“Ben: Do you want to do it doggie-style?

Alison: You’re not going to fuck me like a dog.

Ben: It’s doggie-style. It’s just the style. We don’t have to go outside or anything.” – Knocked Up

You guys dig doggie-style – I know, shocking! But what may surprise you is that if done right, it could also give your partner more thrills that you ever thought possible. I realized this upon watching a talk show where celebrities were coming and getting personal about their lives. One thing the show host always tried to get all her guests to admit? Their favorite sex position, and surprisingly, the majority of these famous ladies said they prefer doggie-style.

What? Sure, we women like it fine, but you’d think a position with more of a pleasure payoff – like cowgirl – would top their lists. We already know that guys love doggie-style because it’s animalistic – literally, it’s something you see on Animal Planet, but it’s not a position generally associated with female orgasm. However, it should, because there are so many ways to make it work for a woman just as well as it does for a man. If you’re a fan of doggie too (or even if you’re not), try these three different versions designed to bring your partner home for the win.

1)    The Bee’s Knees

Play with the placement of her knees. It’s natural for a woman to spread her legs so that you are kneeling between them, but zipping them up tight can make your penis feel thicker and make her feel tighter to you. Plus, the farther apart your knees are on the bed, the easier it’s going to be for you to lean forward and play with her breasts and clitoris. And here’s a good-to-know rule of thumb for making sure you never thrust so deep that it’s uncomfortable: The higher her butt is in the air, the deeper you can penetrate her. The lower it is, the more restricted your motion is going to be.

2)    Doggie Domination

With you lying flat on your back, have her straddle your legs on all fours, facing your feet. Keeping her hands on the bed, she should lower her butt so that you can enter her. This angle is great for a couple of reasons – one, because she’s technically on top, she gets to control the pace and depth of penetration. And two, she is in the perfect G-spot-stimulating position. She should arch her back, and ride you in a forward and up-and-down motion to really target the sweet spot. Not only does it feel fantastic for the both of you, but seeing her back arched with her hair tumbling over is an erotic view for you.

3)    The Magic-Carper Ride

If you don’t own a shag rug, then get yourself a bath mat, pronto. You want a small one, so that you can easily move it around. You want shag because it feels plush against bare skin. I would also suggest slipping a vibrator underneath the mat (this way the sensation isn’t too intense), having her lie down, and positioning her pelvis over the vibrating area while you kneel above her and enter her. You’ll have to cobra your back and use a rocking motion – which is ideal, since your movement will help her grind against that spot.

Have a sensual week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. So yeah, if you want to be an animal in the sack, go ahead. She’ll love it just as much!

“If you’re single, focus on being a better you instead of looking for someone better than your ex. A better you will attract a better next.” – Anonymous

In these days, information is key. The more you know about the opposite sex (and your own, for that matter), the more chances you’ll have at getting what you want from your love life: a relationship. Finding the one is easier if you have a handle on certain digits like these.

• 2. The number of times you should say her name in a convo to show you’re interested. Experts reckon repeating someone’s name makes them feel connected to you – but doing it more than twice is too intense.
• 92 per cent of single girls think dinner is the perfect setting for a first or a second date, so book a night at a fancy restaurant if you really want to show her that you want something more.
• 97. The average number of days it takes guys to say ‘I love you’, according to a study led by The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. It takes you guys a while, that’s for sure, but it’s better to wait until you’re absolutely sure you’ve found the right person.
• 30. The number of centimeters experts say you should sit from her on a first date to show you’re completely smitten – it’s called the intimate gap.
• 78 per cent of women check you out online before a date, so make sure your profile is ‘clean’. No profile picture with your ex’s hand around your neck or nasty commentaries to other’s girl’s pictures.
• 5. The number of times within 15 minutes you should casually touch a woman you like. Women aren’t always as fluent in subtlety as one might think, so several pats on the arm and hands on the knee are necessary if you want to send the proper ‘I’m interested!’ signals.
• 22. The average number of women you’ll kiss before you meet Mrs. Right, according to a survey created by the dating site meeteez.com.
• 50. The minimum amount of dollars most men spend on each date in the first few weeks of a relationship. From time to time, even though you don’t have to impress her like when you first started going out, a nice gesture will do the trick and rekindle your romance.
• 6. The average number of disastrous dates you’ll go in your lifetime. Wrong person, wrong time, wrong place. It happens to the best of us.
• 7.3. The number of seconds you’ll spend with your eyes glued to a woman’s mouth if she’s wearing red lipstick (compared to just 2.2 seconds when her lips are bare), says a Manchester study.
• 21-34. The age range when most women want to have kids. I know, a whole lot of years, but bear with us, our biological clock is not something we can control.
• 20. The number of minutes it takes a woman to decide if she wants to see you again, according to a survey by the dating site itsjustlunch.com.
• 8. The number of times you should go out with her before introducing her to your friends. Experts say it’s crucial to solidify how you feel about someone before bringing it a bunch of outside opinions.

