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How to give her a mind-blowing orgasm with oral sex

“Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken.” —Simone de Beauvoir

A lot of men seem to think that the one sure-fire way to bring their lover to orgasm is by performing cunnilingus. It seems so easy! All you have to do is lick her clitoris, right? Wrong! Good oral sex is a delicate balance between technique and timing. You can certainly learn the technique, but the timing is a little more difficult.

We’ll start with the easy part, technique. Although there are many different ways to perform cunnilingus, your partner’s preferences will vary wildly. Try several techniques to see what she likes, and then vary them to see what works best for her.

Licking

The same as with a kiss, a mushy tongue is unappealing to a woman receiving cunnilingus. Use your tongue as a muscle, concentrating your action on the tip of it. Flick her clitoris with a short, concentrated motion, varying your motions from time to time with longer strokes. This technique gives her quick jolts of pleasure mixed with brief moments of no stimulation, and then intense stimulation. You’ll be teasing her, increasing her sexual arousal and helping her build toward climax.

Rotating Tongue

Many people don’t realize that the area around the clitoris is also very sensitive. Again, use your tongue as a muscle and lightly trace the area around her clitoris with the just the tip of your tongue. Don’t get mushy! After you move around the area for a little bit, focus on licking small circles directly on her clitoris. Then go back to licking the area around it, as well as the rest of her labia and her vagina. Then move back to the clitoris. By concentrating the motion in small, tight circles and breaking up the action, you’ll soon have her revved up and ready for orgasm.

Tapping

Although not every woman likes this, those who do seem to love it. The idea is to flick your tongue in a sharp, quick pattern directly on her clitoris. It takes a little practice, but it’s well worth the effort. You won’t want to use this technique the entire time; mix it up with licking and the rotating tongue.

Tonguing the Alphabet

Another exciting variation to licking is tonguing the alphabet on her clitoris. Don’t tell her what you’re doing, or she might start giggling! Starting with A and ending with Z, cover the entire alphabet, and then start again. Repeat as necessary. This varied pattern will keep her body guessing about what’s going to happen next, tantalizing her. As she nears orgasm, focus on short, sharp licks. Variation is good at the beginning and middle, but at the end, she’ll probably want the same good technique until she climaxes.

Face Straddle

Many women enjoy being on top during cunnilingus. If that’s your partner’s preference, get comfy on the bed with your head on a pillow. Have her straddle your face with a knee on each side of your head and gently lower herself until she’s in reach. As you try different techniques, she’ll probably move above you, giving you clues about where to lick next. Follow her lead, and she’ll explode.

Timing Really is Everything

As I said earlier, the trickiest part of giving your partner satisfying oral sex is the timing. Your woman has probably used her hands to pleasure herself for years, and she knows what she likes. Unlike penetration, your tongue is a close approximation of her fingers, so your chances are 50-50 that you’ll either make her think of how she can do it better, or replicate her own technique, but better. The difference lies in paying attention to what you’re doing and following her clues, whether she speaks them aloud or shows you with her body.

Another thing to remember is that for many different reasons, not all women like receiving oral sex. It’s a very personal love act, and it might not always be the right time for her. She could feel dirty, embarrassed or pressured to fake an orgasm so that you won’t have to keep giving her selfless love. The best way to cope with these negative feelings is to talk about them beforehand. Make sure she understands that what you most want to do is give her pleasure. If she doesn’t have an orgasm, oral sex still feels great!

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  1. Joe

    seeing is believing show me….

  2. Bobby

    I’m 62 and crave oral sex but my wife told me years ago that she wasn’t into such things. I’d give anything for a fw hours with a beautiful woman who would let me engage in oral sex to my heart content but I see my life slipping away.

  3. Greg

    Hi Gabrielle, I’ve done all the advanced styles of oral sex for my wife, even during the week of her period, when most women feel dirty and unwanted. Women are
    very sexy at that time, but she has shut the door on that and sex totally. Very sever panic attacks and going through life’s changes might have something to do with that, and she has said that she hates all men, I said to try another woman, but
    she got very mad at that one. What now?

  4. Chad

    The one thing that I love doing is having her on the doggie style position and just trying a little bit of everything you just said. And licking her anal, as long as its clean. I have to admit I was hoping for something new. But I guess im doing everything right.
    Thank you!

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  6. roverlapdog

    Hi to all those weak men

    Try/do be assertive in your relationships as women do not like ‘wussies’.
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  7. Mario

    Gabrielle, Thank you. Very nice article and excellent teatching. The part I most loved is the one related to the alphabet. If I start doing this I will take at least one entire year to get the letter Z.Best Regards.

  8. Edward

    My fiance says she gets to sensitive after a couple of minutes and thus she doesnt orgasm. Please help me cause this is eating her up inside. Thanks

  9. Irish

    Nothing is sweeter than a wet, sweet, woman

  10. jm

    oral sex is like a ballon for us. blow it up[not realy]and let it down.eventualy it will burst[sexuly that is]and WOW what a climax.go slow,it realy work’s. JM

  11. SS

    I have recently started dating a younger woman (7 years my junior), who when we last were were fooling around wouldnt let me go down on her, and wouldnt do the same with me. How can I get her to be more sexually adventurous? I also was told she wanted to wait before we have sexual intercourse, as she has had some bad experiences from previous hookups and boyfriends. I do care about her, and want to show how much I do care. But at the same time I need my needs fulfilled. Any thoughts on how to get her to be more sexual with me?

  12. tug life

    I love to proform oral sex to my wife and she enjoy it a great deal,but she does’nt like doing it to me ,any comments about what I should do

  13. bobby forget

    My lady enjoys oral sex before and after. I haven,t tried the alphabet yet. Excellent idea.

  14. Auxtine

    Even in my early thirties, i’am sexualy aroused. I gasped all u wrote about and i cant thank u enough also being one of ur students.Tanks

  15. junaid

    hi i m 25 years. i m in relationship with 20 year girl we are sexually active and we started sex together she was virgin and i also had never sex before. we both did first time together. initially it was all fine and i can last in good time but now days i come early before here. i think i am in a problem of premature ejaculation. i want to increase and extent my timing as much as that i not only satisfy here but to provide here a great great pleasure and organism more than one time. I will be grateful for your early response.

  16. Shanie

    Gabs

    I must tell u it works like a bom. My man just know how to do things for me i tell him what i want and he just rock my world. U know im married for 23 years and sex now is better than ever. I also do it for him.

  17. soso

    i`m woman i love oral sex my husband refuse to give it to me some times i feel so horny and no fullfill for my desire couse my husband doesnot like sex im dying every moment

  18. Hello

    You are a goddess Gabriel Moore! Thanks for the heavenly pleasures you are sharing with us. MORE POWER!

  19. ggg

    I really like eaten pussy like my life depends on it and like seeing women cum into my face and then lick the sweet juice out. One common technique which is worth trying is the man on top in a 69 position. licking from this angle and sucking the clitoris give rise to massive explosion to the woman. this is so because your chin presses on the pelvic bone, wow it great.

  20. Flip

    THX that’s a great aswner!

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