Gentlemen, are you one of the many, MANY men out there who has questions about performing oral sex on a woman? If so, you are certainly not alone. Questions about giving a woman oral pleasure are as common as stars in the sky. What do they like? What do they not like? How do I do it? The questions go on and on. The smart men know how to look for the answers and finding your way here is a good start.
Is Everyone Doing It?
The truth is, oral sex is one of the most common sexual behaviors. However, for some reason, a lot of men lack confidence when it comes to working below the female equator with anything but their penis. Oral sex can be particularly nerve racking for some men. But why? Come on guys, giving a woman pleasure through oral sex is not as difficult as you may think it is! No need to shy away from it.
The Heart of the Matter
Women love oral sex. Not only does it show them that their partner is accepting of their body and willing to give them pleasure, it feels wonderful! More women climax through oral sex than intercourse. So many women are taught that their bodies, especially their genitals, are dirty and something to be ashamed of. They worry about how they look, feel, taste and smell. When a man goes down on a woman, she often sees it as a bigger act of intimacy than intercourse. She can feel especially vulnerable as the focus of pleasure is all on her at that moment and many women are not comfortable in this role. Part of your job is to make her comfortable so she can enjoy the pleasure you want to give her.
Finding Your Way Around
By far, one of the most important things you can do to increase your oral sex skills is to get to know your woman’s anatomy. When you are trying to make her crazy with pleasure pause a moment and take a good look down there. Find her clitoral hood. As you stimulate her, it retracts and the clitoris comes out and gets erect. Get to know her entire genital area, her labia, vagina and anus included. Knowing what you are working with is a must if you are going to have any ability to give her pleasure. Going in blind only makes things more difficult.
Slow, Slower and Slowest
First, start slowly. No need to dive right in. Let her anticipation and arousal grow. Slowly undress her and have her lay on her back. Kiss your way ever so slowly down from her lips to her neck, then her breasts and tummy until you get to her genitals. Kiss the inside of her thighs while using your finger to lightly stimulate her clitoris. Then head back up to her lips. Repeat this trail of pleasure as many times as you like, or rather as she likes.
A Compromising Position
Second, remember the importance of positioning. Make good use of the pillows on the bed and put a couple under her hips to elevate her pelvis. This gives you easier access to her sweet spots and you won’t have to feel like you are sheet diving when trying to reach important areas.
A Warm Wind Blows
Third, think about different ways to give sensations to her clitoris. Try gently blowing warm air on her clitoris while you are kissing inside her thighs and getting her excited. Not necessarily directly on her clitoris but maybe in small circles around it and on the insides of her thighs.
Wet your Whistle
Performing oral sex on someone while you have dry mouth is setting yourself up for an epic fail. Not only does it make it hard for you but it feels terrible for her. A dry tongue feels like sandpaper against a clitoris. Make sure you are hydrated. Take a drink of water or suck on some hard candy to keep the juices in your mouth flowing so you can keep the juices between her legs flowing.
With some effort on your part to make her pleasure a priority, there is no reason why your oral sex skills cannot increase tenfold. Remember that diversity is the spice of life so do not be afraid to mix it up and try something new. If it doesn’t go as planned the first time, keep trying. She will appreciate your effort and know you really care about her pleasure.
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
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