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What’s going through her mind when she’s going down on you

“True love is when he holds your hair back while you’re giving him a blowjob.”

Women are incredible multi-taskers. We can, say, go for a jog, and at the same time write a shopping list in our head, dodge cars, sing Beyonce’s latest number one, and motivate ourselves by imagining Ryan Gosling “hey girl” memes.

So it’s not surprising that it can be tricky to turn off our racing brains, even during sexy times. If your partner is like the 55 per cent of women who admit their mind wanders, she probably finds it hard to just be in the moment when going down on you.

So what are women actually thinking about when giving a blowjob? Here 30 brave ladies share their thoughts.

“I hope this doesn’t take too long. Anything longer than one minute and I’m out. Ain’t nobody got time for that!” – Kelly

“Am I doing this right? Why am I doing this? What’s the point of this?” – Ana

“I hope you like that I’m making you happy. What are you thinking about, I wonder. I hope that you’re thinking about me.” – Tammy

“Do not make direct eye contact – or, if it does happen, make sure to give him sexual eyes.” – Michelle

“This is gross. I can’t believe people enjoy this. Can I stop yet?” – Nicki

“He’s making those little noises – he’s enjoying himself. Yeah! Go me!” – Emily

“Damn it. Hurry up will you, my jaw hurts.” – Shannon

“I wonder whether this is the main or the entrée? If I’m not enjoying it, I’m worrying about my gag reflex, teeth replacement and tongue piercing.” – Rhonda

“Well, I hope this doesn’t finish him off.” – Stephanie

“Ok, now that I’m done with the figure eight technique, let’s give the porn star slap a go.” – Cassie

“What’s for dinner?” – Harriet

“The only things I’m thinking are quite sexual thoughts to get myself off, then just lots of nothing. I go into an almost meditative state.” – Christina

“I’m doing good work here; I hope I get the same in return.” – Grace

“Sometimes I fantasize about other guys or imagine someone is watching us, and that really turns me on.” – Carol

“Is it a good idea to stick a finger in his arse? Maybe I should just pop one in there before he even realizes what’s happening.” – Janice

“Ok, I think I’ve got this whole penis thing just about covered, but what am I supposed to do with his balls? They’re just hanging there.” – Sam

“I love hearing the delish sounds he makes while I’m down there; it’s such a turn on!” – Claudia

“Ahh I can’t breathe through my nose. Oh great, now my mascara is running. I’m so hot right now.” – Jennifer

“Geez, does this guy ever shower? What’s that smell? I’m going to kiss him after, just so he knows I took one for the team.” – Danielle

“Why is sex so short, but this takes so damn long?” – Kate

“Don’t look down, don’t look down… Ok he’s looking down, try to look sexy. How do I look sexy with a penis in my mouth?” – Emily

“Dicks are heaps more fun to play with that vaginas; I can’t swing my bits around or slap someone in the face with it. Boo.” – Angelina

“I’m usually just writing a grocery list in my head.” – Lara

“Don’t gag… Don’t gag… Don’t gag… Oh damn. That’s not good.” – Rita

“I’m going to make this the best blowjob he’ll ever have – he’s not going to know what has hit him, and it’s all going to be thanks to me.” – Vanessa

“This is a lot less fun that I thought it would be.” – Anna

“I hope you like this. Please stop touching my head.” – Sophie

“This is exhausting! They don’t call it a job for nothing.” – Trisha

“Try to be sexy and swallow this time. Oh no, no, nooo – the taste! The taste! What is this?!” – Carla

“I wonder if he’s enjoying it. It’s hard to know what a blowjob feels like! I just go with whatever seems to be working.” – Jess

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. I hope you had a laugh over what goes to the girls’ minds when performing oral. We’d love to know your thoughts when you go down on us. Leave them in the comments section!

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33 Comments

  1. tommy

    June 10, 2014 at 7:19 pm

    I absolutely love going down on my wife. It tastes really sweet and I’m addicted to it. The only thing that really goes on in my mind when I’m down there, is “am I doing this right and is she enjoying it as much as I am?” I know when she is because of the little signs she gives and it makes me kick in even harder!!!

