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Craving Your Caresses

“At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.”
– PlatoThere is nothing more worrisome in a marriage than the realization after the new-relationship-energy begins to fade that you and your partner do not share the the same libido love style. If you are relying too heavily on plain vanilla intercourse in your sex life, it’s hard to keep up with someone who might have a more active libido than yours, and difficult to take your time if you sometimes feel like you have to fight for the chance to get busy in bed.

Taking the time to get to know these ten types profiled by  Dr. Sandra Pertot in her book, “When Your Sex Drives Don’t Match” will set you on the road to recovery from a misaligned motives and untimely urges. Which one are you? How about your wife?

The Entitled Egotist

This lover has convinced themselves of some serious sexual skills, when they are in reality quite lacking. Feeling as if they are entitled to do whatever they need to enjoy an orgasm, their partner is likely to feel left out, especially any shy types who don’t have the heart to ask for what they really want. If you are this kind of lover, you should have your wife use her hands, to show you what she really wants when you touch her.

The Absorbed Addict

The addictive lover doesn’t just love sex, they need it on a daily basis. If regular sex is lacking in their lives, other areas tend to suffer, and intimacy is no exception. If an absorbed partner isn’t getting what they want, they are much less likely to hesitate before cheating, rationalizing that having this need fulfilled elsewhere will make them a better partner. Use your hands to keep up to this firecracker, who is going to need your fancy fingering on a very busy schedule.

The Scared-and-Stressed

Sex isn’t always an enjoyable event, especially for anyone who grew up in an extremely sex-negative environment, or who has experienced trauma in a sexual event. Characterized not only with a low libido, but with a very high level of fear and stress associated with any kind of sexual contact, this lover needs you to go slow and uncover the secret sore spots that need healing. Learning to accept their own body and pleasure through masturbation is the first step.

The Demure Disinterested

This libido is really defined by a lack of libido and has many different causes and outcomes. Foremost, sex is not going to be a big motivator, but intimate touch can definitely still be enjoyed. Don’t assume that a lover disinterested in the standard idea of sex will also pass up your hands-on advances.

The Distracted Detached

It isn’t as if the distracted lover doesn’t enjoy sex, but if it’s isn’t the first thing on the to-do list, of will fall by the wayside or get stashed on the back burner…. maybe even until it burns and sets of the smoke alarm. Setting a schedule to enjoy some time together is a great way to remind yourself or your partner that sex is on the agenda, and ensuring that distractions have been shut off or put away will help keep the focus on what matters.

The Chronic Compulsive

Sometimes a person finds themselves filling a specific sexual need with fetish and fantasy, like BDSM and pornography. There is certainly nothing wrong with a little experimentation, but chronic compulsive lovers learn to only orgasm through specific, ritualized sex acts without being able to truly feel the freedom that pleasureable sex allows. Exploring the wide range of touch sensation can help bring this partner back from the brink of addiction.

The Distraught Dependent

Sex can be one of the best stress relievers, and the dependent libido knows this, relying almost solely on sexual release to relax. If sex isn’t regular, this libido type is likely to get frustrated easily, which can lead to a cycle of fighting and make-up sex, so use your fingers wisely to massage and manipulate your lover to orgasm when they need to loosen up.

The Resigned Reactive

A reactive libido relies entirely on the instigation of a partner, so be prepared to let your magic hands do the talking and turn her on. A reactive partner will take some time to get going, so use your fingers wisely so you can reserve your energy until she’s had the chance to heat up.

The Seductive Sensual

This exotic creature can be described as passionate, emotional and expressive, especially in the realm of sexuality which is the true expression of love. Sensual surprises are the best way to tease and tantalize, so if your wife falls into this category, use your handy helpers to massage her, feed her, bathe her, caress her, even spank her lightly!

The Eager Erotic

Intense and demanding describes the erotic lover perfectly, always seeking adventure. Any kind of sex is acceptable when it comes right down to it, but definitely not enough. A partner can’t rest until they agree to try something new and different to alleviate the boredom of ho-hum sex. Fingers are so versatile, you can learn a new move every week and with practice, expand your repertoire so she never knows what’s coming.

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7 Comments

  1. Khrys

    August 5, 2011 at 2:28 am

    Gabrielle; You are always so sexy and hot and you must be horny for sex 24/7?

    Kind of pity that guy of yours though!
    You either have have him drugged up all the time or he just can`t stand to let you out of his site for even a second being afraid to lose the best lady on thois planet to ever be in his arms and between his legs of total fulfilment each and every second of his life!

    Any room for some sweet secret message and a joint relief of pleasure?;>)

    Just kidding Gabrielle.Wishing and dreaming is still free?
    Love your love! Hugs and kisses and cuddles babe!
    Is that guy of yours jealous? I definitely would be if I were him!?;>)
    Khrys

  2. abraham

    August 5, 2011 at 4:50 am

    U R Super lovly lady.U R teaching us & improoving our sexual needs.
    kisses
    Abraham

  3. crystal

    August 5, 2011 at 7:03 am

    I’m a 26 year old female and my boyfriend is 37. I always want him and he always turns me down. I know that I am attractive bc I get hit on a lot and have guy friends who tell me I have a wonderful personality and they are envious of my man. He has a lot of issues w his ex wife. Could that be why he’s never in the mood or do u think something else is gng on? I swear I’m never bitchy but lately I feel like biting his head off! I just wanna get laid. All his exs cheat on him and I’m not about to join the band wagon. I love him but I want sum! Help crystal.

  4. pradip

    August 5, 2011 at 9:18 am

    i have tested your fingering with a teen girl of 18 years old she became rest less after 15 minutes. and compeled me for inter course and lost her verginity.
    this total episode went for 45 minutes.
    now that girl became my regular partner i am 52 years old free from any dieses.

  5. Heather

    August 5, 2011 at 10:01 am

    Gabrielle,
    I am a 63 yr old female who met the man of my dreams 3 years ago. I’ve been trying to get orgasmic for 3 years and it’s just not happening as I have been celibate for most of my life (except for a three year period).
    Is there any hope for me? I love my husband dearly and would like to be able to express my love for him in this way.
    Thank you,
    Heather
    p.s. please email me back at heatherjhudson@hotmail.com

  6. matt donnelly

    August 5, 2011 at 6:51 pm

    Anyone who gets jealous is lacking in self-esteem and confidence which improves ones self-esteem.

  7. passions

    August 11, 2011 at 10:04 pm

    precautions to not get infected of hiv virus by anyone whose infected with hiv virus . please send me all tips and details to not get infected with hiv virus as soon as possible

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