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Are you hooked on porn?

“My reaction to porno films is as follows: After the first ten minutes, I want to go home and screw. After the first twenty minutes, I never want to screw again as long as I live.” – Erica Jong

Experts say that your seemingly harmless habit could wreak havoc on your sex life. Here, damage control. With so many countless free sites streaming smut to smartphone at 4G speed, it’s hard for a guy not to watch porn these days. But while some men are capable of using it in a non-destructive way (every once in a while or for a little inspiration during a solo session), watching too much can lead to problems in the bedroom.

As guys are exposed to virtual sex more and more, their desire for their partner may decrease. Read on to find out if porn is negatively affecting you and, if so, how to help yourself refocus on offline thrills.

1)    Too much of a new thing.

You’d think that seeing so many chicks over-enthusiastically giving a man oral onscreen would translate into a walking erection when you’re present with the real thing. But weirdly, experts say it doesn’t work like that. That’s because guys are turned on not only by the sex itself but also by the fact that they’re constantly seeing new people doing new stuff. When a man sees a woman naked for the first time or views a new sex act, his brain releases more of the pleasure hormone dopamine that when he’s checking out someone or something he’s seen before. Unfortunately, the more porn you watch, the more likely it is to lead to something scientists call arousal addiction – when sexual excitement is only possible if you feel you are somehow topping what you’ve been exposed to in the past. You can become so hooked on the novelty factor that it’s harder for you to get and maintain an erection when you’re looking at something familiar… like your partner, for example.

2)    A tricky topic.

If your equipment has been faltering lately and there is no other likely cause (illness or new meds, you are unusually stressed, your relationship is going through a rocky phase), porn could be the culprit. You may be suffering from arousal addiction, or an a physical level, frequent masturbation may have trained your penis to respond only to one type of manual stimulation. Guys often touch themselves using more friction and physical pressure than intercourse provides. If a man masturbates too often, normal sex can dampen his libido, make it harder for him to reach orgasm, even fail to satisfy him. Since you might not have realized that there’s a link between your eye-candy habit and your performance in the bedroom, this may come as an enlightenment. Indeed, porn may actually make you less horny. It’s really surprising how it can mess up with your mind.

3)    Revving up your reality.

Once you know about the boner-killing potential of porn, work on a solution together with your partner. Make a plan to amp up your sex lives as a duo. Cut back on the porn a bit, and in the meantime, brainstorm new moves to keep things fresh in your bedroom. Anything that surprises you visually will help – such as lingerie that looks nothing like what your partner usually wears or a sex position that gives you a completely unexpected view. Role-playing is another great way to add sexy novelty as you shake off some of the potential negative effects of porn, which could happen immediately or take as long as two weeks if you need to readapt to the friction and sensations of real sex. Getting back to a place where you are both completely stimulated and satisfied will take some work, but it will definitely be worth it.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. PornHub, the most popular adult-video site has an estimated number of 15 million monthly visitors. A bit high, don’t you think?

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11 Comments

11 Comments

  1. Jim Bean

    May 1, 2013 at 6:15 pm

    I think u have stumbled upon something very profound and should publish this a LOT, your absolutely correct imo, but in my own ” defense ” ( flame me if u like) but if i was getting @ home as much as we both deserve and want, i personally wouldnt be looking elsewhere would i ….

    thanks for the insight

  2. Steve Ward

    May 1, 2013 at 7:31 pm

    What i think is funny out of all this is either you have people saying “HEY, you should not be watching porn” to the other end of things “HEY you should not be have sex.”

    Then they wonder why men need sites like this in order to have better relations with women.

  3. Jon

    May 1, 2013 at 7:36 pm

    Hi Gabrielle,

    Seeing what happens in a porn video becomes a fantasy for many guys. Other than female porn stars, there are few women that would actually do all of the things that happen in a porn video. I think what happens is that a guy expects the fantasy to happen and then he becomes disappointed when it doesn’t happen like in a porn video. I’m not directing this comment completely at you Gabrielle, but it’s unrealistic for a guy to expect his wife or girlfriend to do things that paid actresses do in porn videos.

  4. kuntus

    May 1, 2013 at 7:36 pm

    Does too much mustarbation increase the size of the testis?? If it increases the size I mean makes it bigger insize then how can we bring it back to its normal size??

  5. Fr John S. Toon

    May 1, 2013 at 7:51 pm

    Very helpful-thank you..

  6. Ian Wallace

    May 1, 2013 at 8:55 pm

    Thanks very much indeed Gabrielle. I am a revolutionary socialist of 30 years standing. Which means that I want to change the world. Our chosen agent for changing the world is ‘the working class’. Ordinary people. It strikes me that your material fits in with this endeavour very closely.
    Absolutely brilliant. Change our sexual relations – and change the world.
    Ian

  7. kevin

    May 2, 2013 at 12:57 am

    Omg that is the first time i heard anyone hit it on the nail..porn has killed my marraige i would get off on new and exciting roles and different sex appitites and have big orgasms but when i got in bed with wife my erection was misssing in action even if it got hard it was soften up quick and i couldnt understand so to keep the excitement in bed i had to think of a scene and a hot chick body part to get off.my wife knew something wasnt right.it was sex and not love making.this article rocks.

  8. Marquis

    May 2, 2013 at 1:06 am

    What should virile man do when his female partner becomes a frozen fish in bed?
    My experience tells me that briging another man, younger and bigger for MFM, makes her more interested in sex for weeks. Her guilty feelings linger in her mind and she turns into cold fish again. Erotic movies and magazines are much better than celibacy to stay healthy. I know, I am 75 and can stay hard for an hour without Cialis, but cold and hateful wife could make man’s desire to go away for weeks.

  9. kevin

    May 2, 2013 at 4:45 am

    The sad thing is the partner in the relationship will suffer ‘no matter how sexy she gets for her husband and do roleplays it will still lose to porn. Men seeks new women and more erotic than what his wife would dare not do. And he has all races to chose from wife cant compete.porn is a leathel lust..

    T

  10. Eros

    May 2, 2013 at 3:23 pm

    One of the best and realistic pieces of advice I read on this site. Men take note

  11. Daniel

    May 15, 2015 at 12:28 am

    Gabriel will you tell me why women refuse their husbands? I think they derive a sense of conquest from it so what is a man to do.???????

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