The ladies open up about the hottest things you can possibly say to them.
“Touch me right there”
After years together, you and her are familiar with each other’s anatomy, but a little verbal reminder of what pushes you over the edge is helpful from time to time. Exploring new touches and sensations can make sex seem like an exciting discovery the two of you are making together.
If you don’t normally swear, if you let go in bed it will be a very big turn-on for your partner. Shy? Dirty talk doesn’t need to be dirty. Simply narrating the action by noting where her hand – or something else – is and how good it feels is plenty. This helps keep you both in the moment.
“I want to watch”
Being able to actually see each other, instead of fumbling around in the dark, is awesome. Self-conscious? Focus on how things feel – or how her eyes light up as you show everything off.
“So, I had this dream last night”
If you have a fantasy you’ve always wanted to try, setting it up as a dream can help minimize any shyness about discussing it. Fantasies don’t need to be turned into reality to be hugely hot, and getting used to talking about what gets you off – even if it’s never going to happen in real life, such as you and her stranded on a desert island – can do wonders for your sex life.
“I give you permission to wake me up if you get horny”
Having sex on the table as a potential option during the night, even if you don’t actually do it, reminds you that your sex life is important. Setting an alarm for a sex date can also work, especially if you are both beat or likely to be disturbed when you head to bed.
“I want to kiss you down there”
Women love when men want to give them oral sex. She knows you love it, but she never wants you to do it just for her. When you say you want to, it makes her feel like she can really let go. Focusing on how happy your partner gets makes oral sex feel less like, well, a job, and can also enhance pleasure. Conveying enthusiasm is a huge turn-on, and the more turned on she gets, the more confident and masterful you will feel.
“All during my meeting today, I was thinking about doing this”
Knowing that you’re working and you let your mind wander back to her is a huge compliment. Plus, a few dirty daydreams can absolutely make your workday more exciting – and letting your partner in on them will seriously get her going. Thinking about how it feels when she kisses you or slips her fingers underneath your boxers can help switch your brain from feeling exhausted to feeling excited.
“I love the way you smell when we make love”
I know this sounds gross, but hear me out. When you tell her you like the way she smells, even when she’s drenched in sweat, she will really feel like a woman. Scent is so intimate, especially when you’re naked. Sex is all about senses, and letting your partner know the way she gets you going will help put you both in the mood. She may also not realise how much her scent turns you on, and clueing her in is a good reminder of the animal magnetism you have for each other.
“Yup, that was perfect”
If you don’t make a lot of noise in bed, it’s sometimes hard for your partner to tell whether or not the whole thing was great for you. If she just rocked your world, only good can come from letting her know.
“I want you to come”
Sometimes coming feels like a selfish act, and saying “I want you to come” makes it feel not only invited, but celebrated. Eagerness and passion can set your partner over the edge in a heartbeat. Creating a safe space for intimacy during the dirty stuff by saying you want her to feel pleasure shows that you really love all the things during sex, and that you aren’t just doing it because you feel like you have to.”
P.S. For more interesting tips on how to turn your partner on like never before, check out my video program on the matter – Multiply her Drive.