Pick up any steamy novel and you’ll find the same time-honored scenario: He drops his pants, and she drops her jaw. He’s long, hard, impressive… heck, he’s huge. And while many real-life women also admit to loving the sensation of a large, full penis, the chances of that happening on a regular basis aren’t nearly as great as chick lit – and porn flicks – would make one think.
So what’s a guy to do if he’s a little, or even a lot, smaller than he’d like? I’m happy to report that smaller-than-average men can serve up plenty of pleasure in bed with a few subtle tricks and techniques. So here are the goods on what’s true and what’s not about penis size… and even hotter goods on how to make the most of whatever you’re packing.
What’s “normal” down there…
The truth is, most penises are a little longer than 5 inches when erect. Not sure what that looks like? Take out a dollar bill from your wallet. It’s 6 inches long, meaning the majority of men are slightly shorter than a dollar. This is a crucial dose of reality since many men label themselves as small when they’re really not. Only 15% of men are longer than 7 inches, and just 3% surpass 8 inches.
… And what’s not
That said, it is physically possible for a guy to be pretty damn small. Two to three percent of men have a microphallus, a penis under 3 inches long and 1 inch wide when erect. Dimensions like these are less able to give a woman the friction she needs and can make sex a challenge. But this condition is rare, and the majority of guys who think they are small are perfectly normal and capable of pleasuring any woman out there. One important reason why: The most sexually sensitive part of a woman’s vagina is the first 3 inches, and it is penis width – not length – that creates satisfying friction and fullness there. And because there’s less variation among penis width than length, a 4 inch penis will likely create as much sensation as a longer one.
Sex moves that max your dimension
Any penis, of any size, can hit a woman’s sensitive spots if you employ a couple of simple tweaks and tricks. First, make sure she keeps her legs close together during sex. No matter what position you’re in, this will create a tighter fit and provide more stimulation at the entrance of the vagina, where the most nerves are. Bringing her legs close is particularly helpful if your penis is on the skinny side since it narrows the point of entry.
Another trick that works specifically for missionary: Place a pillow under her hips before you enter her, propping her pelvis upward. This tilts her vagina so you can penetrate her more deeply. If you don’t have a pillow in reach, put her legs on your shoulders. You’ll be able to go deeper and feel bigger, and there can be more clitoral contact.
Spoon-style sex – lying side by side with you entering her from behind, your arms wrapped around her – is also a great position. It brings your bodies superclose, restricting how much you can thrust in and out. You will seem larger since she will be able to feel more of your penis inside her. Plus, you will have easy access to her clitoris, so you can use your hands to intensify her sensations.
Ways to take the edge off
The stronger your erection, the bigger you will feel when you’re inside her. But if you worry about disappointing your partner in bed, you will stress out as things heat up. And that makes it difficult for you to get completely hard. So try and loosen up a bit. You can have a pre-sex cocktail or two – a modest dose of alcohol can relax the arteries that bring blood to the penis, helping you reach maximum hardness. Just don’t overdo it. Having three or more drinks can make you go limp.
If you’re still tense before hooking up, this can cause your muscles to tighten and your penis to curl up close to your body. It’s similar to the shrinkage that happens when you get in a cold swimming pool. Prevent this by asking your partner to give you a sensual inner thigh massage during foreplay. When she trails her fingers along each thigh and up to your cut-lines and back again, deeply massaging around your package in small circles, you will get so horny and turned on you’ll forget about any prior insecurities. Even if you don’t think you’re nervous, spending extra time on foreplay will increase blood flow to your penis, which will make your erection stronger and feel bigger when you enter her.