“To me sex is sex and I don’t think it is or should be a problem. Maybe my presenting it that way will unscrew up a few heads out there, including my own.” – Jaime Hernandez
You’ve likely never discussed self-pleasuring with your partner. But you’re lucky enough to have me! I went there and got women to spill the beans on how they make themselves happy. You don’t need me to tell you that masturbating can be an awesome release. But there is a benefit you may not have considered: learning what kind of touches her body likes and responds to can help you hit the big O more easily while having sex. To put you on that path, I’ve asked readers to share their hot hands-on techniques (I know you’ve always been curious about how your practices compare). Turns out women are a creative bunch! Read on for erotic inspiration.
“First, I take a long, hot shower and use a vanilla-scented body wash. Then I go to my bedroom, light candles, put on sexy music, and rub lotion over my entire body. Finally, I begin touching myself. Starting slowly gets me really excited and ready for an orgasm.” – Roslyn
“Instead of lying flat on my back, I prefer to lie on my stomach. Then I slip my fingers underneath my body and down below, and go to work. Being on my tummy creates a tighter sensation and allows me to feel every ripple of pleasure much more strongly.” – Jessica
“Occasionally, I have a hard time working myself up. So I like to put a little dollop of lube on two fingers. Then I make light circles around my clitoris. As I get more excited, I add more pressure… and the extra lubrication makes it really smooth. Right before I climax, I flex my Kegel muscles – it usually sends me right over the edge.” – Dana
“When I’m almost at the point of reaching an orgasm, I grab the phone and dial my boyfriend. I love telling him what I am in the middle of doing. It instantly gets him excited, and he loves listening to me have fun with myself. Knowing he’s privy to my personal plans is an extra turn-on for me too.” – Elaine
“I am all about using a vibrator when my guy isn’t around. I set it on medium to high speed and put it directly on my clitoris. When I’m on the brink of climaxing, I move it so just the very tip enters my vagina. That always gives me a really powerful ending.” – Tammy
“I have a detachable showerhead that works wonders. The warm water and steady pressure are all it takes. I prop up one leg on the edge of the tub and point the spray between my legs. Every once in a while, I will bring the spray up to my nipples and then lower it back down to arouse other parts of my body.” – Brenda
“I have a really hard time getting myself in the mood. It helps if I watch an extra-hot movie scene with a sexy leading man. I particularly like the library scene between Keira Knightley and James McAvoy in Atonement.” – Elise
“Getting in the right position is the most important thing. I have to be comfortable and able to do my thing at the same time. I like to lean back in a big, cushy armchair instead of lying down completely horizontal on my bed. Being more upright keeps me focused on what I’m doing and makes it easier for me to reach down and touch all my hot spots.” – Susan
“My apartment has a luxurious whirlpool tub in the bathroom. I like to put the jets on high, sit so I am about a foot away from them, and then open my legs so the water streams shoot straight at my clitoris.” – Karla
“I prefer to use a tapping motion. I put my middle and pointer fingers together as I were checking my pulse, and then I gently start to tap them over my clitoris. I go fast or slow and change the pressure depending on how quickly I want to reach my peak.” – Kim
“I straddle the arm of my couch and ride it. I like moving my pelvis back and forth, and sometimes I even move my hips up and down. It feels almost exactly like rubbing up against my guy.” – Pam
“A few light tugs on my labia feel incredible and help get me excited enough to continue with some more intense stroking.” – Samantha
Have a sexy week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. In order to see which technique works better on your partner, dare her to show you. In order for her to comply, you have to show your own moves in return. For more information about using your fingers in hot new ways, check out my program on the matter – Flirting Fingers.
