What is the key to sexual attraction? You might think, “that’s easy, you have to be good looking to be found sexually attractive.” However, before jumping to that conclusion, think about all the times you have seen a beautiful man or woman with a less attractive partner. You might have wondered, how did that guy get that hot woman?!?! He must have something beyond physical beauty to have attracted her. In fact, why we are attracted to a person comes down to a whole set of different factors, including our physical appearance, personality, and the way we present ourselves to the world.
In my opinion, the last factor, the way we present ourselves to the world is one of the most important factors when it comes to attraction. You could be the most handsome man in the room, but if you lack confidence and present yourself poorly then no woman is going to stay interested in you.
You might think that just because you are in a long term relationship that you don’t need to think about attraction anymore. You already won her over, after all! But NO! It’s more important now than ever. Keeping the sparks of attraction alive will guarantee that your sex life stays exciting and active.
How you present yourself comes down to body language. You want to exude confidence to women and in order to do so, you need to have the right kind of body language. Here are four surefire ways to turn her on and keep her interested with your body language:
* Posture – You have to have the right kind of posture in order to be really attractive. Sit up and stand straight with your shoulders back to put forth an air of confidence. One way to show a woman that you are interested in her is to face your entire body towards hers. This sends a subconscious signal that you want her. If it’s your partner, don’t be afraid to go into her personal space a bit. Don’t do it with hesitation, but with confidence, as though she has already welcomed you in. She’ll be able to see that you’re a man who knows what he wants and makes moves to get it.
* Gestures – The way you touch your partner communicates a lot about how you feel and can either make her more attracted to you or not. I’m not talking about sexual touching here, but the subtle ways that you interact and touch her all day long. The way you touch her can show loving feelings, sexual desire, care and comfort, and many other things. Again, you want to touch her with confidence, not like you’re nervous about how she might react. Another way men are attractive to women is when they show genuine interest in them and what they have to say. This is another thing you can express really well with your body language. Nod your head or tilt it slightly to the side show that you’re engaged and listening when she talks. Show genuine comfort and confidence in your own body and your gestures to really wow her with your confidence.
* Facial Expressions – One thing that a lot of people don’t realize is that their facial expressions don’t always match what you might be thinking or feeling. It’s very easy to be misinterprete a person’s facial expression. Although you can’t always control your facial expression, try to be aware of them when you’re with your partner. a playful smile combined with other types of body language can show desire and sexual interest.
* Eye Movements – You may have heard before that eye contact is one of the most important ways to show your interest in a woman. For your long term partner, maintaining eye contact with her will let her know that she has your full attention. No matter what she is talking to you about, making eye contact shows that you are fully listening to her, which is an attractive (and unfortunately not always common) trait in a man. You can also send a lot of messages with your eyes. You can move them over her body and look at her with desire to show you want her.
Even though you can’t always control your body language and be aware of it, it’s an important thing to think about and try to improve. You want to pay attention to it and be conscious of it, but at the same time, it shouldn’t be controlled or contrived all the time.