“I know nothing at all about oral sex. I broke up both my own marriages over it”- Marion Zimmer Bradley
You’d think that going down is easy as pie, but if you ask most women, they’d most probably beg to differ. The degree of dissatisfaction is enormous when it comes to good cunnilingus, but many women prefer to leave it as such, and not school their respective boyfriends on the matter.
If you’re here, reading this article, it means you don’t like what you’ve learned above and you want to make things better both for your girlfriend’s pleasure and your own. Find bellow the lowdown on… going down!
Step 1. Set the scene
The ideal way to create the right mood is to let your partner know, by phone, email, flying pigeon, that you’ll be giving her a very special treat when you see her. Talk about solid arousal!
Step 2. Get in her panties
Once you’re both in the same room, start with some teasing titillation. Bite gently through her panties. Once you feel she’s getting wet, pull them down with your teeth. While you are doing that, tease her lady parts manually for a while before removing the panties completely.
Step 3. Seeing is relieving
Women love being able to see what you are doing to them. Give her a double view by positioning yourself in front of a mirror. And remember to stop from time to time from what you’re doing to smile, hug and kiss her. The emotional connection is the strongest arousal tool.
Step 4. Tease to please
Good oral sex can be divided into two main parts- teasing and attacking. Before the “attack”, use your mouth, hands and hair to peak her stimulation. Here are two work-every-time techniques:
The hair flare. Turn your head around and let your hair stroke gently against her labia and clitoris. The feeling is truly amazing!
The skin flute. Brush your lips up and down her vulva. Then run the tip of your tongue to the most sensitive part- the clitoris.
Step 5. Tingle all the way
Now it’s time to gently approach her labia majora and minora with one hand. She might be ticklish at first, but as she gets more turned on, she should warm to your touch. Start by cupping her labia and if she enjoys that, try giving them a gentle squeeze. If she’s a fan, bring your mouth into play; try taking a labia into your mouth and gently sucking it. The sensation is thrilling!
Step 6. Down to business
You’ve gotta know when to move on. There’s tantalizing, and then there’s annoying. So to give her what she wants, position yourself so that you’re sitting comfortably, and go slow and as long as she needs you too. Some women orgasm quicker, others need more time. Don’t judge her for that. Start licking the surrounding area, as slow as you can, and speed things up according to her liking. She’ll soon start moving with your tongue, to let you know how exactly she wants you to continue. Take her lead.
Step 7. The pleasure zone
The perineum is the tissue surrounding her urethra, around the exterior of her vagina and extending to her rectum, and feels intensely good when stimulated. While you’re kissing her vagina, take your index and middle fingers together and apply pressure in that area using a firm, comforting, circular motion.
Step 8. Come and go
Experts disagree here. Some warn that disrupting the speed of things might mean setting yourself back five minutes, while others, however, say that women crave anxiety, and I tend to give justice to the latter. Just because you’ve stuck your tongue inside her vagina doesn’t mean you have to stay there. I recommend you return to the skin flute exercise or flicking your tongue around her inner thighs. If she seems close to orgasm, and you want her to finish, focus on the clitoris. She’ll race to the O-zone in no time.
Have a gorgeous week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. Start exercising today! She’ll be more than thankful to see you so eager to learn how to please her better.
For more naughty secrets and tips and tricks on how to make cunnilingus sessions as hot as possible, check out my program on the subject – Oral Rapture.
