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A Man’s Hands: Bringing Out the Best

Fingering Techniques

A Man’s Hands: Bringing Out the Best

He that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools.
– ConfuciusIf your fingers are your key to playing your lover like an instrument, then you want them to be in the best shape possible, right? Well love, you’re in luck. I’ve got some great exercises here to give you the chance to improve on the four fronts of fingering skill: flexibility, strength, dexterity and sensitivity. Let’s get started, shall we?

Flexibility: Pull, Bend and Stretch

Range of motion is the important aspect of flexibility, which is defined by your ability to bend at the joints. For our purposes, the joints of the fingers, wrists and arms should move easily and with grace so you can get into poses and positions that will really rock her world. Don’t get carried away in your initial exploration with your wife, and be sure to stretch before you get started or you might pull a muscle!

Beginning with the fingers of one hand, try using the opposite palm to pull each of your digits gently backward, toward the arm. Do the same with a bend at the wrist, stretching gently back toward the forearm. Be sure to spend lots of time focusing on the stretch; yoga and standard upper body stretching routines are great for opening up the muscles and joints in the forearms, biceps, shoulders and chest.

Strength: Squeeze, Walking, Wring, Support

Strength, in a sense, isn’t just about the power behind each movement in the hand, but the stamina that allows the repetitive movement that is absolutely necessary to take your wife all the way to orgasm. There aren’t any actual muscles in the fingers themselves, but the fibers that do control these body parts need a lot of strength to pull this off.

There are four great movements that work together to improve overall hand and upper body strength. Starting again with the fingers, the action of squeezing and releasing the tension in the hand helps to build overall hand strength in both the fingers and the palm. You can use a walking motion, a la “Thing” from the Adams Family, to stretch and strengthen the individual fingers. The wringing motion of the wrists is a great move to build muscle, using a dry towel held in each hand and twisting. The final stretch exercise focuses on the arms, using push=ups or moves like the Downward Facing Dog in yoga to improve the overall fitness of the arms, chest and shoulder.

Dexterity: Lift & Flip

Dexterity is a skill that is really about precision, being able to isolate your movements. Can you place your palm flat on the table and lift your fingers one at a time? How about if you hold your hand out, palm facing you, and attempt to bend each finger in toward your wrist, one at a time, without moving the others?

You may recognize the best exercise for this purpose as a Vegas party trick, but it’s not just good for impressing women while sharing a cocktail! Practice flipping a coin (or something lighter, like a poker chip) first on the pads of your finger, “passing” it from one finger to the next by flipping it over. When you have mastered the pass palm up, switch to flipping the coin over your bent knuckles!

Sensitivity: Touch, Pressure, Layers

The sensitivity of the hand is primarily in the palm side of the skin, where the nerves are responsible for locating minute changes in texture, pressure and density. Try one exercise to focus on each! For texture, challenge yourself to find a hair or thread with your fingertip, while it hides between pieces of paper (tissue or telephone book quality), slowly increasing the number of pages until you can no longer feel the change.

The Resilient Edge of Resistance
Tackle pressure using a balloon or inflated ball to find “the resilient edge of resistance”. Described by Barbara Carellas in “Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the 21st Century”, this boundary is the space that lies between touch that is too light and touch that is too heavy. When your fingers just glide over the surface of the balloon, without affecting the shape at all, your touch is too light. Hold the balloon in the palm of your hand and begin to squeeze. There will come a point when the balloon stops being simply displaced by your hand, and begins to stretch. This stretching is the beginning of a touch that is too rough.

When you feel you have identified the resilient edge of resistance in the balloon, it’s time to move to a human being. Because most of our bodies aren’t inflated with gas, there is a density to them that we can sense when our touch is just right. Start by feeling the air above the skin, the tiny hairs that set off the nerves. Move to the skin, then the subcutaneous fat layer, then muscle and tendons, then bone. In the five touches, you can improve your sense of your wife’s body just holding her hand as you walk down the street.

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19 Comments

19 Comments

  1. memmed feeji

    August 18, 2011 at 3:04 am

    always my wifa runs away from sex and touching and sitting near me and my pesikolojic condition of mine is soo bad.so my errictioc is so late and difficult.i am sad and i have no other girl friend to speak and touch her.please send me some sex clip.

  2. Mark

    August 18, 2011 at 3:55 am

    What I don’t understand this persons email…. Did you ever hear of spell check?

    I mean I enjoy reading others comments almost as much as I enjoy reading the articles, but when you can’t understand them then what’s the use…. .
    Sorry about this email Gabrielle I just had to sound off on this.

  3. jamesmurphy

    August 18, 2011 at 4:33 am

    I want to learn more about the touch for a woman.

  4. sanjiv sabharwal

    August 18, 2011 at 5:04 am

    how can i request my spouse to have oral sex with me.i have a keen desire to get my penis sucked by her

  5. GSWASAN

    August 18, 2011 at 5:17 am

    Hi Gaby,
    nice to read your message.My wife and I had a nasty argumemnts accusing each other on many issues,though it was not physical nor about our character or financial matters.it was over tastless food my wife prepared and she in turn retaliated for my lack of sensitivity.Since then, it is almost two months we had not Sex nor we had any friendly talk, although, I have apologised many times but now she avoids any friendly chat and moves away the moment I reach near her.

