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The secret to sexual anticipation

”People don’t want to see me having sex… I’m the queen of the “kiss, foreplay, dissolve”. And then the “Whoo! Good morning, tiger.”– Julia Roberts

How many times have you charged in for the main course without whetting your appetite? Don’t assume foreplay is merely a polite starter before tucking into your meat and two veg. If you know how to tantalize each other’s taste buds, you’ll savor the sex even more.

Don’t think that you are doing this as a favor to her. Despite what you might have heard, foreplay is enjoyable for you too, just as much as it is for her. There’s something oh-so-sexy about anticipation, so instead of stampeding in for the grand finale, check out my guide for erotic foreplay. Tease your woman right and you’ll have her begging for more.

Here are five top moves to unleash on her. Remember, no penetration allowed… yet.

Foreplay move #1

Learn to give good phone sex

With a single call, you can get her so aroused at her desk she’ll be cutting short her afternoon faster than you can say “dentist’s appointment”. Before you call, pick your tone: flirty, seductive, romantic, macho, dominator. And do the same for the language: street, subtle, crass. When she answers, stay silent for a few seconds. Then, in your sexiest voice, describe how you’d like her to kiss you, touch and undress you. Then take her through the finer details of how you’re going to give her the most amazing oral sex ever. Non-verbal communication is a good element too. You can groan and moan, but you can also breath, stay silent and then tell her what you just did to yourself. By the time you hang up you’ll have her so hot, her main problem will be hiding the fast breathing from colleagues as she sneaks away from her desk with a head full of wicked thoughts.

Foreplay move #2

Kiss for, like, ages…

Remember when you were a teen and you kissed until your partner in crime got stubble rash? Don’t underestimate the power of the smooch now that you’re all grown up. Get cozy on the couch and kiss without it leading to anything else (and yes, that means no hand up her top). Try kissing around the edges of the lips, then run the tip of your tongue oven them. The longer you can delay before inserting your tongue, the more sensual it will be. Lift her face and teasingly kiss her around the chin and jaw, moving down to the sensitive areas of the neck and throat. If you really can’t resist taking your tongues further afield, extend your passion to a tongue bath: where you cover every inch of your lover’s body with kisses. Blindfold her it she fancies it, then make her lie still while you go to work caressing and nibbling.

Foreplay move #3

Flirt with food

Bearing in mind that women have healthy appetites as well, though they try to hide it for fear of losing their figure, what more deliciously inappropriate a place to unleash your inner passion that a restaurant? While you’re reading the menu, play footsie with her under the table. She’ll be pleasantly surprised and curious about what’s next. Take her hand in yours and kiss and lick it, slowly, sensually, feed her bits of your dessert and, when the meal is over, ask for a bottle of wine to go and another piece of that cake she liked so much. Being tactile and suggestive without being able to have full body contact fires up the sexual energy between you two. Just one tip: keep it subtle.

Foreplay move #4

Have a clothes encounter

Another nostalgic trip to teenage times, the “dry hump” was when you rubbed up against each other so hard you could have started a camp fire. In this case, when nakedness is the norm, doing it clothed can deliver a certain illicit thrill. Simulate all the moves you would perform if you were nude, but stop yourself from shedding a single sock. The dry hump also recreates that feeling when you thought you’d go crazy if you didn’t get inside her right now. The advantage is that, this time, her parents are unlikely to walk in on you.

Foreplay move #5

The great strip-off

All right, for this one you do get to take your clothes off. You, not her. Yes, you’ve read it correctly, I’m asking you to do a little striptease for a change. The crucial maxim when stripping for someone is to forget about being self conscious. Trust me, she isn’t going to think you’re an idiot when she’s getting her own private sexy show. Remember, you’re the prize, so peel off each layer s-l-o-w-l-y. Set the scene by playing sensual music, then strut your stuff. I know you’ve got it! She’ll sense you’re making quite the big effort and that you want things to be hot between the two of you, but, most importantly, you’re ready to put up with your end of the bargain. Next, hotter than hot sex!

Have a sexy and sweet week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Sometimes, the best foreplay in the eyes of a woman is a nice compliment, at the end of a hard day. Tell her how amazing you think she is and she’ll make sure you’re rewarded for it!

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  1. Amory

    Keep these artciels coming as they’ve opened many new doors for me.

  2. Mike & Liqun Gebhards

    MIKE:Li and I have been married for 31 years. I’m an American mutt,and she is Chinese.
    She’s 50,and I’m 64. We are totally liberated sexually,I’m of the old school hippie persuasion,we both live by the motto,”if it feels,good do it”. We’ve been intimate all these years,and we both,still look forward,to our daily love making,like it were something new. We think the secret,is variety,a deep love for each other,and the need to please one another. The most important thing is communication. She always tells me how I’m doing,and I always ask her what she wants me to do to her. We don’t use toys very often,other than a blindfold occasionally,and maybe some massage tools,plumes,brushes,and a vibrating hand massager. She does like the french ticklers,that we get from an internet source. Over all the years we have been having sex together,I don’t recall ever having been disappointed with her,or she with me.
    LIQUN:I have to agree with my husband, that he has never disappointed me. He has an average endowment,and that is all I need from him. He usually has me so turned on by the time we get around to coitus,that I orgasm,almost as soon as he enters me.
    Mike agrees with me,that we enjoy the oral,foreplay,massage,kissing,and cuddling much more than the actual intercourse. The former takes several hours to complete,and the actual intercourse only lasts a fraction of that time. We both agree that the pleasure we derive from the “foreplay” is many times more than we get from the sex act itself. To us,the intercourse is only a closure for us,and nothing more. I have to admit though,that the orgasm I get from the penetration is so intense, that I sometimes have wet orgasms,The sex act only lasts a few minutes,but the orgasm,lasts much longer,Mike has learned how to prolong it for me,and has kept me there on the edge for as long as 25 minutes,I do the same thing for him when I do oral for him. That is the most mind blowing thing about our lovemaking. The pleasure we get is almost painful,it is so intense. On weekends,we often stay in bed all day,since we are retired, and have nothing better to do. What could be better than getting off 15 times in a day? If you find it Gabrielle, please let us know.
    Liqun & Mike Gebhards

  3. wally pollock

    gabby your gret, if your hubby isnt appreating you like he should ocme to the hills of new mexico and look up an old guy on the first mesa,he he

  4. Jill

    Nice…..thanks Gabrielle!

  5. Dennis Leonard (DGL)

    I have already used all 5 steps that you describe above and my lady has given me some of the best sex i ever had. I have also found her g-spot, and she was so aroused that the sex afterwards was out of this world. More men should try to please their lady for better sex. It is great for both her and him.

  6. andres

    hi gabrielle i like ur article,it’s educating keep it up

  7. Av

    Thx for all the tips brilliant,she’s loving it but I need tips to stop quick ejaculation .

  8. roy

    thanx for the tips.you are awesome.at 40+ i thought i knew it all,untill i met u.things is slowly beginning to get more exited in my bedroom. what i love most about u is that u dont talk about f?>k but pure meaningfull sex based on feelings for each other.wish u could reach out to our younger generation.wish i had the bucks . to buy all your books.love.roy[sa]

  9. ali

    very nice article

  10. Graham

    Laughter is the sexyest foreplay you can have!!! Make love to her personality have respect for her. Make her feel like she’s the most beautiful woman in the world and MEAN IT.

  11. kisha

    thank you Gabrielle need those tips

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