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The Top Eight Women’s Secret Erotic Fantasies

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The Top Eight Women’s Secret Erotic Fantasies

Hey Lover!

Ah, secret sexual fantasies! Wouldn’t you just love to know what goes on inside her head? Well, read on and you may get a few ideas.

It is obvious with bestsellers like “Fifty Shades of Grey” that women do have fantasies and want to at least read about them, if not fulfill them. Years before “Fifty Shades”, Nancy Friday wrote a few books called “My Secret Garden” and “Forbidden Fruit” where she interviewed hundreds of women, and compiled the top sexual fantasies that women thought about in secret.

Here are eight of women’s top fantasies to give you an idea of what she may fantasize about and also some role-playing fantasies you may want to try together.

1. The Faceless Stranger

Ah, the faceless stranger. No need to define him, he is the epitome of every hot, sexy man she has ever crushed on. He is the stranger in the night who sweeps her off her feet, romances her like a Prince and then devours her like a beast. The anonymity of this fantasy reduces the relationship to a “purely physical one” says Friday, “[While] it heightens romance and adds drama; it increases pleasure and eliminates guilt, fantasy’s enemy.” No strings attached, no worries about ever meeting in person, your imagination is the only limit and almost anything could happen.

Try this: For a romantic fantasy, be her masked and mysterious lover some night and sweep her off her feet, like Cyrano de Bergerac, wooing the beautiful Roxane.

2. Surrender of Control

This is a “being taken” control of fantasy. In it, the “victim” can surrender control to her captor and become an object of desire. She doesn’t have to tell him her unspoken desires. She doesn’t need to break taboos and become the “bad” girl, for she is not responsible for her actions and therefore can be relieved of any sexual guilt. If she is held down or tied up, she is not in control of what happens to her. So she still remains a “good girl” even during the naughtiest of sex. Socially women are taught not to be promiscuous, so “rape” fantasies allow them to not be responsible for their sexual desires, and therefore they can fantasize about hot sex guilt free.

Try this: Pretend to capture her like a pirate and she is your hostage. Tie her up and do all the naughty things to her she secretly desires.

3 & 4. Dominance and Submission

Being submissive in one form or another was the biggest fantasy in Friday’s books for women. Whether it was a “surrender of control”, a rape fantasy, or being a sex slave like Anastasia in “Fifty Shades”, women still want to be in the role where the man is in control, at least in the bedroom.

“My Secret Garden” was written twenty five years ago. Since then women have supposedly won their liberation, so you would think women would desire to play more dominant roles. However, Friday says that is exactly the reason why women want to be dominated in bed: “[T]he new reality of being man’s equal makes them unconsciously nervous about their identity as women, and so throws them back into longing for the traditional, safe, and “known” role…”

Try this: This is your time to take control in the bedroom. Tell her what to do and if she fails, punish her erotically. A great scenario for this is the naughty secretary who comes to an interview with the stern, dominant boss.

5 & 6. Voyeurism and Exhibitionism

Women’s fantasies of watching or being watched take many forms. Sometimes they are on display, undressing in front of a window while a Peeping Tom ravishes them with his eyes. Or, maybe they are performing sexually on a stage while an appreciative audience applauds, designating them to pure objects of desire.

Try this: Sit in a chair in a dark corner of the room, so just your silhouette is visible and get her to masturbate under a bright lamp. She will know you are there, but because she can barely see you, this will help loosen her inhibitions. Knowing you are watching her will make her HOT!

7. Spanking

Both men and women have spanking fantasies. While some enjoy it for the sake of the pain itself, many enjoy the fantasy because of the humiliation aspect it brings. Like being a naughty impertinent girl and getting her just rewards from her lover as he throws her over his knee and bares her bottom. Or, the school girl who is caned by the Head Master at school for some undeserved infraction. Spanking fantasies have become so popular that many couples enjoy this type of role playing together as a sexual pastime.

Try this: This fantasy could go together with any of the submissive fantasies above. Spanking should be fun, playful and arousing. Find out her limits (pain tolerance) and don’t go beyond that. Make sure to interrupt the spanking often with softer caresses and kneading.

8. Lesbian Sex and Threesomes

To have fantasies of being with another woman doesn’t necessarily make a woman a lesbian or bisexual. Many “straight” women enjoy these fantasies. The allure of being with the opposite sex is undeniable: the desire of touching soft flesh so similar to their own, or the taboo aspect of it. Or, having sex with you and another woman could be a big turn on for her.

Try this: You may not have the opportunity to have a lesbian drop over to have sex with your partner. And, you and she may not even want this in reality. There are lots of hot sexy lesbian adult films (or 3-somes), however, that you could watch together, to get the imagination flowing. Then, talk dirty while you have sex, telling her what the “other” girl is doing to her.

Do All Women Fantasize Sexually?

From Nancy Friday’s research, we can assume that all women do have fantasies in some form or another. Sometimes a woman’s fantasy is something she will want to keep secret and never want to try in real life. However, with Fifty Shades’ popularity, women are now giving themselves permission to explore their fantasies more and more.

So, while I don’t encourage you to jump her in a dark alley, I do invite you to talk to her about her sexual fantasies.

Maybe you will both find something interesting to explore together!

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  1. Sumissive one

    July 24, 2015 at 2:04 am

    I am an older male that has been through sex for 50+ years. To be told to go get the various spanking tools and to bend over or lie on the bed and get spanked adds a new twist to a normal routine.
    Just the threat of getting my balls beat is scary and sexy at the same time. I have had my ball spanked very lightly and It is an experience that is semi painful, yet erotic too .I only have sex with the female gender.

  2. Kuma69

    April 29, 2016 at 7:04 pm

    Being a Straight Male, Nothing Turns Me One Than Watching Two Women Making Love To Each other Slowly and Ever So Sensually, Licking Each Other To Ecstasy and Then Using a Strap On and Hearing Them Moan Loudly and Cum Hard and Sometimes Squirt Mmmmm Pure Nirvana

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