For most people, oral sex is already amazing enough without even working on improving it, but for those of us out there who are always striving to make a good thing even better, I bring you tips on how to make oral even better than it already is…
To be honest, oral is always amazing for everyone. Some people aren’t very good at giving oral and some don’t like it as much as others. However, if you follow these tips, you’ll be guaranteed to make oral something your partner REALLY loves.
1. Find a comfortable position – If your partner is uncomfortable in some way, it’s going to make it harder for her to cum. Since you want to maximize her experience, make sure she is in a comfortable position, that she is not cold or self-conscious. It’s also important that YOU are comfortable, since you might be down there for a while 🙂
2. Ask her what she likes – Don’t be afraid to get some direction from her when you’re down there. Speed, pressure, movements she likes, parts that she wants you to touch or avoid are all important things to know. The more intel you get on what she likes, the better her experience will be.
3. Genuinely enjoy yourself – Oral is all about giving your partner pleasure. For some women, it can be uncomfortable to just receive and not give. She might feel self-conscious about taking too long or how she looks. Let her know that you’re down there for as long as it takes and you love doing it and she is sure to relax and enjoy herself even more.
4. Learn how to breathe correctly – Some guys get breathless when they’re down there for too long. Try breathing in through your mouth and exhaling out through your nose in order to be able to go down on her for as long as it takes, without needing to come up for air.
5. Keep your jaw loose and open and give your tongue a break if necessary – If you really start to get tired, try changing the stimulation you’re doing. Maybe switch from using your tongue to giving her very soft, wet kisses and wrapping your lips around her clit. If you really need a break, you can switch momentarily to using your fingers, although she will be able to tell the difference! Keep in mind, if she’s close to cumming, don’t change anything up or you risk her losing her orgasm. See video demonstration.
6. Consider using flavored lube – Some guys don’t like the taste when they go down on their partner. In those cases, a flavored lube can add a more pleasant taste and it will also help to add more lubrication, which is always a welcomed plus!
7. Keep a good rhythm going – Once you are doing something she really loves, don’t change things up. A lot of women don’t need a million fancy moves. Once you’ve found something that is working for her, she’ll want you to just keep up a good rhythm until she gets there.
8. Don’t rush it – It generally takes women a long time to cum, so take things slow. Rushing won’t make her cum faster, it will just make her feel rushed, which might even make it harder for her to cum!
9. Try fingering her at the same time – You usually only need to try using just one finger while you’re going down on her. This extra stimulation often feels really incredible paired with the sensations of your tongue on her clitoris.
10. Don’t be afraid to touch her in other areas – Some women love to have their legs cradled in a man’s arms when he is going down on her or her wrists gently pinned to the bed. This gives her the feeling that you don’t want her to go anywhere and you’re dying to keep her right there straddling your face.
11. Use code – For those of you who aren’t totally comfortable talking about sex with your partners, you can come up with a code to communicate what she likes. For example, ask her to squeeze your hand or tap your shoulder if you’re doing something that she really likes. You can also come up with code for if she DOESN’T like something.
12. Change up how you use your tongue – Pointy, hard, flat, soft, wide, skinny – The tongue is an incredible muscle and can be used in so many different ways. Try out different things and see what your partner responds best to. There isn’t one, single trick that is going to work for every woman out there, so you have to see what really works for your partner.
Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
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