  2. Matt

    June 10, 2014 at 8:29 pm

    It is sad to me that some women are so negative about fellatio.
    Maybe I am fortunate in that women consistently comment “most beautiful penis”
    Nevertheless it is the man’s job to provide adequate stimulation through foreplay to get the woman so hot she is ready to go down. Sometimes I go down first, sometimes she does, but it should never feel like work, and she should never feel she must “finish” him. The BJ can just be foreplay getting you both more turned on. In my view if going down does not make her soaking wet, something is wrong, and with women it is usually psychological, meaning there was not enough foreplay and fun leading up to going down – don’t take it so seriously…
    My goal is to help her enjoy going down on me as much as I enjoy going down on her – gotta worship the pussy…get her thighs clamping around my ears…

  3. Tony

    June 10, 2014 at 9:18 pm

    Well Im surprised at the number of negative comments about female thoughts on giving a man oral sex, it has to be one of the most intimate acts carried out and it is is so so pleasurable – rightly so the act of caring must also be given to your female partner – making love with your tongue has to be one of the most enjoyable acts of love – feeling her legs around your neck as she squirms with joy is fantastic – long live oral sex and the pleasure it gives to both sexes – Tony

  4. Mark

    June 10, 2014 at 9:24 pm

    Dear Gabrielle,

    “I hope you had a laugh over what goes to the girls’ minds when performing oral.”

    To be honest, I think you have the wrong target audience here. I’m sure this stuff would be funny to other women, but to us men, it’s really not funny and not sexy either.

    Like Matt said, it’s sad how negative so many women are about fellatio.

    I wonder if these same women would be insulted if a man was thinking about how he could be watching the game instead of going down on her.

    Cheers,
    Mark

    PS – To Emily:

    How do you NOT look sexy with a penis in your mouth?

  5. Shaun

    June 10, 2014 at 9:28 pm

    A co-worker of mine says that true love is when she swallows after the guy cums.

  6. jacob

    June 11, 2014 at 1:57 am

    “Ok step one tongue, step two clit, repeat swirl effect.crap what was step three?”

  7. Barry

    June 11, 2014 at 6:07 am

    I love giving my woman oral pleasure. I love feeling her
    Responding to my licks and hearing her moan! Such a turn on!

  8. Mark

    June 11, 2014 at 6:46 am

    “Is it a good idea to stick a finger in his arse? Maybe I should just pop one in there before he even realizes what’s happening.” – Janice

    Janice – no, it’s a very BAD idea, unless you’ve discussed it beforehand; you wouldn’t like a strange guy groping you would you? Well that’s how it’d feel to a lot of guys, kind of violating.

  9. Nathan

    June 11, 2014 at 10:03 am

    Some pretty funny stuff here. I think the message is for males to make it more fun for their woman to experience and also to communicate how it feels and other relevant details.

  10. chola

    June 11, 2014 at 7:47 pm

    Damn! That’s the last time I hint on a BJ from her! 😀

  11. Monika

    June 11, 2014 at 8:43 pm

    I’m thinking should I swirl my tongue around the tip yet?He screams like a girl when I do that:)

  12. Tarzan

    June 11, 2014 at 11:28 pm

    Me-Tarzan. You-Mark.
    Speak for yourself. Not “..us men”.

    Tarzan found it funny AND sexy.
    Some Janes love it. Some Janes don’t . Honest is sexy.

  13. larry

    June 12, 2014 at 12:56 am

    Are you serious with this question!! Because the majority of men don’t care what a woman is thinking with his hard penis in her mouth as long as she’s going up and down on it and taking care of business that’s all that matters… And if she doesn’t wanna do it most men will find someone that will.. If you have really good size like I do going dow going down there.