Have a wonderful week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. 1,110,782. The number of single women aged 20 to 35 in Australia. Write than on a plane ticket to Australia the next time you’re going through a sucky break-up.

“As if you were on fire from within. The moon lives in the lining of your skin.” – Pablo Neruda

Wondering what your partner really wants between the sheets? Her seduction lines shed some light to what her style is and she wants to do when it comes to sex. Read my translations and be prepared for your partner to suspect that you are actually reading her mind.

Lusty line: “I would love to go somewhere quiet with you so we can talk.”

Her mattress mood: Assuming she’s serious when she says it, a line like this signals that she’s craving an emotional connection, rather than a mere physical release. She is probably feeling romantic and wants to have a sensual, intimate encounter. Brace yourself for the s-l-o-o-o-w burn.

Lusty line: “I bet you that my bed is more comfortable than yours.”

Her mattress mood: A woman may challenge you in this lighthearted manner if she’s in a playful mindset. Indulge her flirtation and her arousal levels will likely elevate as a result, priming her for uninhibited passion. Get ready for erotic experimentation – bed optional.

Lusty line: “You seem uncomfortable. Let’s get you out of those clothes.”

Her mattress mood: Even though it’s couched in a funny statement, there is a sense of urgency to this line. Your partner is highly aroused and is taking control in order to fast-track both of your pleasure. You’re in for an exhilarating quickie. Repeat after me: “Wham, bam! Thank you, madam!”

Lusty line: “Are you stressed? I want to give you a full body massage.”

Her mattress mood: Good news: You’re about to have all-about-you sex. Massage is a loving gesture – not to mention a lot of work. When a woman offers to go to great lengths to please you, she has decided to make your satisfaction top priority.

Now that you know what she wants between the sheets, boost the passion while shaking things up. Whether you’ve been together for two weeks or two years, you can always find a way to spice up your bedroom routine. Work on these sultry moves with your lover and get ready to add some sizzle to the way your lovemaking unfolds.

Hot for teacher

Bestselling racy novel Fifty Shades of Grey is heating everyone’s bedroom nightstand. Read this to each other and try acting the stories out. An alternative is to mark a section of the book for her; leave a note telling her what her “homework” assignment is, then hold a book club discussion while naked. Erotic audiobooks let someone else do the talking for you; you can listen together – under the covers.

Hotel hookup

Give the “one-night stand” an update by booking a hotel for a hot weekend getaway. Many hotels have special packages that include body oils and sexy lubricants, edible honey dust and a ready to pop bottle of their finest champagne. Then order room service, get a couple’s massage, enjoy the hot tub, and flirt with each other at the bar. The Trojan Charged Sex Life Survey found that 50% of Americans want to give their sex lives a reboot; a staycation allows you to leave the stress of daily life at home and completely indulge.

Make sex a meal

Take breakfast in bed to a whole new level by incorporating her favorite foods into your foreplay. Draw out every sensual possibility as you serve her in bed wearing an apron… and only an apron. Feed her by hand, with kisses – or more – in between bites. Nibble on each other as you take time to savor every part of your meal and each other’s bodies.

Show and tell

Let her watch as you masturbate, showing her how you get off. Close your eyes if it helps and simply give her a glimpse into your secret world. Tell her what you think about when you’re alone. Feel like giving her the orders? I suggest starting with “Take off your panties!” Then help her out.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Sexier hookups aren’t just nice visual scenes you see in romantic movies. If you’re willing to put some effort, that’s how your love life will look like as well.

“Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant.” – Henry Miller

When looking for advice, sometimes you just want it snappy and spot on. Some sex questions are so personal that you might very well not find the answers in typical articles of the sort. That’s why, this week, I decided to answer some of your… more personal dilemmas regarding sex. Here, I deliver the dirty details fast and furiously.

1. “Should I give her oral before we start having sex, or will she peak too quickly?” Actually, you want to give her oral until she peaks, then give her a couple of minutes to brush the fever off and start having sex properly. Women can stand (and want!) multiple orgasms. So don’t worry about her peaking and them letting you hang dry. It’s like with chocolates. Who wants to stop after just one delicious bite? Not us!

2. “Do girls like it when their legs are straight up in the air during sex?” There’s no… straight answer. Some love it, because of the depth of the penetration, some not so much, because of the same reason. If she’s more sensitive to depth, you shouldn’t linger too much on that position. Just read the signs on her face. If she’s moaning in delight, keep at it, if she turns her face away to hide a pain feeling, switch up.

3. “How can I initiate getting her to go down on me?” If you’re bold, when she’s kissing you, whisper “I’d love to have you do that elsewhere”. She’ll catch your drift. If you’re rather on the shy side, go down on her first, she’ll be more than happy to return the favor afterwards. Women are polite like that.

4. “How do we deal with the condom and keep the mood?” Have her do it instead of you. If you do it, you just want to speed up the process and have it done and over with as soon as possible. If she does it, she’ll be more patient and more careful. You’ll both enjoy the slowness of it, trust me. Especially is she uses her mouth as well.

5. “Is there a good way to switch position while remaining inside her?” Yes. Slowly. Slower than slowly. With passion. While you’re turning away the focus from the process of switching to the one of kissing like the French do.

6. “What can I use to tie her up?” Her tights. A scarf. Your tie. Her lacy, sexy, black G-string. There’s a lot of bondage gear in your closet. You don’t need to buy a “professional” set unless you want to take things to a higher level.

7. “What’s the easiest way to 69?” Lie side by side. It’s more comfortable and neither is in the “ungrateful” position of being up, which usually leads to a tenser body, which actually spoils half of the fun.

8. “What’s a hot thing to do after sex?” A sensual massage. Start by scratching her scalp lightly with your nails and caressing her hair. Who knows, maybe it will lead to a second round?

9. “What do I do when I need a break from giving her oral?” Don’t stop all the way you’re your work down there! It will leave her frustrated. Use your hand to fondle her and use your lips on her nipples or belly. This way you can rest your jaw while still getting her hot and bothered.

10. “Should I try to control how loud I moan?” Would you want her to do the same? Of course not! So go ahead and use your vocals as loud as you feel like it. Women love manly vociferations as well.

11. “She has a small clitoris. Is it less likely she’ll orgasm?” Not a chance. It’s not a matter of size, but of what underneath. And trust me, she’s got millions of pleasure nerve endings throughout her entire vaginal area. She’ll orgasm if you know what to do. Which is, touch her in different areas down there, not just on the clitoris.

12. “How should I wake her up for sex?” Kiss her neck and work your way down her body. But do it slowly. You want her to wake up gradually, not all of a sudden. You might risk scaring her.

13. “What’s the best position in a small space?” Spooning with bent legs. Lie on your sides, you behind. She should push her butt towards you as you enter her.

14. “Are blue balls a real condition?” It’s just slang for fluid build-up in the glands near your scrotum due to arousal. But the area doesn’t actually turn blue, mind you. And no, it’s also not true that your balls will turn blue if you’ve not had sex in a longer period of time.

15. “Can you get an infection from having sex in a Jacuzzi?” Regretfully, yes. You’d better not risk it. And not only you, but especially your female partner. Her areas are more exposed to the bubbly water and more prone to developing nasty infections.

16. “What’s a good quickie spot?” There are more than one, thank heavens. Over the kitchen table, facing the front door or a wall, in the shower, leaning against the washing machine. Have your pick.

17. “I have a hot sex life but I still masturbate daily. Is that weird?” Not at all. Having regular sex boosts your drive. Consequently, you’re more passionate during intercourse and your orgasms are stronger. And your sperm is healthier.

