of fell in a haep next to him,I HAD THE BIGGEST ORGASM EVER,he didnt even know ,,,,I TOLD HIM HOW I DID IT ,TO say the least he was very shorked,and wanted to know more ,,yes we went to bed and together we had the most amazing sex ever ,i showed him my tantric sex ,he gave my my first ever orgasm with a bloke,we combined the two ,me touching him,,he touching, stroking,blowing,kissing ,sucking ,nibbling ,everthing ,WE just had perfeck harmany together,we made love 4 times that night and OMG we will be doing it again ,hell yes ,,ps he is nearly 70years old ,and very very fit ,xx just enjoy xx

  12. Misty

    September 25, 2016 at 11:39 pm

    I am a woman that is 53 years old. I had my first orgasm when I was about 38 years old.And btw I did it for myself , no man had ever bothered to show me or help me with this. My own exploration found the spot that sets me off. Since that day, I have had more sexual partners and yes some of them did or had the ability to help me orgasm. Recently with my current partner, all he has to do is certain words, tone of voice, a certain look and I just start having orgasms with no hands touching, no toys, no outside intervention of any kind. It’s wondrous and amazing and the best orgasms I have ever experienced in my whole life.

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