  14. Rusty

    June 12, 2014 at 5:25 am

    Well, WHERE to begin??
    sounds to me like you hit the “Reverse-Jackpot”, and got “secret-info” from [mostly] fella-tio-haters….how SAD! Notice that I didn’t say I was surprised…just SAD. For some strange, (and disturbing) reason, many “women” see sucking cock as “gross”, which I think IS gross, like a gross Perversion of human sexuality. HOW can you (Anyone) hold the Awesome act of pleasuring someone ORALLY as “gross”??? Personally, if I were, say, mutilated in an accident,(no longer able to copulate) I would STILL have the Joy of being able to give Oral-Worship to my lady, and thus feel powerful and rewarded. I cannot even imagine a :world w/o head”, I LIVE to suckle at The Gates of Heaven !!! ~RR

  15. Joy

    June 12, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    The best part of giving head to my guy is at the end before he cums, he’s trying so hard not to and I’m sucking it out he has no choice but to cum and his toes r curled and all he wants to do is sleep. Best moment ever

  16. Lee

    June 12, 2014 at 9:13 pm

    I luv giving my wife falatio, I try to perfect the art every time I go down. When you come up from between her legs your face should be soaking wet. Getting a blow job is a beautiful thing also. When she takes her tongue and tickle the tip…Priceless. But it should not be a job for either. It should be the stairway to explosive endings for the both of you.

  17. Michael

    June 12, 2014 at 9:16 pm

    I’m thinking MMMMMM this smells and tastes delicious Let’s get some finger action going to blow her mind! (if she is) or oh god I’m gonna gag if she isn’t lol

  18. Rakele

    June 13, 2014 at 4:25 am

    I think Larry May have summed it saying that the majority of men don’t care what you’re thinking as long as your mouth is where he wants it to be. I’ve been a pastor for ten years and married 25 years. Some of my best sermons have been thought out with my husband’s penis in the back of my throat. I enjoy giving him pleasure but like the article said I multitask. My mind is elsewhere.

  19. Trev

    June 13, 2014 at 8:34 am

    My thoughts while going down on her: “I love, love, LOVE making her moan and squirm! She tastes great, she sounds great…she’s amazing.”

    My thoughts about these womens’ thoughts about going down on their man: This is mostly discouraging; not humorous at all. It seems to me like lots of these women have some issues of bitterness and/or resentment against men (or against their man in particular). It’s sad, really.

    I want my wife to -enjoy- pleasuring me, as much as I enjoy pleasuring her. It’s an act of LOVE…if she doesn’t enjoy doing it, then I don’t want her doing it. Instead I want to talk with her about why she doesn’t want to do it, so that we can enjoy and explore our sexuality together.

  20. glory

    June 13, 2014 at 9:01 am

    Well its very interesting when a man does it in return like me my hubby don’t like giving it back to me and I stop giving it to him

  21. Chuck

    June 13, 2014 at 12:01 pm

    I just concentrate on makin my wife enjoy it, and look for those little, and not so little clues that she is. My favorite though, is when she grabs the back of my head with both hands, and shoves my face deeper and closer to her. That’s the best turn on when I’m going down on her.

  22. Paul

    June 13, 2014 at 5:13 pm

    I’m thinking about how to blow her mind, get her focused on her right spots and clear her mind of any of the thousand things she might have been thinking about before we started. Focus. Down. Here. It’s one of the sexiest things, going down on your lady and feeling her get completely in the moment. When I feel her grooving, I enter a zen-like trance of pleasure. She does so much for me, and it’s more than a pleasure to make her feel this good from top to bottom. You’re in safe hands girl, don’t worry about anything, don’t think about anything, just enjoy for the sake of enjoying. Her body and her moans tell all. Pure pleasure.

  23. David

    June 13, 2014 at 8:42 pm

    the BJ I enjoy giving my woman is using my hand to tease her breasts very gently, slowly for some time say about three minutes and this turns me on greatly as I see her been turned on as well. Then I proceed by using my erected penis to tease her libia for some while then tease clit very gently and at the same time my lips are also teasing the nipple of her breast and I remain doing this until she will be begging me to enter her. And I love teasing her this way.