  6. Dr. Philip Nathan

    August 18, 2011 at 7:24 am

    As usual a first class article although length constraints by default make it somewhat simplistic. I was also hoping for a newer more updated version as this is the same as was sent some six month ago
    However well put together and hits the nail on the head
    Thanks as always

  7. Jessie

    August 18, 2011 at 6:12 pm

    More guys need to read your book and learn that they can use more than their cocks to satisfy us. A good tongue and fingers work well also!!!

  8. cliffins

    August 19, 2011 at 12:40 am

    Cudos!!!.U’re one of a million.How i wish i’ve somebody like u as my wife.A weekend spent wit u, would ammount to a hundred years in a paadise.

  9. wiser

    August 19, 2011 at 12:59 am

    I really enjoyed every bit of words that u share to us. Your techniques works and its not only cock that can do the work. We have different tools that can work more than the cock.

  10. Jim

    August 19, 2011 at 2:50 am

    Thanks, Gaby. You are always a source of good, useful information. I always love it when I gently run my fingers up and down a woman’s arm, and she gets goose-bumps and starts telling me all her sexual secrets.

  11. sheena

    August 19, 2011 at 5:51 am

    I donot get rection inspite of all your techniues.i am of 50 now

  12. sawman

    August 19, 2011 at 6:23 am

    you hit the nail on the head jessie. hi gaby, this is my first comment on this site. its very informitive. you got another fan. on what jessie said, she’s right. i useto just jump on and bang it as long as i could. but through the years i found out women sometimes dont get off as easy as i thought. so i wanted to find out, what do women like and want and even fantacise on. like a guy will lie just to get into her pants. her, if she lets him in, she’s expecting the gratest lover there is. then he jumps off and doesent want her to close, cuse he’s done. her, if you can read her eyes.she’s saying, you dirty rat. him, wants a scend chance. same thing. so now i got to enjoy the forplay. that got me into loveing oral sex. and you know sometimes it gets a little jucy or wet. so now i have a towl and washpan near so i can whip my mouth and her and keep on going. i use a few pillowes to make us comfortable to go even longer. and at the time i talk or ask if im hearting her, or if it feels good that way, or if she wants it harder or softer. but sometimes my mouth is full, so she can use her hands grabing my head to control how she wants it. i like it that way, cuse when my mouth is full, i dont want to stop. doing it that way, i found out one of womens fantise. it’s having a man give her oral for as long as she can stand it. and thats what i like. she can join in if she wants, but im starting first. once i asked a girl how many times can you cum. so i told her to try to hold back or just cum a little if she can. she had to stop me after she came 9 times. you should of seen me with a big smille on my face. then she returned the faver and kept on going till i was hard again, then it was on. well i think you get the picture, ha. i talk too much. wish i could find another women like that, but there rear.

  13. DON

    August 19, 2011 at 11:32 am

    Gaby, you are wonderful.But how will I convince my wife to allow me touch her pussy during foreplay as she does not like fingering?

  14. Steve

    August 19, 2011 at 7:28 pm

    As for the frustration that ‘memmed feeji’ expressed, I too know of that lonliness. As a disabled person, it is hard to get others to touch you, sometimes even talk with you. The stigma is in their head, unfortunatly that transferrs to ones self. It’s not about your heart, it’s about their inability to cope with your unfortunate situation. Maybe prayer would comfort your soul, even if she won’t comfort the other.

  15. Kawos

    August 19, 2011 at 8:08 pm

    When I read comment of Mr.Don , I laughed
    because in 1983 in Europe a woman in my age from east european was my first girl-friend, I had no experiences about sex ,but every human natural has sense without any body teach her/him ,what to do before sex, every time I wanted to touch her vagina ,she angry took my hand ! On that time I thaught all women do not like to touch them vagina/sheath.

    The male Dog without to can read the good advises of Madam G.Moore automatic leck the sheath female Dog before sex.

    Hi Madam Moore , I know lots of things that maybe you did not learn till now ,but I love your writtens and advises,and I will read in future also your writtens.

    In future if I have time ,maybe write my advise to you.

    I write to you that you become inform about some things. You are free to print or not print my comments. I use commen computers ,I do not have in my apartment a computer till now,for it I can not read soon every message that you send me. Some time in a week I work with computer 2 0r 3 times,and first I see political Sites. I want to read a few messages you sent me in 10 days but this week I can not ,I will read next week all of them. Thank You

  16. sameer

    August 19, 2011 at 8:52 pm

    it is really good to read and get a good informatiom about it, i appriciate to you
    i feel good . in spite of having four medical operations in my body these information help much.

  17. ram

    August 20, 2011 at 1:59 am

    maybe if you put some images then it could be more easy to understand 🙂

  18. Jeff

    August 20, 2011 at 4:18 pm

    I’ve never liked the term “finerging” when it pertains to touching a woman… and really all of this is about how exactly to touch a woman. The very last paragraph resonated with me more than everything else written before it. For me it’s not only “the air above her skin” but the energy that is created and moves between your fingertips and the heat of her skin. If you can immerse yourself in the energy … feel as if light is extending from your fingertips , her body can do nothing but respond to this kind of touch… magic.

  19. Ramsey

    August 24, 2011 at 3:14 am

    hi Gabbie, It’s really wonderful to read all the comments, howeve ‘ll appreciate if some pictorial guide is also given for enhnce the knowledge.

    Regards and cheers.

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