Do you remember the last time you went down on your lover? What was it like? Did you kiss your way down her body, did you kneel between her feet, did you pin her down 69, or did you come at her in doggie style from underneath? Oral sex doesn’t have to involve her lying on her back, you propped up on your elbows with her knees clamped around your ears. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course, but it might get a bit bland. If your lover is having a hard time experiencing orgasm with your oral skills, it might not be your tongue or her clit, but the rest of your bodies that pose the problem!
The way you move in relation to your lover, the attitude you possess, the shapes your body makes, the positions you choose… all of these things are incredibly important aspects of not just turning her on, but making any sexual experience arousing and fulfilling. While there are certainly a number of different “styles” and ways to categorize lovemaking moves, today we’re going to focus specifically on two styles that your wife might find enjoyable. Get a feel for how these work, then think about coming up with a few of your own.
The Shy Sweetheart
Someone who is shy about enjoying oral sex might not be inclined to suggest it as a regular activity, though that doesn’t mean she hasn’t brought it up in conversation before – she’s just less likely to find it arousing in the heat of the moment when tasked with coming up with something to do. In other words, if you want to go down on her, you should express it as something that you desire to experience. She’s probably most comfortable in a standard position lying on her back with her knees spread and you on your elbows between them, but there is no reason for you to suffocate under the covers… coax her out from under there so you can see her beautiful face!
With a bit of encouragement, she might thoroughly enjoy being licked from behind while she’s down on all fours, but trying to lift her up on top of you might be a bit of a stretch right away. Let her get comfortable with the pleasure before she’s forced to face any discomfort she may have about her body. If she is especially shy about it, you may find she begins to pull away instinctively when she nears orgasm. She may not even be doing it consciously. Discuss it with her beforehand and tell her that you want to keep going beyond that point. Employ a safe word if desired, and when the time comes, hold on to her thighs tightly and when she starts to spasm and pull away, keep going! If she is seeking multiple orgasms, this is a great way to find them!
The Show Off
If you are very lucky, there may be a woman in your life who really wants to be seen. Burying yourself between her legs while she tries to prop herself up for a good view could get boring pretty quick for her. You can surprise her by getting underneath her in doggy style and using your tongue to change up the stimulation (and give yourself a break, if you need it). Bonus: you can still use both of your hands very effectively in this position and she has the option to take complete control!
You can penetrate her vaginally or anally for the more adventurous, just be sure not to mix up which hand is for which, and use lube. If she enjoys a bit of a spank now and then, you can give her a swat or a few. You could even keep one hand free to pleasure yourself and still have your mouth and five fingers to keep her busy.
If she’s feeling extra showy, she can raise herself up and ride your face, giving you a great view. Even heavier women can thoroughly enjoy this with their partners, but make sure you figure out a hand signal to let her know you’re coming up for air. She’ll love the ability to look you right in the eye when you take her over the edge. If you don’t mind sacrificing the view, she can also turn around and start pleasuring you in any number of ways!
Hot kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
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