18. “Why does her whole body shake post-orgasm?” No, it’s not a sign of epilepsy. It’s called the orgasmic shudder and can happen to anyone following intense pleasure.

19. “Is there a good substitute for lube emergencies?” Yes, and it’s called saliva. Don’t try her creamy lotions or soap or shower gel. You’ll both risk getting burns or even infections.

20. “We want to try role-playing. Where do we start?” Try meeting at a bar as strangers, pretending you’ve just met or reenact the moment you’ve first met. It will bring back good memories and it will help you take the edge off.

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. If you have questions that concern your partner in particular, shake the shy away and ask her what you need to know. You’ll both rip the benefits.

“Forget health clinics and gyms. Sex is the best cure. One good night of sex and your problems are gone.” – Grace Jones

Keep defaulting to the same three tongue tricks? The ones you possibly learned in high school and are convinced they always work like a charm? It’s time to up your game if you want your bed to burst with passionate fireworks. Monotony doesn’t only revolve around the problem of always doing it in the same position, it also has to do with the tricks you have up your sleeve to turn her on. If she’s learned them by heart, you need to bring some naughty extras. Read below.

1. Run your lips along her hip bones while slowly making your way toward her lady parts. There are a ton of nerve endings there that are craving more attention.
2. Let your mouth graze her ear when you whisper what you want her to do to you.
3. Take a sip of warm (not hot!) peppermint tea before going down on her. She’ll love the tingly feeling, and she’ll taste better.
4. Take a make-out session from good to great by sucking firmly on her tongue for a plit second.
5. With a flat tongue, lick the underside of her labia like an ice pop. Feeling like a porn star? Yes. It’s so hot it’s definitely worth it? Of course.
6. Run your tongue around the ridge where the vaginal lips are connected to the clitoris. It’s an area that contains about 80 percent of her erogenous tissue.
7. The next time you give your partner downstairs action, keep this fact in mind: most women feel their breasts are ignored during this type of foreplay. Be the guy who reads her mind by stopping on your tracks and lightly sucking her nipples, where she wants it most.
8. While running your mouth down her chest, stop to kiss and nip around her pubic mound. Just like yours, it’s an overlooked hot spot.
9. Cup her hips in your palms and place your mouth lengthwise on her vaginal area. Move your head like you’re playing the harmonica as you lick the sides. It’s a totally different feeling.
10. The rule with teeth: Be gentle, and never move from side to side. A soft, pulsating nibble is erotic; an actual chomping is psychotic.
11. Surprise her with oral first thing in the morning, when she’s half asleep. The degree of hotness will burn the roof in no time.
12. Right as she’s about to climax, increase pressure with your mouth and hands. In the height of arousal, a firmer grip feels so good to her.
13. When she’s lying on her stomach, straddle her and kiss your way down her backbone until you reach the base of her spine.
14. Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger and keep it close to your lips as you move up and down her vaginal lips.
15. Before heading south, spend a little while on her inner thighs. Tease her by kissing and (very) softly biting this area.
16. Suck on her earlobe, then trace your tongue along the outer ridge – it’s a little-known erogenous zone.
17. When you’re behind her, kiss the back of her neck and swirl your tongue around to give her chills.
18. The area where the scrotum meets the perineum is ultra-sensitive. Press on this spot with your tongue. Her pulsating tissue extends all the way back there, so it will give her a jolt of pleasure.
19. Make applying lube even sexier. Use a flavored type and put it on your lips and in your mouth first, then lean forward to place it on her lady parts.
20. Lie on your back with your head resting on a pillow and have her kneel over your mouth. It’s a good way to reduce tiredness and she can control the speed and the amount of tongue pressure you’re putting.
21. Her bottom is not very sensitive but this doesn’t mean it doesn’t contain pleasure nerves. Do some serious kneading and biting and kissing and she’ll be moaning in a second. Also, don’t forget to swirl your tongue over her anus. It’s a major pleasure booster.
22. Plant feathery kisses on the skin between her knees. I know it seems like a weird spot, but it’s super sensitive.
23. Let out a soft moan while going down on her. Making noise changes the sensation for her and helps you relax your mouth muscles, which means you can resist for a longer period of time.
24. Keep your tongue stiff as you slide it back and forth over her clitoris. It amounts the pleasure she’s feeling in that tiny spot of hotness.
25. Another tip for the clitoris: cover your teeth with your lips and lightly nibble on it.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Brush your teeth right before going down on her. The fresh, minty breath with make her even hotter.

