“When you touch a body, you touch the whole person, the intellect, the spirit, and the emotions.” – Jane Harrington
She is a woman of many moods, and sometimes those moods are not consistent with having insane, contortionist, bend-over-backward-and-balance-on-one-hand sex. Sometimes, though, that sounds just about right. Keeping this in mind, I’ve paired 20 amazing sex moves to 20 different moods. So go ahead, don’t call her moody or crazy, just serve her the kind of sex her mind needs and her body will follow.
- She’s feeling cuddly. When she just wants to snuggle up, lie with her head on your chest and trace cute little messages across your torso, be a gentleman and reciprocate by writing your own love notes across her back. This will make her feel more connected and will give her the push she needs to go from cuddly to naked and full of desire.
- She’s feeling sexy. These are the days when she is on: her hair is behaving brilliantly, and she’s owning her skinny jeans – and those are the days she’s feeling more eager than ever to show off her goods. Let her straddle you while you’re lying on your back on the bed and have her lean back so her elbows are resting behind her. Her body should form a semi-bridge. From here, you take charge and do the work. You can thrust up while getting an eyeful of her rocking body. It’s a total rush for her, especially knowing that you’re taking in every inch of her and loving every moment of it.
- She’s feeling shy. Then there are the days when she’s not feeling so skinny-jeans-ready… the days she seriously considers becoming a never-nude. This is the perfect time to employ half-dressed sex. Keep her mini dress on, push her undies aside and don’t get totally naked either – it will feel urgent and charged, without putting her on full display.
- She’s feeling naughty. Go commando on a date – while she’s driving or while you’re sitting in the movie theater, slyly slip your hand underneath her skirt and give her a saucy little smile. She’ll know that when you get home later, it’s on like never before.
- She’s feeling crazy. Doggie-style sex – in front of a window! – taps into her wild, exhibitionist side. You will literally steam things up. If you have nosy neighbors, be sure to do this at night, with the lights off.
- She’s feeling voyeuristic. Touch yourself while she watches. It’s hot for a woman to see her guy completely lose control while she maintains it. Plus – learning opportunity!
- She’s feeling lazy. Have a pizza picnic party in bed. No TV allowed – put on a sexy playlist and sit across each other like you would do at a restaurant. Serve the pizza on plates, pour some wine, and don’t be afraid to get messy with the margherita.
- She’s feeling experimental. Hot-cold play is not Chris Martin’s side band: it’s when you alternate the sensations to build tension, because you don’t know which you’re going to experience next. Take turns blindfolding each other and teasing sensitive spots like the neck, nipples, and inner thighs with ice cubes and your warm breath.
- She’s feeling romantic. Dim lighting plus a backrub is very romantic, and a massage candle kills two lovebirds with one stone. A massage also releases the bonding hormone oxytocin, so you’ll feel more connected to each other post-rub.
- She’s feeling playful. I know it sounds weird, but hear me out: play-wrestling with your woman can be supersexy and fun. All that pushing and rubbing up against each other, grrr. Just be sure to hold the smackdown on an area with a soft surface – like your mattress or a fuzzy carpet. There are no losers in this round, and it may just put you both in the mood for some behind the belt wrestling as well.
- She’s feeling submissive. Bind her wrists behind her back or to your headboard with one of your silk ties before going down on her. It’s much more comfortable than a pair of handcuffs.
- She’s feeling like taking charge. Have her climb on top of you and pin your wrists against the bed. Holding on to your arms gives her leverage so she can really go for it, and it adds to the she-is-in-control vibe. The diagonal angle also provides more contact between your pelvic bone and her clitoris, upping the orgasmic potential.
- She’s feeling stressed. Orgasms are tension busters, so after a hard day at work, pull your woman close and whisper, ‘All I want is to make you come.’ When there’s a problem, men like to fix it, so you’re making her feel protected and desired while getting your own pleasure at the same time.
- She’s feeling relaxed. Slip into a hot bubble bath together. Have her sit between your legs, with her back against your chest. You can reach around and give her some manual loving while she grinds up against you (gently). Water will definitely slosh on your floor, but you’re Zen, baby, so c’est la vie.
- She’s feeling patient. When you want to draw out the experience (or if you’ve got a streak of masochism in you), try stop-and-go sex. How it works: bring yourselves to the brink, then stop. Don’t move, don’t grind, don’t do anything for at least 30 seconds. Then resume your activities, and repeat the stop-and-go move two more times. Delaying your orgasm makes the release feel superhero powerful.
- She’s feeling groggy. There’s just something about slow, languid sex the morning after a late night… mmm. Spooning is perfect because 1) it allows her to remain lazily on the bed, and 2) your hands are free to roam her body, meaning even less work for her to do in her sleepy, possibly hangover state. Roll her over to her side and guide yourself inside her.
- She’s feeling generous. ‘It is better to give than to receive, right?’ ‘Yes!’ says every boyfriend, ever. When the giving mood strikes, lie back and relax and let her go down on you. Knowing that you don’t have to do anything will feel much more intense than usual.
- She’s feeling nostalgic. Remember how exciting making out was when you were a freshman in high school? Tap into that. Rather than rushing right into sex, go for 10 solid minutes of kissing, groping and dry humping (grossest word ever, I know, but all the friction it creates is very girl-orgasm friendly) – and that’s it.
- She’s feeling ambitious. Simultaneous orgasms – not easy to achieve, but when you do, oh, the glory! The next time she’s feeling focused, try side-by-side 69. Turn onto your sides, facing each other. Since you never have to raise your heads off the pillows, you’ll be comfy as you get each other there.
- She’s feeling kinky. On nights when she wants to let her freak flag fly, assume an alter ego. (What? Beyonce does it! Sasha Fierce, anyone?) It’s easier to get into character when you don’t look like you, so buy her a kinky present: a wig! Her night just got a lot more interesting!
Have a fantastic week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. The term ‘moody woman’ doesn’t seem so frightening any more, now does it? For more steamy secrets of the female orgasm, check out my video program on the subject – Her Secret Hot Spots.
