Today, I am continuing on with the next 5 of my Top Sex Tips from “My Top 100 Sex Tips to Spice Up Your Love Life, Create More Intimacy and Have Better Orgasms”.
So, let’s get the party started!
Yes, flirting seems obvious, and it is, but when we get into a long term relationship, we tend to forget the art of flirting and take each other for granted. That, my friend, is a sure fire way to let the passion in a relationship fizzle, like a slow leaky tire, until ultimately it becomes lifeless and flat. Boohoo!
Flirting keeps the sizzle and playfulness in a relationship, pumps up the blood and feeds desire!
Some easy ways to flirt include eyeing your lover up and down like they are a delicious dessert you want to devour. Playfully tickle her behind the ear or the back of her neck, then bend over and whisper, “You are so sexy!”. Play, laugh together, tell silly jokes. Grab her butt when she’s not expecting it. Or kiss her passionately for no reason at all.
Now. Start flirting!
- Wear socks for more orgasms
Okay, I know this sounds silly, but wearing socks to bed for sex, can actually improve orgasm potential in women. In a study from the Netherlands at the University of Groningen, 80 per cent of women could achieve orgasm while wearing socks, compared to only 50 per cent who went sockless. Researchers said the reason why women could orgasm better, was connected to our feelings of comfort and safety. Or, maybe they were just not as distracted by having cold feet. Either way, if it works, then try it, especially during the winter months, to help increase her libido. For more sexy tips on how to increase her libido, check out my video Amplify Her Arousal.
- Read erotica
Many women love erotica and sexuality explicit romance novels. It is a huge multi-million-dollar industry. Just think of the “Fifty Shades” books and how big of a phenomenon they became. And, while you may not be that into written erotica yourself, you will be into how hot and sexy and turned on she gets after your read it to her.
This is a great way to begin foreplay in her biggest erogenous zone (her brain) and get her juices flowing and ready for sex. Erotica allows her to enter a fantasy where anything goes, and she is swept off her feet and ravished by a tall dark stranger (or whatever her fancy).
So, find out what type of erotica she likes, then go search out some naughty stories online (or via your kindle books) and set aside a night or erotic (written) foreplay and sensual sex. Let her snuggle up next to you as you read her the “dirty” parts and then have some sexy time together.
- Watch a romantic movie
This is a bit similar to reading erotica, except you watch a romantic/erotic movie together instead. Some people are more visual and get off on images better. Plus, it is easier than reading a story out loud as well. When the movie “Twilight” first came out (yes, I hate to admit it but I was one of those Twilight women swooning over Robert Pattinson who played a tragic vampire who falls in love with a human girl), I watched it over and over every night to fall asleep with, so I could dream naughty vampire erotic dreams. And, they never even had sex in that movie (at least not onscreen)!
Find out what her top 5 to 10 favorite romantic movies are and have a weekend erotic movie watching binge fest where you stay all day in bed, eat take out and watch movies. Oh yeah, and have sex!
- Watch porn together
This may be a little bit trickier to do with your girl, depending on how open she is about porn. Some porn, however, is more softcore, romantic and “women-friendly”, so if she’s not really into it, she may be open to that kind of porn. But make sure you discuss it beforehand, and get a genre that she is interested in or likes.
One thing about watching porn with your lover guys: don’t compare the women in them to her. You could say, “this scene is hot and I’d like to try that with you”, or “you would look so hot doing that”, but don’t say anything good or bad about the women in the films unless you want your porn experience to end in disaster. Women are very touchy about being compared to other women because the media does this all the time and tries to make us feel inadequate, so don’t make the same mistake.
However, with an open mind, that you are enjoying this together, and that it is for educational (ehem) purposes only, you should get both your libidos fired up and add some ideas to your sexy bucket list.
So there are my sexy tips for this week. Stay tuned until next week, where I will continue to go down my list and give you LOTS more juicy hot tips on how to add more sexy time to your love life.
Until then, stay sexy!