“Anticipation makes the hard-on longer.” – Itsby Stevintary
Sex and the Olympics go together like Michael Phelps and water. At the Olympic Games in Beijing, athletes were provided with 100,000 condoms (that’s more than 10 each!), and things got even hotter with 150,000 condoms shipped into London’s Olympic Village this year. But it’s not just the athletes who might want some podium-worthy action – all that Lycra is getting us a little flushed, too. If you’re feeling a similar stirring, grab your nearest female competitor and gear up for some Olympic-inspired fun. Just work out your competitive sex styles and how you can align them and you’ll be out of the starting blocks before the gun’s even fired.
If you’re a sprinter
Sharing a bed but your climaxes aren’t even in the same postcode? Part of the reason could be that women can take around 20 minutes to reach full arousal, while you’re perfectly capable of enjoying sweet post-coital dreams by then. So how can you have her join in the hard-and-fast run without her feeling unsatisfied at the end? The key lies in separating mind and body – getting the former psyched for what the latter is about to experience. So take foreplay down a notch, speed-wise. While she slips into her lingerie, after having taken a bath, start touching her lightly, brushing her thighs and breasts will make it feel extra hot once you finally take over and do the deed. Then once you’re in bed with her, don’t settle for just one position. If you’re a sprinter, if you linger on one single way of doing it, you’ll finish even faster. Alternatively, you can choose a less familiar spot to get naked (kitchen table?) as it will get her adrenaline pumping. She could also take hold of your penis and squeeze just below the head – the pressure will push blood back down your penis and diminish the sexual tension. Finally, try some dirty talk to ramp up the tempo for her and have her crossing the finish line neck and neck with you – if not first.
Too fast… It could be that you’re suffering from premature ejaculation – not necessarily a problem as long as you’re both happy. If not, there are things you can do about it – from mastering techniques during sex, to using shallow movements instead of deep thrusts. And if you’re often over keen, you could be looking for swift release from stress, or you might be simply so into her. Yeah, I’m guessing that’s it.
If you’re a diver
Going down on a woman is one of the most intimate moves a man can make, so it’s no surprise 43 per cent of women are keen for oral sex. If you love diving down below, try this trick. Suck her gently, as if through a straw. Once she’s aroused, form an “O” with your lips, pulling and releasing. It can be intense, so you should follow her cues to ensure the pressure works. If oral doesn’t feature in your repertoire, too bad! Especially if you’re more than keep on her giving you deep-sea action. And don’t think she doesn’t want it just because she never asks for it. A woman will never do that, so take the lead and you’ll both reap the benefits.
Victory Lap… Win! You are now an unselfish lover who wants to showcase how dedicated he is to her partner’s pleasure as well as his own. Let the reciprocal loving… and blowing begin!
If you’re a gymnast
Men fall into camps: the “lie back and let me do my thing” variety, versus the guy who sees sex as an extension of his gym workout. If you’re type two and boast good upper-body strength, you’re suited for positions that require you to take your partner’s weight. Indulge your inner caveman by going for sex against the wall with your partner’s legs wrapped around your waist, or take it to the shower to steam things up. If that doesn’t work for her, start in the missionary position and kneel up straight, holding her hips so her torso is at 45 degrees to the bed. A rocking motion should have both of you grinding to a climax in minutes. On the other hand, she can hone her inner gymnast by training her pelvic muscles – strong muscles result in strong orgasms!
Flex your muscles… Showing off your super-toned body and demonstrating your strength and flexibility are classic mating rituals designed to impress. You’re an alpha male and you enjoy the feeling of being in charge in the bedroom. However, that’s not to say you shouldn’t accept some female domination from time to time. So by all means, feel free to let her take over the spotlight.
If you’re a marathon man
A major scientific sex survey conducted found the perfect sex session lasts between seven and 15 minutes- and that some of us think even three minutes is “adequate” (really?). However, forget what the scientists say – taking it slowly could be the path to your most mind-blowing orgasm ever (and hers!). And if you’re the type of guy who enjoys pleasuring your partner, tantric sex could reap huge benefits for you both. If you can keep going, you could be in for a marathon session. Tantra isn’t just about opening your chakras and trying not to picture Sting naked: it’s also about enjoying each intimate moment of sex, not just the race to orgasm. First, plan a sexy night at home and find a way to bond that doesn’t involve sex – whether it’s taking a bath together or sharing a bottle of red wine. Then, when you’re both totally relaxed, it’s time to explore what turns you on physically and mentally. Just about any activity can be made erotic. To find out what works for you, try playing Yin Yang – where each of you takes it in turns to be Yang, in charge of requesting pleasure from your partner. A massage? A little bit of oral attention? Gentle stroking? Aim to spend three hours over the whole experience and you and your partner will be feeling a connection for days.
Long-distance lover… If your grinding leaves your partner feeling sore or bored (of the 60 per cent of women who’ve faked it, many cite this as the reason), speed it up by switching to the girl-on-top position. That way she gets to set the pace.
Have a lovely week,
P.S. The longest passion award goes to a married couple from Tayland that shared an unbroken kiss for 46 hours, 24 minutes and 9 seconds – that’s nearly two days! Who said romance was dead?