Every sex expert under the sun is nowadays looking to school you on the G-spot. And it’s actually no wonder: the whole idea of the G-spot has been a hot topic of debate for a seriously long time. Some researchers say it doesn’t exist at all; some say it’s its own thing; some (correctly) identify it as the root of the clitoris. Either way, it rocks and you should definitely include it in your carnal repertoire.
The G-spot refers to the anterior wall of the vagina, about two inches inside of the vagina. It is a walnut-textured patch located behind the pubic bone. When stimulated, the area swells with blood, causing copious sexual pleasure. G-spot orgasms are those elusive, deep vaginal orgasms that many women crave, but that a big number of men don’t know how to achieve. The important thing to remember before we go further into this subject is that no orgasm is better than any other. If you’re giving your lady orgasms from any sort of stimulation, that’s fantastic.
In order to get to the bottom of this G-spot confusion, I created a method on how to unlock your partner’s orgasmic potential for vaginal climax.
1. Locate the area
The first step is finding the G-spot. Straight up P in the V or a dildo in the V penetration doesn’t always hit the G-spot. In fact, studies have shown that only 25 percent of women report having orgasms through penetration alone. The G-spot is not just up in there somewhere and the more you poke around, the more you get it going. Wrong. The G-spot’s location (behind the pubic bone) means you need to curve upwards towards the belly button to hit it. No straight up and down boning will do. I suggest using any dildo or vibrator that you and your partner feel comfortable with. Don’t get too focused on size; the goal is to stimulate the anterior wall of the vagina so the positioning of the toy is more important. Position is everything.
Insert a G-spot wand or two fingers into the vagina and hook upward. Feel around and see what you’re working with up there. If you need help on finding out if what you’re doing works, just ask your lady to describe how what you’re doing feels. Some women have reported G-spot stimulation as a desire to urinate; others have said it’s like a warm wave of water. Each woman may find the feeling different and unique to them.
2. Determine what feels good
Experiment with different pressures and movements. Try circular motions, grounded movements and whatever else tickles your lady’s fancy. Don’t be afraid to experiment. The G-spot is a multidimensional area and certain things may feel better than others. G-spot stimulation may not be enough to produce an orgasm so try externally stimulating the clitoris with your fingers or a vibrator for extra arousal. No one said this was a one-act circus.
3. Choose the right positions
The best position to stimulate this area during penetrative sex is woman on top or rear entry. The goal is for the penis to hit the anterior wall of the vagina. You can also try coital alignment technique. Get in classic missionary position, but stick one or two pillows under her butt for extra lift. This allows your penis to curve up towards the G-spot while she grinds her clitoris on your pubic bone. Again, don’t limit yourself to penetration. Use a small finger vibrator. Powerful G-spot orgasms are often combined with other forms of sexual touching. Take advantage of everything that feels good to your partner.
4. Some women don’t have them . . . and that’s OK!
While every woman has a G-spot and, therefore, the physical capability of having a G-spot orgasm, not every woman will. Some love deep penetrative stimulation and some do not. Some women may enjoy stimulation more shallow or deeper on the anterior wall than where the G-spot is located. Some like being penetrated, but don’t have orgasms this way. That’s OK. Every body is different and enjoys different kinds of pleasure. If your partner doesn’t like having her G-spot touched or does like it but doesn’t find it orgasm-inducing, that’s perfectly fine and normal. She’s not broken or damaged. She just doesn’t get off with that kind of touching. As long as you’re doing what feels good for the both of you, great!
P.S. For more tips and tricks on how to arouse her G-Spot and give her deep vaginal orgasms, check out my program on the subject, G-Spot orgasms made easy.