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Answer these questions, have better sex

“When people say ‘It’s better than sex’ they are clearly not having the right kind of sex.”

Every couple has their preferences, their hang-ups and their obstacles to enjoying seriously great sex. Grab a pen and answer these questions to find out what kind of sexual vibes you need to start throwing down.

What’s the one hang-up keeping you from great sex?

Body Conscious. “Why don’t we keep our clothes on”, seems to be your idea of dirty talk. The best way to overcome a lack of confidence in the bedroom is to let your partner know. Don’t say ‘I think I have a small penis’ or ‘I’ve put on too many pounds’, but tell her you’re feeling a bit insecure about your body and start with the lights off. She’s most likely to respond by reassuring you that she finds you super sexy and a huge turn-on, which is one way to erase your worries.

One Track Mind. You know how the birthday guy never enjoys his party as much as his guests? When it comes to sex, you’re the eternal birthday guy. You put so much pressure on making sure she enjoys herself that you never quite get there. Remember, she’s not expecting (or wanting) a porn star, so keep it low key. Take your time with foreplay and, most importantly, relax.

Tight Lipped. You’re kinky in your head, but you just can’t say it. You’re not alone: a great majority of guys admit they’ve never spoken openly about what they want in the bedroom. The app Kindu is an embarrassment-free way to share what you’re into. You and your partner each privately answer ‘yes’, ‘no’ or ‘maybe’ to as many as 600 turn-ons, fantasy role-plays or sexual activities. It then reveals which acts both of you said yes to.

 What do you like in the bedroom?

You prefer not to break into a sweat in the bedroom (isn’t that what football with the guys is for?). You prefer tender, take your time sex, which can lead into intense orgasms, especially if you come close to the brink a few times before letting yourself ejaculate. Switch positions – or even foreplay tactics – to keep some of the gotta-have-you-now-ness fresh.

When it comes to sex, you’re mostly meh. And that’s fine. It’s not a big deal if you only fancy sex a couple of times a week. The most important thing is to be open with your partner so your expectations match. When you are about to get it on in a horizontal way – make sure you’re genuinely in the mood – because then it’s likely to be explosive, and totally worth the wait.

You love to get it on in every way possible – from slow, making love-type moments to ‘in the hallway as soon as you get through the door’ frenzies. But sometimes you can end up in the same old go-to position purely out of indecision. Let your partner know that you’re a fan of variety – then it’s up to both of you to keep the old copulative creativity alive.

You make Charlie Sheen look like a shy boy. You’re fierce in the bedroom and not afraid to say what you want. While your confidence is solid gold, it might be intimidating to a girl – especially if she’s used to take it easier. Try taking turns in going hard and soft in the sack. Then you’ll each get to be satisfied and you’ll both learn so much about your individual turn-ons.

How does your lifestyle impact your sex life?

Exercise. Sex is just like any exercise – the fitter you are, the better (or at least longer) you can last. Being strong, flexible and fit adds enjoyment and diversity to your sex life. To maintain fitness, I recommend 45 minutes of whole body resistance exercises and cardio three times a week.

Stress. Feeling stressed for long periods will reduce your libido. Excess adrenaline and cortisol interfere with your hormone levels.

Smoking. Smoking decreases the blood flow to the pelvis and penis. This causes reduced sensitivity and intensity of your orgasm – and even loss of erection. Yet more reason to quit (or never start).

Weight. Both high and low BMIs can disrupt your hormones. Significantly underweight men can also suffer from low quality sperm.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Even being slightly incompatible in bed shouldn’t be a problem as long as you commit to communicate and find your common path.

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