If you’ve been successful at giving your lady orgasms, you know that all the effort is so worth it. Still, there are occasions when you want to speed up the satisfaction and make her climax easily and efficiently. Well, rejoice. The more you learn about her body’s responses, the more adept you’ll be at quickly making her come. Here are my best big O tactics. Used individually or all together, they will help you give her bliss in record time.
Use hot-spot hitting positions
Most women have two main areas of erotic real estate: the clitoris and the G-Spot (to find this dime-size spongy area along the front wall of her vagina, insert a finger and make a come here motion with your digit). The quickest way to make her see stars during sex is to stimulate these ones by way of strategic positions. Woman on top is probably the easiest pose to get her off because she can control the angle, depth, and speed and can easily touch herself. To give her clitoral stimulation, grind your pubic bone against her hot button. Varying the move may also crank up the heat faster. You could ask her to gyrate her hips in an oval rather than up and down. You will tease her clitoris every time she circles forward and her G-Spot as she goes backward. Doggie style is another quicker climax pose. You are angled right at her G-Spot, and you are giving her deep penetration. If you’re well endowed, you will also hit her A-Spot – an area some scientists say is above the G-Spot, toward her cervix, and that, when stimulated, can trigger an intense orgasm. Plus, if she gets self-conscious during sex, facing away from you helps her tune out her nerves. To up the arousal even more, ask her to squeeze her PCs (the muscles she contracts to stop the flow of urine) during intercourse… no matter what position you’re using. Flexing these muscles pulls on the clitoris and vagina, creating more intense friction, which helps give her an easier, stronger orgasm.
Double her pleasure
Zeroing in on the major erogenous areas is crucial, but to hit her high note even faster, multitask. Anytime you can stimulate more than one spot at the same time, you’ll up her all-over excitement, which can push her over the edge sooner. For example, while you’re going down on her, insert two fingers and do the “come here” G-Spot move. Or have her spin around into reverse cowgirl. She will have the back wall of the vagina stimulated at the same time that you can caress her down below. But don’t just focus on some alphabetical area. To hasten her orgasms, it really pays off to first spend a little extra time paying attention to her body – where you are touching, how much pressure you’re applying, which muscles tense up. Her body responds to stimulation more quickly if she’s really well turned on before you start the actual penetration, so touch her all over before the deed: rubbing her breasts, inner thighs, neck, etc., adds to the orgasm-inducing sensations.
Turbocharge your touches
Sometimes a little outside help steps up the pleasure pace. Adding a dollop of lubricant allows her hot zones to be continually, directly stroked without causing painful friction. Erotic electronics also can accelerate her climax. It’s simple math: vibrators offer more strokes per second than hands do. If you’re worried about your ego, try a finger vibe that slips on one of your digits and enhances, rather than replaces, manual moves. To send feel-good tremors through both your bodies, place a bullet shaped buzz buddy at the base of your penis when she is on top, and have her grind against it. When she peaks faster, you can cross your finish line sooner too. So do what works to speed up her orgasm – ultimately, it benefits both of you.
P.S. For more helpful tips on how to have your partner bursting at the orgasmic seams the next time you two get it on, check my Friend’s Isabella Stone ButterFly Technique.