“We treat sex so casually and use it for everything but what it is – which is ultimately making another human being with thoughts and feelings and rights.” – Lisa Kudrow
Yeah, it’s liberating to complain to her that you’re so bloated and in general just let it all hang out (even peeing with the door open). But the key to getting her to worship you is… revealing less.
When you were first seeing each other, you might have dimmed the lights before undressing and probably always shut the bathroom door. Now? You might not think twice about letting her see you in your filled-with-holes boxers. But while being uninhibited during sex definitely boosts pleasure, putting it all out there during everyday moments can screw with your sexual chemistry.
French men approach seduction differently than other people do. They believe that keeping some things under wraps adds an element of enticement to interactions with a woman. And I think you should master this manly mystique as well.
Less is way more
French men limit what they expose to their women, and that drives up lust – for example, if your partner sees your man parts all the time, eventually she’ll become desensitized and stop fantasizing about ripping off your clothes to get a peek. Most French men keep an eye of mystery about themselves, even if they’ve been with someone for a long time. So wrap yourself in a towel post-shower and hang your just-worn boxers in your closet instead of on the doorknob where she’ll see them. You want your partner to associate boxers with your hot body – seeing it as laundry takes away the allure.
Another part of maintaining mystery if holding back a bit during conversations. While it’s hot to occasionally send a salacious text (“I want my penis inside you”), it’s often more exciting to be coy. French men are playful in conversations. Send a text to get your partner thinking in a risqué way without being overtly sexual (try a photo of the edge of your bare hip with the message “Just a preview”). That draws out anticipation and makes her crave you intensely.
Don’t forget the naughty details
People tend to save sexy extras like nice lingerie and perfume for special occasions. In contrast, the French incorporate those things into their daily lives – they spend an estimated 20 percent of their income on sexy stuff. And that keeps desire simmering. When you buy your partner hot undies that make her feel sexier and act more seductive, you rip the benefits as well.
In addition to buying her Miranda Kerr-worthy under-things, spritz on a musky perfume. Perfume tells a lot about your personality, so find a signature daily scent and your woman will come to associate you with this sensual smell. Because musky fragrances have pheromones, they’ll lend you a tempting vibe.
The ultimate French trick to steal? The Look: a sexually charged stare (think Daniel Craig in Bond) where you lock eyes for a few seconds, give a little half smile, and then glance away. You might have worked in on your partner when you initially got together, but it’s incredibly powerful in a long term relationship. It conveys longing, teasing, and a desire to be with only her… and it makes her want to drag you to bed, like, this second.
Have a sensual week,
P.S. Be just a little cheeky, but be careful not to turn… cheesy!