“Anyone who is in love is making love the whole time, even when they’re not. When two bodies meet, it is just the cup overflowing. They can stay together for hours, even days. They begin the dance one day and finish it the next, or – such is the pleasure they experience – they may never finish it. No eleven minutes for them” – Paulo Coelho

When she doesn’t want to, she doesn’t want to. But what about when she does want to but can’t get off the starting blocks? Yes, I’m talking about anal sex and the stuff that is usually getting in the way of a woman’s libido and desire to try it. Read bellow, I’m decoding – and knocking down – some of the most common obstacles on your path to getting back to winning bedroom form – anal style.

“I’m not in the mood”

Sometimes all you need to get horny is one sideways glance from your partner. Not even that – a glimpse of half her boob will do it. And you probably assume that it’s as easy as 1-2-3 for her, too. It’s actually harder for women, because the sexual response cycle in long-term relationships works differently. Once the honeymoon phase is over, you get your normal level of desire back, which is often lower for women. The way you get turned on is different as well. Men’s cycles are desire-arousal-orgasm. Whereas women’s are arousal-response-desire-orgasm. Women start in a neutral position, and first need to feel some arousal before that longing kicks in. So you need to pull out some better tricks than just kissing her for four seconds if you want her to get there, especially since we’re talking about anal sex.

External pressures can kill the mood, too – no matter how much she’s trying to focus on the task at hand. Stress has a huge effect. People who are anxious can find it difficult to become aroused. Even anxiety about the way her body looks, or her own performance, can make the idea feel daunting. So how do you shift from stress to sex? Get that water boiling during the day. It’s not about foreplay for two seconds, then sex. Have her think about it from when you wake up. Text her sexy thoughts, plan a hot date, etc. Also, when you both get home, instead of getting right down to business, have a bath together or a good old make-out session to kick her desire into gear.

“I’m too tired”

After slaving away at work and then slaving over dinner when she gets home (unless you just happen to be Jamie Oliver), sometimes she can’t muster up the energy to have sex, even when she wants to, especially anal. Women wake up with a huge to-do list, and often sex either isn’t on that list or is at the bottom. By the time you get to it, she’s exhausted. I suggest some ways around this problem: create “intimate opportunities” when she has energy – like sex first thing in the morning. You can also try sending your partner some texts throughout the day, which will help get you both in the mood. When you do hit the sheets, a leisurely marathon can be better than a sprint, especially when she’s tired. Suggest a position or an activity that she really enjoys, so that she reaches a clitoral orgasm faster and gets that much needed endorphin release. Then you can go ahead with anal teasing and do what you have to do to get her completely worked up.

“I hate him right now”

Unlike in the movies, where couples who have fights follow them up with sessions of red-hot loving, in reality a tiff can be a ladyboner-kill. Resentment and anger are signs of a build-up of issues, and can lead to her putting a wall up and not letting you in. The key is communication – talking about and resolving your issues can clear the way for some baggage-free sexy times. It’s important for both you and your partner to realize that women need emotional intimacy in order to feel in the mood for physical intimacy. When new arguments pop up, try to deal with them early on so they don’t snowball into colossal fights. And then reward yourself with some “we avoided that fight” sex. You’ve earned it.

5 tips for winning track records

1. Plan it. Sex doesn’t have to be spontaneous to be amazing, especially the anal kind. If you prepare for it, you’ll also be in the mood for it.
2. Love yourselves. Be in touch with your own sexualities. You’re not going to want sex if you don’t feel good about yourselves.
3. Get closer. Go to bed at the same time. Have a shower together in the morning, snuggle on the couch – get intimate!
4. Put sex first. Start to see closeness with your partner as being your number one priority.
5. Foreplay all day. Flirt with your partner- chances are it will lead you both to the bedroom.

Have an extraordinary week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Read this article together with your partner. In many occasions women don’t even realize what’s keeping them from enjoying great sex.

