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Fisting: The Fingering Final Frontier

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Fisting: The Fingering Final Frontier

Fisting… because sometimes your fingers just aren’t enough!

Let’s get this out of the way first. This kind of play isn’t for everyone. Before we get in to the specifics, you should know that your wife may not even be curious about fisting, let alone excited to give it a go. Fisting is an incredibly challenging and rewarding experience for any couple that endeavors to try it out, but don’t put pressure on your lover if she simply isn’t into it.

Of course, just because she has some hesitations doesn’t mean you should just give up on the idea! Fisting is something you are going to have to work up to, no matter how excited everyone is about the whole thing. There are two very important aspects to any fisting experience – lube and time. Even with plenty of both, you’ll be starting out with a finger or two and working your way up. Why not see how two, three, or four fingers feel before you make a final decision?

Lube Job

Do you pay much attention to your lover’s monthly cycles? If not, this is certainly a great reason to start. The vaginal canal tends to deepen and the cervix softens as a woman nears ovulation, so you can use the ten to twenty days after menstruation to prepare her body and maximize her enjoyment.

Start with a natural oil massage. Use an organic coconut oil and after a relaxing full body rub down, have your wife lay back on the bed with her legs spread wide, bent at the knees. Massage her perineum, the area between her vaginal opening and anus, with gentle pressure. Relaxing this area isn’t just important for fisting, but it is also a wonderful exercise for expecting mothers to prepare the birthing canal. Perform this sexy little exercise nightly until you are comfortable going further, ideally for a week or two.

When it comes time for the main event, prepare yourself with a high quality silicone lube that won’t get sticky or absorb into the skin. If you want a bit of extra slickness, try putting on a smooth latex glove. Cover your fingers in lube as you insert them, one at a time. Start with only one or two fingers, allowing the lube on your digits to coat her canal.

Ensure that whatever lubricant you choose is safe, clean, long-lasting, and most importantly designed to be used with any kinds of safe sex accessories or toys you might bring along to the party. Spot test any new lubricant to be sure that neither of you have any reaction to the ingredients.

Stretch!

Be sure to get lots of feedback as you progress from two up to three fingers. If she is enjoying three, move up to four. Be very careful not to penetrate too deep as you progress. When it comes time to move beyond four fingers, you should reshape your hand accordingly, tucking your thumb into your palm. You may also want to bend your fingertips in to your palm as well, depending on her depth and cervical softness.

This is not an afternoon quickie, so don’t try this on a busy day when you are pressed for time. Set aside several hours to relax together and enjoy your time. If you have large hands, it is unlikely you’ll make it “all the way” on the first, second, or even third try. It just may not be in the cards for you. If on the other hand you have a narrow hand and/or short fingers, you might just be in luck!

Keep Her Coming

The easiest way by far to loosen the vaginal canal is the magic of orgasm! Your multi-orgasmic lover will find fisting easier after her first, second, or third orgasm – why not try one for each finger! If vaginal orgasms are difficult for your partner to achieve, be sure to give her lots of clitoral stimulation, along with a nice long warm up. Foreplay is of the utmost importance, so be sure to hit all her erogenous zones. Now you see why time is so important!

You’ll Know

When she does come, you will know, especially if you have penetrated all the way to the wrist. If you haven’t found her g-spot, be prepared! Being so full is bound to hit all her spots, especially if you twist your wrist lightly (instead of pumping in and out). When she starts to come, she may not want any further stimulation, and you’ll have your hands full just keeping your hand inside her! If there was every a reason to be in awe of female power, you’ll know if when you feel her muscles clamp down on your hand, and you wonder if you’ll ever get it back!

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14 Comments

14 Comments

  1. David Harrison

    December 29, 2011 at 9:33 pm

    Gabrielle,
    I do not understand why a women would want this even when very slow over several hours. It seems that the women psychologically is shifting to wanting her body to be handled at a muscular level where involuntary contractions are brought forward to happen. Women I know do not ask for that. Do we have to read minds again?

  2. Viv

    January 3, 2012 at 4:10 am

    Hi Gabi,

    I have never bought your materials but I think that you should start illustrating what you’re talking about with some pictures or animations.
    Frankly consider it. A picture is worth a thousand words. I ca’t think of buying your materials and then coming back to you with questions every time I read a page.

  3. enoughsex

    January 5, 2012 at 7:37 am

    Gabrielle dnt you think we are getting over heads a little bit. I am fisting is abit a lot for sexual pleasure. How high can we get or should we target..am afriad one day you will teLl us to try autoerotic asphysiaxtion or some sick shit

    my take cute simple sex is the best..the way nature and god inteneded it to be

    Where there is true real love normal sex is high and sweet enough without being weird

  4. minny

    January 5, 2012 at 8:12 am

    Hey jst gt website on my boyfrwends 4ne n I thot it cud help…our sex life is great I always find it hard 2 orgasm I even sumtyms fake…so wat is it dat shud do 2 reach ma g-spot

  5. Kiki

    January 5, 2012 at 9:20 am

    This is a hot experience. My husband was shocked! LOL
    But alas, I STILL didn’t come :.(.

