One of the best pieces of advice that I can give to a man who is just learning how to pleasure a woman is that a penis is not a finger is not a tongue – in other words, your technique is determined by your tool. Your tongue is unique in many ways which make it ideal for giving pleasure, so understanding its anatomy and the physical process of taste and touch with the tongue will take you a long way in perfecting even the most practiced technique.
The tongue is one of the body’s most powerful muscles and unique in its anatomy, and as part of the mouth makes of an incredibly versatile sexual organ. The lips and tongue swell with blood and become flush with heat as the body is aroused by sexual desire. This engorging makes the mouth very sensitive, allowing your lips to kiss with great care, your tongue to lick and probe with a precision of which your fingers can only dream.
While some innuendo suggests that a long tongue is somehow a magical orgasm tool, the same way the large penis is lauded as the be all and end all of sexual pleasure, and the rumor is just as false. Your tongue isn’t even meant for inserting! Why would size matter?
The best kind of oral sex pleasure is received during full face contact with the clitoris and surrounding labia. The length of this particular love muscles is irrelevant, but the strength of it is another story all together! If you have never had a cramp in your face during oral sex, you are either very fit (and married to a very lucky woman) or you haven’t been trying hard enough.
The best practice for building up those oral sex muscles is…. oral sex! Of course, you probably don’t have time in your day for an hour long oral sex session each lunch hour. But if you could be exercising your tongue while sitting in the office thinking about going down on her, you will have worked up some strength and some stamina by the time you arrive home. Work at your tongue muscles with a few of these simple exercises to strengthen and tone, loosen and relax to improve your overall technique.
- Start every exercise session or oral sex with some quick relaxation, simply tensing and releasing all of the muscles in the head, neck, jaw and shoulders. Allow your mouth to hang open and your tongue to loll out lightly. Gently pull your tongue in then let it fall back out of your mouth without tensing our pointing the tip.
- Press your tongue up to the roof of your mouth, just behind your front teeth, then open your jaw as wide as possible, keeping your tongue pressed against the alveolar ridge. Hold for 3 to 5 seconds, or as long as possible, then release and repeat. When you have mastered this move, try running the tip of your tongue along the seam that runs across the top of the mouth from front to back, first with your mouth closed, then again with your mouth open wide.
- Practice curling the tip of your tongue under, up to the roof of your mouth, in toward the middle to make a tube, stretching it up to touch your nose and reaching as far as you can in every direction. These are best practiced in private!
- Point your tongue out in a flexed motion, stretching as far as you can, and wag it up and down as fast and for as long as you can. Rest and repeat. When you have mastered wagging up and down, try for side to side. After this, practice pointing and flexing your tongue while turning it in circles, first clockwise, then counter clockwise. Finally, try each of the moves – up and down, side to side, clockwise, counter clockwise – over again as you stretch your pointed tongue up towards your nose.
- Use a small spoon as resistance to push against your tongue – up, down and from side to side – as it sticks out, flexed.
- Hold a ballpoint pen between your lips with the spring-loaded button inside your mouth. Point your tongue and use it to press the button in, pushing the pen out. Repeat, snapping the pen back in. Do this as many times as you can, as quickly as possible.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S.: My darling, oral can become your biggest asset if you learn how to master the right techniques. To become the absolute King, check-out my program on the matter – Oral Rapture!
