“The power of love to change bodies is legendary, built into folklore, common sense, and everyday experience. Love moves the flesh, it pushes matter around…. Throughout history, ‘tender loving care’ has uniformly been recognized as a valuable element in healing.”
- Larry Dossey
The science of love is a strange discipline; rife with misinformation and hype, but people the world round have been seeking knowledge and wisdom in this field for thousands of years, perhaps since the dawn of mankind.
Every field of scientific study has taken a stab at understanding what makes our hearts tick and our loins enflamed. Have you ever taken the time to wonder about the forces behind your love and lust?
Alchemy has long been seen as a pseudoscience, but even the modern day chemists have now taken the quantum leap and admitted that we owe much of our interest and scientific theory to early alchemists, even if we are to believe that what they wanted was to turn lead into gold.
Another claim of historical alchemists is that they desired to find the secret to eternal life. Well, does that differ much from modern day scientists, really? The truth about alchemists is that what they ultimately sought was a way to turn that which seemed useless or nonfunctioning into something worthwhile. Wouldn’t you like to do the same for your relationship?
Alchemists, like their Buddhist and Hindu predecessors, saw the world as made up of inherently opposing forces, the union of the masculine and feminine being the ultimate chemical reaction. So, what exactly is going on in our body chemistry when male and female come together?
The chemistry of love can be broken down into three different stages over many years. Of course, not every relationship makes it to the final stage, but if you are here reading this, it’s safe to say that you probably have!
Stage one is lust, that physical pull that makes a man’s head turn and a woman’s body gyrate on the dance floor. The major sex hormones estrogen and testosterone are ultimately responsible for this dance, the push and pull that drive us to seek out sexual partners. Of course, these chemicals aren’t particularly discerning. Pretty much any hottie will do if the getting is good and the consequences are low. What happens when that first head-turn becomes a crush?
Attraction is the next stage of chemical love. Sometimes called New Relationship Energy or NRE, lack of appetite and trouble sleeping is characteristic of this kind of love. The chemicals responsible for this buzz are the pheromones dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin which act as uppers to stimulate the brain and make everything more exciting! This happy-go-lucky love might only last a few months, but can take several years to wear off. So what happens when it finally fades?
Attachment is the final stage of love. When all the crazy-making chemicals finally finish production, you are left with oxytocin and vasopressin. These particular chemicals are different than in the previous two stages of love. Why, you ask?
They are unique because you don’t make them automatically just because you happen to be in a relationship, or because you might want to have sex sometime in the next few weeks. Nope, like some kind of silly physiological joke, in order to produce the chemicals that make you want to get close to your sweetie and cuddle up tight… you have to get close to your sweetie and cuddle up tight. Yes, that’s right. These are the same little molecules that help mothers bond with their babies and avoid post-partum depression, the same little things that cause an infant to feel the force of love for its mother when it first latches on to a breast. They can turn a light caress into an afternoon quickie and a midnight cuddle into an early morning romp! So what’s the moral of the story here? If sex is what you want, start slow and try holding her hand!
Forces of Physics
For thousands of years, humans have been searching for the key to perfect sexual union. The answer of course is that there’s no such thing, at least not universally. Lucky for us, our ancient Hindu friends have done much of the work for us in this field, mapping out every possible combination of body type, libido, foreplay technique, sexual positions and techniques for truly ecstatic union. Whether you are having trouble just getting to the point of sex in your relationship right now, or your sex is amazing and you just want to make it last even longer, now is the time to take up the tantric arts and become a master of your own sexual destiny. Take a deep breath, clear your mind and get ready for an erotic adventure you won’t soon forget!