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How To Masturbate Your Way To Being A Better Lover

You probably never imagined that masturbating could somehow make you a better lover. Usually when we imagine a guy masturbating, we’re not picturing a skilled sex-smith honing his technique, but why not? If done in the right way, masturbating can be a great way to improve your skills in the bedroom. Here’s how…

  • Practice lasting longer on your own – When they are masturbating most guys aren’t thinking about lasting longer, they’re thinking about getting off, relieving tension, that hot girl from work… the list goes on and on. But one thing most guys don’t think about is training themselves to last longer when they’re masturbating. It’s too bad because this is a great time to hone your skills without the distraction of a partner there. One method to try is bringing yourself to the point of orgasm and then slowing way down or stopping completely in order to prevent cumming. Once you feel the need to orgasm pass, you can begin to touch yourself again. You can bring yourself to the point of orgasm as many times as you want, each time getting to know your body and its reactions even better and training yourself to be able to stop yourself from cumming even when you’re really turned on.
  • Masturbate slowly and observe your body – Another thing men generally don’t do when they’re masturbating is take the time to observe the changes that are happening in their body as they touch themselves. However if you’re interested in using masturbation as a tool for being a better lover, this is an important strategy to use. Try rating your arousal as you masturbate, 1 being not at all aroused and 10 being orgasm. In the beginning you probably won’t be able to tell the difference between a 3 and a 4, but as time goes by and you pay close attention to your body and its responses you will be able to notice the little changes that happen as you get more and more turned on. This will allow you to know your body better when you’re with your partner and be able to more easily control your own arousal if she needs more time to orgasm than you do.
  • The Squeeze Method – This is a common method used by men who suffer from premature ejaculation, but other men who are just interested in last longer in bed also use it to control their ejaculation. It can be used during sex but it’s best to perfect its use during masturbation before trying to use it with your partner. When you feel like you are reaching the point of no return (this is the point where you feel like ejaculation is inevitable), you will squeeze either the tip or the base of your penis with your thumb and forefinger. The idea is that you squeeze shut your urethra, which is the tube where urine and semen travel through the penis. Done correctly squeezing at this key moment will temporarily stop blood flow to the penis and delay orgasm. Once you feel the need to cum has passed you can start masturbating again. It might take some time to be able to train yourself to do the squeeze method effectively, so don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t work for you right away. Remember, you’re training yourself to control your orgasm better and you have to learn to walk before you can run.

Although you have probably never used masturbation for anything more than pleasuring yourself and relieving a bit of stress and tension, done in the right way masturbation can be a useful tool for getting to know your body a lot better. Once you know your body and its reactions, you will be able to be in better control when you’re with your partner in bed.

Have fun!

Gabrielle Moore

  1. Leave me a comment and let me know if you have ever used masturbation as a way to get to know your body better and let me know what technique you used.

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