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What You NEED to Know Before Fingering Her

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What You NEED to Know Before Fingering Her

Let me share something with you, if you’re not fingering your partner regularly, you’re really missing out on an amazing way to give her pleasure. Here’s what you need to know…

Okay, guys, I’m not going to waste your time going on and on about how a lot of guys don’t know what they’re doing when it comes to manually stimulating their woman. You might not think of fingering as something you do to bring your partner to orgasm. Maybe it’s just something you do for a minute during foreplay. Maybe it’s something you haven’t done in years. Let me share something with you, if you’re not fingering your partner regularly, you’re really missing out on an amazing way to give her pleasure. Here’s what you need to know…

1. “Fingering” can be a misleading term – Although fingering is nice and it can feel great, most women cum from having their clitoris stimulated. That’s why I prefer the term “mutual masturbation” to fingering. This covers anything you do with your hands to her genitals. Now, I’m not saying fingering isn’t great, but you should know if your partner can cum from penetration alone. The majority of women cannot and need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.

2. Women are as different as snowflakes – Okay, well maybe they’re not THAT different, but it’s true that different techniques work for different women. What one woman likes, another might hate (or only think is okay). SO you need find out specifically what your partner likes. What worked for previous girlfriends might not work at all. Investigate, try new things and find what she LOVES, not just what she likes.

3. No more “flicking the switch” – When most guys think of rubbing a woman’s clit, they think of vigorous rubbing from side to side, almost like you’re frantically flicking a light switch on and off. You may have even heard of it referred to as flicking the switch. A study that talked to real women about what they liked in bed found that only 1 out of 48 women actually enjoyed that. Most found it uncomfortable and/or painful.

4. “Fingering” should be done during foreplay AND sex – Don’t forget to stimulate your partner’s clitoris during sex as well as during foreplay. Remember that most women won’t have an orgasm from penetration alone, so you need to have busy hands if you want her to get the most out of it.

5.  Take your time getting there – A lot of men go straight for her pussy because that’s what they want a woman to do when touching them, but women actually enjoy a build up a lot more. Take your time touching and kissing her in other areas before even thinking about putting your hands between her legs.

6. Tease her – Once you do make your way down there, continue to take your time and let the tension build up little by little. Tease and titillate her by touching the areas around the clit, sweeping a finger over it lightly, but then moving away.

7. Use the hood to your advantage – You may have heard or noticed that the clitoris has a flap of skin that covers and protects it. This is because the clitoris is extremely sensitive and this skin helps to keep it from being over stimulated. Some guys pull this skin right back and start rubbing away at the clit, but this is way too much stimulation for most women. Instead try stimulating the clitoris slowly and softly moving the skin of the hood over the clitoris underneath. This provides a good balance of stimulation.

8. Always use lube generously – Just like it feels better when someone rubs you down with a lubed up hand, you should always make sure you use lube on her. Start with lube on your hand and then continuously use the natural lubrication from her vagina and spread it over her vulva with your fingers. This feels silky smooth and amazing.

9. Use a light touch – Since the clit is crazy sensitive, you need to make sure your touch is extremely light as well. Since men don’t have such a sensitive area of their body, it’s hard for them to imagine just how lightly they need to stimulate this area. Use the lightest touch possible, and then make it even a little more light!

10. Pay attention – Make sure she is moving her hips around in pleasure, not discomfort. Pay attention to the signs she’s giving you to tell you if she likes something or not. Watch her facial expressions and her body language. Listen to the sounds she’s making. And when all else fails, ASK her if she likes something. There’s nothing better than a man who KNOWS what his woman likes.

Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore

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