“It’s so beautifully arranged on the plate- you know someone’s fingers have been all over it”– Julia Child
The best way to finger a woman is, actually, with your whole hand. When used with the right tempo and speed, all five fingers as well as the palm can give immense pleasure to a woman. Don’t think that just by sticking your index and middle fingers inside her vagina or rubbing them around like a mad man you’re taking her to seventh heaven. The art of good, pleasurable fingering is much more complex than that. So, before you go taking it the wrong way, please read on.
First step. Ask for permission
If you’ve never fingered her before, ask if you can first, it’s only polite. And if, at any point, she slaps your hand away, you should take that as a sign that she doesn’t want you touching her down there anymore. If you keep doing it anyway, she’ll likely get mad and never let you anywhere near her again. Ever. Even with clothes on. So don’t push it.
Second step. Start early
For both of you to get optimum excitement value out of a good fingering, start while she is still dressed. Kiss and hug her a bit (or a lot, whatever suits your feelings) before you move on. She’ll like that. Continue until things get really frisky, and you end up rubbing your bits together. While you’re still standing up, firing that passion away through your kisses, slip your hand down her pants, with your palm facing her tummy. If her pants are really tight, you might not be able to reach down very far, so sneakily undo the zipper with your other hand, If she’s wearing a skirt, things are heaps easier- slide your hand up her skirt instead.
Third step. Undies off- SLOWLY
Contrary to popular belief, the undie barrier is a good one. Don’t get rid of it too soon. This is your chance to get her really wet. Rub the base of your palm against her pubic mound- that’s the curved bit that fits right in your hand. If you’ve placed your hand right, your fingers should slide between her legs while the base of your palm will do great things to her clitoris. Rub slowly back and forth with your hand like this for a while- at least until she starts to squirm. Only then you should slip a finger or two inside her underwear.
Fourth step. Go all ways
When her underwear is finally off, and she’s lying on the bed, the best way to finger a woman is with both hands, your mouth and your tongue. If you’re lying next to her, use the same rubbing method described above to start. Then combine this with slipping one finger inside and feeling around a bit, then maybe use two. Don’t ram your fingers in and out of her as if they were a penis, just keep it nice and slow and rhythmic. See what she responds to best. If you’re not to shy, ask her what she wants you to do. She won’t think any less of you, she’ll think you’re a better lover because you actually care what she wants. Maybe she has a secret fantasy about a fiery fingering session and she’d like to share the instructions with you.
Fifth step. Finish in style
Advanced fingering is just a mixture of everything foreplay should be- get between her legs, get right in there in full blazes. Maybe put one hand under her bum, lift her up a bit, put your mouth over her an play with her clitoris with your other hand. It’s possible. And good. There really is no right way to finger a woman- just experiment and pay attention to the way she reacts. But, most of all, don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty!
Have a solidly scrumptious week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. Before you introduce your fingers inside her vagina, make sure that she is well self lubricated. If her natural lubrication is insufficient, you can apply a water-based lubricant on your fingers for a good job. To discover more advanced tips and techniques about fingering CLICK HERE NOW!
