The WHAT
Surely the title alone sparked your interest in this article. Female ejaculation… wait… women can do that too?! They absolutely can! Whether you have heard of it or not, female ejaculation, while still being researched by experts in the field of sexology, is a hot topic. Experts are still struggling to understand exactly what it is, why it happens, and why some women experience it and others don’t. What we do know is that a percentage of women experience ejaculation while orgasming. The amount of fluid that comes out ranges from a small trickle that she might not even notice to enough that she may have to put down a towel to avoid soaking the bed. Experts believe that female ejaculation happens as a result of stimulating G spot, which causes liquid to be expelled from the Skene’s glands (this whole area is sometimes referred to as the “female prostate”). Some women have mistaken the liquid that comes out for urine, but upon further inspection they discovered that it wasn’t urine, nor lubricant, but something unique to the female ejaculation experience.
The WHERE and HOW
Female ejaculation usually occurs at the same time as a mind blowing G spot orgasm. If you’re interested in helping your partner achieve this amazing experience, you’re going to need to do your homework.
- The first step is learning all about your new best friend, the G spot. Most people, women included, don’t even know what it is, much less where to find it. This elusive little zone is made up of erectile tissue and is located between the front vaginal wall and the urethra. You won’t be able to find the G spot unless the woman is already sexually excited. When this happens, blood rushes to the area and the G spot swells and becomes firm. The size and shape of a woman’s G spot varies from woman to woman, but generally it is oval shaped and about the size of a dime or quarter. It should feel slightly rough or spongy to the touch. Feel around a bit with your finger for something matching that description and when you find it, it’s time to get to work.
- Finding the G spot is a key step in the process of female ejaculation, but getting her on board for the experience is even more important. You should approach this as a fun, exciting, new thing to try in bed together and don’t put too much pressure on your partner or yourself to perform. After all, we all know a lot of pressure to perform in the bedroom generally will get you the opposite results from what you were hoping for. So, while it’s important to make sure she’s up for trying this out, it’s also important to remember that this should be a lot of fun and if you don’t get results right away, it’s no big deal. You can always keep trying!
- Before getting down and dirty, the woman should go to the bathroom. Because stimulating the G spot and Skene’s glands can put pressure on the urethra and bladder, that intense stimulation can often make the woman feel like she needs to pee. This feeling that she might pee all over you can make her want to stop everything all together, so it’s your job to help her relax. If she’s already gone to the bathroom she’ll know that it’s not going to happen and then she can relax and enjoy the ride.
- Remember that you won’t be able to find the G spot unless she’s already sexually aroused, so foreplay is really important. Don’t try to rush through it, because the experience will be much better for her, and more likely to be successful, if you take things slow and really get her warmed up.
- Once you’re ready to go, with the woman laying on her back, insert your index finger all the way inside her vagina and bend your finger as if you’re signaling for someone to come over. Feel around until you locate the G spot. Once you’ve found it, begin massaging the area with your index finger. This is when she might start feeling like she has to pee. If she already has, you can help to relax and continue doing what you’re doing, waiting for the feeling to pass. Continue moving your finger in a come hither motion on the area firmly and steadily. There is also a tapping technique that some people claim works well. You can test out both techniques and see which ones get the best results with your partner. Don’t be afraid to ask her how it feels and what she likes. Some of the feelings may be new and strange to her, so take your time and really give it a chance.
- Putting pressure on her belly at the same time, just on the other side of where your hand is, can help to increase the sensation she’s feeling. Stimulate the G spot alone for a bit before trying this out so you don’t overstimulate before she’s ready for it.
There are also sex toys that are made especially to stimulate the G spot. They are generally shaped much like a crooked finger, in order to find that perfect spot. Some vibrate and others just allow you to get a better angle on the spot.
One of the most important things to keep in mind when it comes to Female ejaculation is to keep your expectations realistic. If you’ve heard of it before, you might be expecting an explosion of fluids the first time you give it a try. Remember that women might ejaculate as little as about a teaspoon of liquid. Amount of ejaculate isn’t equal to the intensity of the orgasm. Also keep in mind that it may take many attempts before you can successfully get your partner to ejaculate.
You shouldn’t be disappointed or discouraged, but instead enjoy trying and testing new methods to bring her to orgasm. This should be a fun exploratory process, with no pressure on results.
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