Have you ever had one of those embarrassing “can’t get hard” or “can’t stay hard” moments? Did it really freak you out and make you feel like less of a man? If that describes how you felt, then stop right now. I want you to know that erection problems have happened to EVERY guy out there at least once. It doesn’t make you any less of a man.
You’re probably still wondering, why is this happening to me? Well, there can be a lot of different reasons. There are a lot of different factors that go into getting and maintaining an erection. It’s not just how manly you are or how hot you’re partner is or how turned on you are. Here are some of the many reasons why you might not get hard when you want to:
* Some erectile problems are due to psychological factors, such as stress, depression, or anxiety. A lot of people don’t realize that how you feel emotionally / psychologically can have a big impact on your physical body. Feeling really stressed out at work? Are you depressed? Do you suffer from anxiety? Are you feeling really nervous about being with a new partner? Any of these factors could cause erectile problems.
* Many other factors are physical ones. Diseases that can cause erectile dysfunction include: diabetes, kidney disease, nerve and brain disorders, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, blocked arteries, and much more.
* Other physical factors that can contribute to erection problems are: surgery, injuries, hormone imbalance, poor health in general, poor diet, lack of exercise, alcohol, drugs, tobacco, prescription drugs, and much more.
* Some people have an erection problem once because they drank too much, they were really tired or very stressed out. It was a one time thing and nothing to worry about, but the distress that it caused them makes them have repeated incidents because they are really focused on it.
As you can see, there are a lot of reasons why you might be having an erection problem and none of the reasons have to do with how much of a man you are, but they all have to do with your health, whether it’s your physical or your emotional health.
If I’ve had trouble getting hard, what should I do?
First you can ask yourself if you have any of the problems on the list above. Almost all of us can say that we have some stress and anxiety in our lives. What can you do to decrease stress in your life? My top three ways to decrease stress are to exercise, do an activity that you love at least once a week, and meditate.
What about your health? Do you eat well, exercise and stay away from excessive use of alcohol, tobacco and drugs? Living a healthy lifestyle is very important to good erectile health. If you know you’re not being healthy, try making some changes in your life. You will definitely see the sexual benefits in many ways. A lot of guys have a few drinks or smoke to relax at the end of the day, but both of those things can be big contributing factors in erectile problems. Try abstaining for a month and see if you notice a difference.
Are you on any medications? If so, you can speak with your doctor about whether or not any of them might be contributing to your issues. If they are, your doctor might be able to prescribe alternative medications that won’t have those effects. You should also talk with your doctor about your overall health and see if you might be suffering from some health problems that could affect your sexual health.
Another important thing that you should do if you have ever experienced an erection problem: RELAX. One of the big reasons that a person who has erection trouble ends up having another problem is because of anxiety and worrying about it. It’s like a self fulfilling prophesy. If you worry and worry that you will have a problem, then you will guarantee that you will because your nerves will make it happen. Your mind is a powerful thing, so use it to your advantage. Use your mind to convince yourself that you aren’t going to have a problem. Push all negative thoughts out of your head. Tell yourself over and over again that this is going to be amazing. Take a deep breath. Relax. Take another deep breath. Enjoy yourself.