“Kinky is using a feather. Perverted is using the whole chicken.”
When you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it’s easy for things to become routine, including your sex life. If things have gotten a bit ho-hum, then the chances are good that your partner feels the same way. Maybe it’s time for something new!
Not all of these ideas will appeal to everyone. Broach the subject with your partner and see what she thinks. If she’s reluctant, suggest you try a few things at least once. She might surprise you, and she might be surprised at the powerful orgasms she experiences.
Try Sex in Unusual Places
If you’ve found yourselves in a sexual rut, the answer could be as simple as geography. Think about it—how long has it been since you’ve had sex anywhere except the bed? You probably have several other rooms in your home; why not use them? Sex in the shower can be a steamy, erotic experience, but you might find it a little too slippery. Try out the living-room couch, the guest-room bed or in front of a roaring fire. If you’re adventurous, make a love date in the back of the SUV, parked in a romantic location. The thrill of getting caught adds a naughty element that will heighten the experience.
Experiment with Role Playing
It might seem clichéd, but role playing is a great way to begin experimenting with your sexual relationship. Discuss role play with your lady and decide on an adventure that appeals to both of you. Perhaps you’re a policeman who has caught her doing something naughty—or vice versa. You could be a sexy burglar who surprises her in the shower. Perhaps you’re a pirate, and she’s an innocent young maiden. You get the idea! It might feel silly at first, and you’ll probably laugh together, but you’ll create an exciting atmosphere in which anything can happen.
Explore Her Fantasies
Not every woman is willing to share her fantasies with her partner, but yours might. Ask her if she’s ever wanted to do something she thought you wouldn’t agree to. It might be something simple, such as pretending you’re a celebrity crush, or something more complex, like acting out an elaborate fantasy she’s been dreaming about for years. Whatever it is, go with it. If the idea excites her, you’ll become excited, too, just by watching her arousal. Also, simply by trying to please her you’ll show her how much you love her and continue to build the trust that’s important in every love relationship.
Play with Toys
If you’ve never tried sex toys, now is the time to start! If you’re shy about visiting a store, explore one of the many thousands of online adult sites, many of which have been designed to make newcomers feel welcome. Sex toys can be expensive, so start with a few items you think you both might really enjoy, such as a vibrator, exotic love lotions, sexy board games or feather toys. One of the best toys you can purchase is a remote-controlled vibrator, which attaches with a belt around her waist and thighs. You control the amount of vibration and pleasure she experiences, which adds a new dimension to your sexual play. You might even suggest she wear it the next time you’re out on a romantic date!
Share Erotica Together
Men and women usually have very different ideas about erotica. Men tend to like visual stimulus, while women often prefer printed erotica. Why not share your interests with one another and see what happens?
Shop online or visit your local video store’s behind-the-curtain section and select an erotic film that appeals to both of you. You should be able to find a good selection of movies made for women, meaning the producers spend more time on the story than on bump-and-grind sex. You may not wind up watching most of the movie—once things start heating up onscreen, your lady might, too!
Another idea is to read a book together. Shop online for erotic books—not pornography, but real books with characters and storylines. Take turns reading to each other in bed or in another romantic setting. You can even find waterproof erotica books to read in the bath!
More Romance = More Powerful Orgasms
So what’s the point of all this extra effort? Extra-strong orgasms! When women feel pampered, cared about and cherished, they open up to new sexual experiences and allow themselves to relax and enjoy the ride. A few unusual and erotic activities will turn up the romance and turn on your lady.