Home > Increasing Female Libido > 5 reasons she doesn’t feel like having sex anymore You Are Here

Increasing Female Libido

5 reasons she doesn’t feel like having sex anymore

“I have the libido of a 15-year-old boy. My sex drive is so high. I’d rather have sex with Brian all the time than leave the house. He doesn’t mind”- Megan Fox

You dream your wife was as open to sex as Megan Fox, and you can’t really understand why her libido has gone AWOL? After all, when you and she first met, getting naked was most likely the only thing on your minds. And now she tells you she’d rather sleep than indulge in rampant lovemaking! Don’t panic. She can get it back in gear. It’s just a question of libido.

Her libido- and yours as well- is like an appetite, in that it fluctuates up and down. If she’s not desiring sex and it’s distressing both of you or harming the relationship, there are five steps that should be addressed in order to fix things.

One: Need a check-up?

First stop on the road to recovering her sex drive should be her GP. Before you deal with lifestyle considerations- often the main cause of a lack of libido- you need to rule out physical reasons. These can range from an undiagnosed illness- such as glandular fever, diabetes or a hormone problem- to pills. Medications can affect libido, including antidepressants and some contraceptive pills.

Two: Feeling down?

Have you noticed here feeling blue more frequently than usual? Depressed people lose interest in things that give them pleasure, and sex is definitely one of them. And what about her other emotions? Anger and resentment have a direct physical effect on her libido. After all, it’s hard for her to get excited about going to bed with you when she resents you for not helping with the housework, for example. Your best bet is to talk to your partner about any underlying issues. Exercise is also great for letting go of bad energy.

Three: Working too much?

Stress, anxiety, fatigue are the fast route to a low sex drive. Is her job taking over her life? If she’s got something on her mind, there’s not really much brain space for anything else. We come to accept a high level of stress as normal, but it’s one of the biggest libido killers around. The time and energy involved in raising children can also be a factor. There are times in a woman’s life, such as when she’s breastfeeding, when libido is supposed to be low. Or it might just be that she’s really tired and busy and simply can’t be bothered to have sex. Some women put such pressure on themselves to do it, because it is expected of them to behave accordingly, that they end up resenting the act altogether. The key: communication!

Four: Partying too hard?

Is she over-indulging in every area of her life- except the bedroom? Long-term overuse of alcohol or recreational drugs, or both, can have a very real effect on her sex drive, as well as for guys, for that matter. For men especially, a damaged liver can mean problems metabolizing hormones, which causes a build-up of estrogen, which in turn drops the sex drive. Libido is moderated by the male hormone testosterone, and too much estrogen has a dampening effect.

Five: What’s happening at home?

Perhaps she’s gone of sex because she’s not connecting with you or you’re boring each other in the bedroom. If you let sex slip into the background, it tends to stay there. You have to work at it- set realistic goals, have great sex once a week or once a fortnight, rather than having ho-hum sex every two days. Look at your technique, ask her what she thinks you’re not doing. Perhaps you need more foreplay, or to re-establish connection by ding things for each other without penetrative sex. Also, try acting out fantasies or mutual masturbation. And if all else fails? I prescribe the quickie. One thing we know for sure about sex: the more often you have it, the more often you desire it.

Have a seductively pleasurable week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. You can also try arousing her (maybe with a quick session of oral sex?) and then leaving her unsatisfied. She’ll come to YOU!

Do you Gabrielle Moore? Spread The Love! >>

Take a look at what is being said about this article.
  1. India

    I didn’t know where to find this info then kaoobm it was here.


    I am really astounded by this post. Most of the women I talk to and teach tell me it isn’t that they are not interested in sex, it is that they are NOT interested in the kind of sex they are having.
    Most men do not know what women really want, and most women do not know how to tell them. And it is not just another orgasm.
    The men need some training here Gabrielle and not just another technique. thanks
    Tanja Diamond http://www.tantra-for-men.com

  3. Fantaztik

    Nicely speak queen of sexual repair .Ha hahahah.I mean this subject is a matter of common sence.

  4. cyroh

    I have learnt and benefitted alot from your
    articles about sex life. Its true many people shy away from the reality which you have exposed,especially ladies. i will urge you to continue providing more and more.
    Thank you.

  5. tolerate

    its so nice gab,keep it up.your really educating us.

  6. tolerate

    so great.

  7. nwando

    Tanx a lot,u inspire me. Most of what u say are d real deal. So glad I get ur emails,u are d best.

  8. abdul rahman kamara

    thanks for everything and every help you giving to us… it will lead us into a better world of sex.

  9. thandeka

    Some women decided to forget about sex to protect themselves from getting HIV,I am one of them.

  10. fem

    i really thank u so much.u’v done a lot in my whole sex live with my wife.
    thanks and i appreciate it

  11. shaky

    I can’t seem to find anyone so that i can give them a figure of love, know one will give me a chachen with a woman, so i dedide to end my life on 2-4-0-12 i can’t live with my sexual self, i just ask to get laid only no strings attached but no one will give me this chance, i hope your life is great and wonderfukl.,,,,,,,,,,,,i hope i don’t feel alot iiiiiiiihate ]pain thanks mrs mooeorw

  12. Gerard

    Mind blowing sex for people who really want to learn. Mind blowing sex, a real
    sexual arousal buy the program and you may learn little steps before you need to to really know how your body will react to the real problem of why a man or even another woman is merely your own individual problem of not learning all you have to be educated about from A to Z to make your body sail to the winds of change. Ladies why can some women have a realively small orgasm through coveting a man or woman to be sexually aroused?

Don't Forget To Leave Your Comments! (If you're shy, feel free to use a nickname! :)
Also... your email address will NOT be published)