If you are particularly well endowed, or your lover has an especially shallow vaginal canal, you may already have experience with the variety of sensations that the cervix is capable of producing.
The cervix is the small sphincter-like opening at the deep end of the vaginal canal, acting both as a barrier and passageway to the uterus. At different stages of your wife’s menstrual cycle, her cervix can be hard and painful to touch, or soft and quite receptive. Some women may never enjoy the sensation of cervical stimulation, but for others it can be an instant orgasm hot-button! Wouldn’t you like to find out which?
Keep in mind that penetrating the cervix would not only be incredibly painful, but also incredibly dangerous. The tiny opening found there is designed to let semen in and blood out, and that’s about it. Any kind of bacteria or other material forced through the opening can cause great damage – in fact, this is why health professionals discourage any kind of penetrative “thrusting” sex in the pool or the bath, because chlorinated water can be awfully painful and damaging to the interior of the uterus. Women who have previously given birth are likely to have a slightly larger cervical opening, so even greater care is needed.
In any kind of cervical play, take it slow and play safe!
The cervix has three main properties which change throughout the cycle – size, texture, and wetness. The condition of the cervix not only predicts ovulation and other important aspects of her monthly cycle, but can tell you whether or not she will enjoy deep penetration which might come into contact with the tiny opening.
Hard Knocks and Closed Doors
At the beginning and very end of her menstrual cycle, the cervix will be mostly closed (opening only slightly during menstruation to allow for her flow). The texture of the cervix will be hard and in the absence of menstrual fluid, dry. In the first 10-14 days after the onset of menstruation, and the last 7-10 of an average 28 day cycle, it is likely that contact with the cervix will result in painful sex.
If you find that you are hitting her cervix every time you engage in intercourse, be sure you are engaging in enough foreplay. As a woman gets aroused, even in the early stages of her cycle, the vaginal canal will deepen and give you more room for thrusting. If she is still shallower than you need, putting her in a position on top will allow her more depth control.
Women who are taking hormonal birth control are likely to find themselves in a semi-permanent state of cervical rigidity, meaning that it is unlikely she will be able to experience pleasure from cervix stimulation. If this is the case, and your size is causing her pain because of it, you may want to consider alternative forms of contraception that don’t have the same hormonal effects, like Fertility Awareness or an intra-uterine device. These options are particularly helpful if low libido is also an issue, since her natural ovulatory cycle encourages an increase in stimulating sex hormones.
Soften Up and Open Sesame!
When you make it to her sweet spot, a few days to a week between her 10th and 20th day, you will notice the cervix begin to soften. The small opening begins to widen slightly. Cervical mucus is produced by the body, making the vagina and uterus a habitable pH level receptive to sperm. This process not only prepares her body for conception, but can also make it not just less painful but incredibly erotic to enjoy light cervical stimulation.
Try going in with your fingers. Pushing her legs up and back toward her head will help to shorter her vaginal canal, so you can reach. Be very gentle. You may find that while direct stimulation of the cervical opening still feels strange or even painful, there is likely to be a spot to the side of the cervix which can produce almost immediate orgasm. This isn’t the case for all women, but it is worth the search!
Slowly circle the edge of the cervical opening, moving outwards towards the vaginal walls. The cervix is likely to move to one side, and in the area left exposed you will find an incredibly sensitive spot just waiting for your careful, gentle stimulation. Don’t thrust or push, but use very small strokes. Couple this stimulation with oral or other clitoral touch and you can have her shooting through the roof… and in the very best way possible!