While sex is all about getting intimate with your partner, you both have one goal in mind: to reach orgasm. At least that’s what I hope you both want. It would be terrible to hear you’re only concerned about your own pleasure and your partner’s orgasm comes second. Especially given the fact that women aren’t so lucky when it comes to the easiness of their climaxes. In fact, only 20% of women can have an orgasm from vaginal penetration alone, the poor souls.
To make things easier for you, I’m going to let you in on a little secret. You can up the odds of her orgasm – this is where the blended orgasm comes in. A blended orgasm is achieved via a combination of clitoral and vaginal stimulation. However, it can also mean to blend multiple erogenous zones at the same time, thing the G-Spot, the A-Spot, nipples and even anal stimulation.
Given the fact that most women (70% of them, to be more exact) need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, the blended orgasm is your best bet on the path to mutual sexual bliss. Why? Because blended orgasms last longer and are more intense, thus giving you enough time to make sure your partner reaches the finish line as well.
To reach a blended orgasm it’s best to experiment with different options to see what works for her. Here are four different ways you can give her a blended orgasm:
1. Get handsy
Penetrative sex teamed with clitoral stimulation is one of the best ways to achieve a blended orgasm. One of the best positions to achieve this is doggy style, where you can go deep and also reach around to stimulate the clitoris. While you might think that doggy is the perfect way to spice up vanilla, missionary sessions, it’s actually much more orgasmic than you would have previously thought. But if you’re not reaching around and stimulating her clitoris, you can kiss the orgasm bye, bye. If you’re only focusing on G-Spot stimulation and going as deep as possible, you partner might feel disconnected and she might even feel pain around the cervix.
2. Go through the backdoor
Women can have anal orgasms through indirect stimulation of the erogenous zones inside of the vagina – both the G-Spot and the A-Spot. These erogenous zones share a wall with the rectum – and combining this with clitoral stimulation will have her toes curling. The clitoris is shaped like a wishbone, and for many women the clitoris extends all the way down the anus, thus when you’re stimulating her anus, you’re also stimulating the clitoral legs. With all this stimulation going on, your chances of giving your partner an intense orgasm are good. But don’t hurry into it, though. Start by giving her a butt massage and using relaxing moves to enhance pleasure, such as going from light to firm, teasing, and pinching.
3. Go old fashioned
You should consider your hands and fingers your most important tools in the bedroom. It’s a common faulty belief among men that the penis is the ultimate tool in bed. I couldn’t disagree more. Your hands and fingers are much more reliable and versatile when it comes to giving women orgasms – especially blended orgasms. Fingers are the perfect way to combine sensations to make a blended orgasm. Warm her up using your fingers, tracing circles around her clitoris. Then insert your fingers into her while still stimulating the clitoris with your thumb or mouth. Curl the inserted fingers towards the belly button to hit her G-Spot. You’ve got yourself a winner.
4. Use toys
From couples’ toys, to anal beads and clitoral stimulators, the options are endless when it comes to spicing it up in the bedroom. Penis rings will add vibration – and they also help men to last longer, and you really do want this. If you last longer, you’re giving her time to fully enjoy herself and have an orgasm. See, you’re both winners in this case!
P.S. For more tips and tricks about how to achieve the elusive blended orgasm, check out my program on the matter – Orgasmic Addiction.