  24. Drew

    June 13, 2014 at 9:10 pm

    OK sweetie, turnabout is fair play! I’m going to suck your puss ’til you have a seizure then I will give you pleasure ’til you buck and squirt!

  25. Shannon

    June 13, 2014 at 10:05 pm

    Thanks, guys, for your wonderful comments. I really appreciated them, and most of you sound like amazing lovers, and your women very fortunate to be with you. (Since you appreciate them!)

    I’ve yet to have a relationship with a man who makes me feel like he is very knowledgeable about a woman’s body, and really enjoys learning how to please her, and REALLY loves doing it!

    Haven’t given up yet . . .

  26. Mark

    June 14, 2014 at 5:30 am

    Here’s the thing, I love, love, LOVE going down on her..I start, obviously, with licking up and down each lip, a lil pressure of course, and hinting @ her clit here and there..and once she’s twitching to my touch,focus a bit more on it. Then once I’ve got her writhing I’ll add a finger, then two to stroke her g spot while lovin on her clit. Before long the juices are flowing freely and she starts squirting. This is a fail safe technique and she has multiple clitoral orgasms before pulling me up to her face to kiss her juices from my mouth. That’s when she puts me inside her..when I’m close to getting off she pulls me out and sucks me dry…even though she may have a couple of vaginal orgasms in the meantime..she knows I am only looking to get off once. But Gabrielle, she makes it count!
    I don’t especially like the bj in general, and would never “expect” it..i think men should worry about satisfying women, not the other way around. And, besides, they(women) will do whatever they know to make the man happy that’s doin them right when nobody is looking.. (or is..whatever you’re into..) 😉

  27. Baby doll

    June 15, 2014 at 10:31 am

    I am saddened also to see the ratio of women who do not enjoy it..hopefully it is somehow a skewed sampling….I have loved sucking and licking my guy whenever he wants it…hearing him happy and finish him off is my goal. Swallow every drop. Just love it. Feeling like I can make him lose it, even if he’s trying not to, makes it really fun:)!!

  28. Timmy

    June 16, 2014 at 11:40 am

    My wife just reacently started squirting & she squirts a lot & I can’t get enough I think about her squirting her sweet nectar all over me

  29. Alex

    June 16, 2014 at 4:03 pm

    It’s sad to see so many women hate and despise giving their man oral sex. It’s simple, just as much as they enjoy receiving oral sex, so do we.

    When I go down on my wife, I am in heaven. I love being between her legs and pleasuring her. I love and get turned on by watching her move around and moan. One of the best moments is when she holds my head down deeper. Finally, the best is when she cums and is completely soaked that she drips everywhere. If it was up to me, i would eat her out and make her cum endlessly over and over again. I can literally eat her out all day and all night. I LOVE to eat her out.

  30. Pierre

    June 18, 2014 at 2:45 am

    I think “lick lick lick, lick faster for a bit. Let me add some fingers to that and maybe tease her a little bit.

  31. mike

    June 18, 2014 at 1:26 pm

    If this is whatva woman is thinking of while going down on me or giving me head, I wouldn’t waste my time sith her because she probably has other personality issues also. There are just to manyvwonderful women who actually enjoy it and need it. To have a mutual experience with their partner. The gals in your post are outnumbered.

  32. Kelsey

    June 24, 2014 at 6:37 pm

    I am female and yes at times it is not fun and at least for me most of the time it is. Just like as i have read here and experienced some times a guy does not pick up on the clues and i know girls can be the same way. for me if i see or hear or feel the guy is enjoying himself it makes it all worth while. you guys have a great day.

  33. Ace

    September 15, 2014 at 9:29 pm

    My girl loves giving head as I have taught her to orgasm while sucking my cock , she will suck for hours as she is cumming hard while doing this to me , her mouth and pussy are cumming while sucking me , such a beautiful thing to behold. Ace

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