  6. latebloomer

    January 6, 2012 at 9:18 am

    Dear Gabi,a million thanks and hats off,for your concern ,tips and valuable time spend on me,much regret having not ventured into this wonderful sensual world earlier at 61 today in good health and fine tuned now,i am now daring and free minded to let go all my up pent feelings with partners likeminded.armed with your arsenal i must say that life’s contentment and fulfilment archieved………..keep up your good work!!

  7. t

    January 6, 2012 at 3:32 pm

    several hours? c’mon ”gab”, THINK.

  8. Natraj

    March 5, 2012 at 7:42 am

    Dear Truthseeker,Thank you for expressing your views so fully. Your pvrpsectiee is very natural given that you are male. It is difficult for a man to appreciate just how different sex is for a woman.Men’s sexuality is so evident that women have an easier task of accepting that men experience sex differently. Female sexuality is much less obvious and, since women often lack the courage or the patience to persevere, men’s fantasy view tends to dominate.Unfortunately making all kinds of vague psychological excuses for women’s sexuality can be undermining of women’s experiences. I am just telling you the way it is I have no problem enjoying my own arousal and orgasm. I have masturbated regularly to orgasm from the age of seventeen. I am also confident that I have no hang-ups about sex.There is nothing wrong with women just because they don’t respond sexually as men do. As long as you keep hoping that they should then you will always think women are dysfunctional.If you think about it for just a couple of minutes, you would know that there has to be a difference. Men pay for sex, women don’t. Men buy porn, women don’t. Men masturbate, most women don’t. Women need foreplay, men don’t.Women are not full of testosterone (the sex hormone) and do not use images of naked men for orgasm during masturbation (women use fantasy). So how on earth are they supposed to become as easily aroused as men do during sex with a partner?Women use fantasy because they have to raise their arousal levels from a much lower base level than men tend to have at the start of any sexual activity (masturbation or sex). Women are just not as highly sexed as men.Female sexual arousal and orgasm are both much more difficult to achieve during sex than male. Anyone who is not a virgin would appreciate this point.In these stories I am telling you about my experiences and those of women I have talked to. Ways Women Orgasm is a site where men need to listen. Specifically this is not an arena where men tell women what they think female sexuality should be.

  9. Dave

    March 31, 2012 at 10:21 am

    Hi sugarcane. The weather is so nice here in nairobi for mating. Nevertheless I personally feel very bad about guys who come prematurely. It is a very grave shortcoming. Now, the upper side of a womans virgina is where pleasure is. This is the place a guy should hit strongly with the glans of his soldier.Not forgetting the outer and the inner lips with his finger. Later, the finger to the G SPOT.Etc…etc.

  10. Gary Moore

    June 9, 2012 at 6:33 pm

    Interesting material love, but frankly my womans pussy is to loose now, would rather
    have it tighter, thank you.

  11. Sundar

    October 5, 2012 at 9:18 am

    Natraj is only partially right I think. Who said women do not masturbate? I think their main stay for orgasm is marturbating themselves, with their own fingers…

    Like the author says in her several material, mentally first you have to tune in your women. That’s the main key. Then losing momentum you have to keep up with all sort of approach (with mouth and fingers) all over her body and especially the clitoris, the nipples and the tummy&below. This foreplay, along with mental tuning in starts to have effect on the kegel muscles of the women and then the rest is magic few moments for which you have to closely watch out the signals women’s body make and then enter in nicely and simply have it pumped up-up-away to both orgasming together…In my experience this way, I have made women sequential two orgasms one after the other…of course I had only one !!!!

  12. dan hiebert

    July 29, 2014 at 11:48 pm

    after reading these responses it does not surprise me why divorce is so high. granted many people whether for religeous or prudish upbringings cannot comfortably explore their own sexuality or the needs and wants of their partners,. that being said, men come easily and women do not. that is all the more reason as a man to try. try to understand her cycles, hormone response and really, really spend the time it takes to find her pleasure centers and pay attention to what feels the best, what gets her off, and what part of her cycle she is in. being able to make her come once twice or even three times before you do is being a caring and attentive lover and leads to sexual satisfaction for you both. then and only then should any non traditional things be attempted. if you cant be bothered to bring her pleasure first then you have no right to ask for anything extra. start with her mind, then gentle touch and carress, excite her being and her body will follow. spend the time and it will be an investment!

  13. Sundar

    October 10, 2014 at 8:58 am

    I recently read that there is nothing called vaginal orgasm (scientifically proved) for women. It is ONLY the outer of vagina and the CLIT (so called female penis)….If this is true how will fisting do anything….except seriously hurt and scare the woman….Women need to come out with more concrete do’s and don’ts (at least that will be true for 80% of them) so that there is some baseline.

  14. Melissa

    June 16, 2016 at 5:00 am

    Well I found this article because my new Dom (I’m a bdsm submissive) fisted me today for the first time in my life. It was also my first sexual encounter with him. I didn’t think that I would be able to take his whole fist inside of me. And personally I have never wanted to try it. I honestly did it to make him happy, and to show him that I trust him. This was honestly the most amazing sexual experience of my life. I had the strongest orgasm I’ve ever had, and it’s really hard for me to cum without a vibrator. I do kegels every day and have always been told that I’m tight, especially for having four kids. I would honestly suggest trying this if you are even remotely interested. I’m sure I will be sore tomorrow but it will definitely be worth it. Already looking forward to the next time I get to see Sir. ?

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