I’m always surprised to see that most men have the same basic questions that they want to know about women. When it comes down to it, we all just want to understand each other better. Sometimes the opposite sex can seem to be a complete mystery. WHY do they do that? Why don’t they do that? What is she thinking?? Does she like that? You all know I’m a huge advocate of healthy communication between couples, but sometimes it isn’t that simple. It’s not always easy to ask the questions you really want to know and it’s not always easy to find the right answers.
Lucky for you all, you have a sex expert that knows the questions that you really want to know the answers to. Today that’s what we’re going to discuss, those 3 sex secrets that you always wanted to know about, but never got the nerve to ask.
Why is it so hard for her to cum?
This is one of the big questions men struggle with. Women are completely different when it comes to orgasming. Whereas men generally orgasm without problems, many women can’t orgasm from sex alone (one study estimates about 80%!). If that weren’t bad enough, it’s also estimated that 1 in 3 women don’t orgasm at all.
The answer to why is a lot more complicated than just one straight answer. Women often don’t orgasm from intercourse alone because they might only have clitoral orgasms. This is easily resolvable – you can manually stimulate her clitoris during sex or use a small vibrator. If that doesn’t work then you might want part of your foreplay (or post-play) to be something that will give her an orgasm (like oral sex or mutual masturbation).
For those that have trouble orgasming in general it could be related to a few different things. 1) She could have be distracted by outside concerns and stress, 2) she could be overly focused on body image issues or concern about her performance, 3) she could be self conscious about letting herself go during sex, 4) she/you have not found the right combination of sensation to get her to that moment yet. While most men fear that the real reason she can’t come is because they aren’t doing something right, usually it’s a combination of factors. One thing is for sure, don’t pressure her to orgasm. If she is enjoying sex with you without it, then keep exploring new things together and just see what happens.
How can I get her to try new things in bed?
Maybe you have been reading all about fun and exciting things to try on Gabrielle Moore, but once you actually have the chance to do them with your partner she doesn’t seem to be interested. Sound familiar? Try this: Each of you should make a list of the things you want to try in bed and then switch lists. Agree to try at least one thing on the other person’s list. Remember to be reasonable, guys, don’t fill the list with things you know she absolutely doesn’t want to do. If you put something on there that is fun and sexy, but doesn’t push the her limits too much she is more likely to agree to it. If she has a good experience trying something new with you that’s still within her comfort zone, she is more likely to be open to stepping outside it the next time.
How can we lust for each other like we did when we first met?
You’re not the only one who has been up late nights mulling this one over. She has also probably wondered why you’re not hot for each other like you once were and how you can reignite that passion. First, rest assured that this is completely normal and it happens in every relationship. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to lay back and accept it without a fight. Plan special date nights once a week or as often as you can. Try to reinvent that old excited feeling by meeting at the restaurant like you did before you lived together. Rub her leg under the table. Cuddle, kiss and be affectionate. Have sex at different times of day and in different places than your norm. Plan a weekend getaway. Sleep naked. Finally make a sexual bucket list together and then work on checking things off the list one by one.
Now that you know a little bit more about your partner, walk over and give her a big sexy kiss!
Your fun-loving sexpert,
Gabrielle Moore
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