A big sex myth floating around out in the sexual universe is that women do not like anal sex. Not true at all! They may say under their breath so no one hears them.  The problem that comes with anal sex is not the lack of desire on the part of the woman to do it. The problem seems to come more from fear that it will hurt, be embarrassing or that they still think of it as taboo. The flip side of the anal sex coin is that anal sex can be very erotic and pleasurable.

Maybe you are looking to push your sexual boundaries and try anal sex for the first time or maybe you tried it and it didn’t go as planned but like someone who likes sex the cowgirl position, you want to get right back up on that horse. It’s all good. Some people secretly crave anal sex play their whole lives and never tell their partner about their desires. Others venture into the unknown backdoor unprepared. Whatever the situation, here are some pearls of wisdom to get you started on going through the back door so you can get have a pleasurable booty call.

First: You want to have anal sex. You are curious about it. Admit it. Take the taboo out of it and give yourself permission to add it to your sexual to do list.  Some call anal sex the last sexual taboo but the fact is people have been engaging in anal sex play since sex was invented. I am not saying you have to broadcast this or any sexual behavior you engage in to the world but you have to be comfortable with your own sexual desires or you won’t be able to relax and enjoy them. There is nothing wrong with anal sex and many people find out there is a lot right about it.

Second: Understand the anus has a lot of nerve endings and that helps make anal stimulation very pleasurable. Like other sexual acts, it feels good. If it didn’t feel good people would pretty much stop doing it. However, unlike the vagina, the anus does not have natural lubrication. Lube and plenty of it is a crucial part of anal sex. You have to provide what nature doesn’t. So spend some time shopping for lubricant. Don’t be afraid to try more than one. Make sure it is NOT oil based because that will break down a condom very quickly. There are a lot of lubes that are made with anal sex in mind. Remember to use lube on both of you. The guy should put lube on his penis ALL the way up the shaft. The woman should have lube inside her anus as well as around the rim. Do not hesitate to stop and add more if you are experiencing discomfort.

Third: Use a condom. Unprotected anal sex is the riskiest sexual behavior for contracting HIV. If HIV is not a concern keep in mind the anus contains a lot of bacteria that are not good for the rest of the body. You don’t want it swimming up his urethra and you certainly don’t want it going from anus to vagina. Never go from anal sex or oral or vaginal sex without washing the penis well with soap and water.

Fourth: Start getting ready by using anal sex toys. Start with a small butt plug or vibe and play with that for a while then move up to the next size and so on. This will help your anus get used to something going in when it has always been for stuff going out. Be sure to use toys that have a flared end as things have been known to disappear and get lost up there as they are sucked in. Next time you talk to an ER doc, ask them what the most interesting thing they pulled out of someone’s rectum was and you will get a variety of interesting answers.

Now that you have the preliminaries under control you are ready for the main event. Try doggie style position or lay on your stomach with some pillows under your hips the first time. These positions make the rectum angle in a way that makes penetration easier. When you are all lubed up and ready for the big entrance go slow. He should go in a little bit and stop letting you get used to the feel of him inside you. When you are ready he should go in a little more and you should keep repeating this until he is all the way in. Then he should slowly start to move in and out. Be the guide and tell him when you are ready for it to go faster, slower, harder or gentler.

Breathe and relax. Tensing up will only make it more difficult. The more you relax the easier it will be and you soon find yourself preferring a back door entrance as a way to spice things up in the bedroom.

People also enjoy anal sex because it feels unbelievably incredible. For men, the anal orifice feels much tighter than a vagina.  Not to mention the rectum sucks up a penis like a Hoover vacuum. The delish intense sucking feeling will add to the male pleasure. For women, it feels unique because it’s not her vagina yet there is a penis inside her. It’s an unusual feeling she isn’t used to having which makes it exciting.

But be forewarned ladies and gents! Back door play is a whole different ballgame altogether. It can be shockingly painful and messy (if you know what we mean) if not done right.  However with a little practice and a boat load of patience, anal sex can lead to a hot and sultry sex life. Here’s what you need to know to make sure your anal sex experience is a good one.

Rectums cannot stretch

Anal sex can be seriously painful. The rectum is an exit only portal. It is simply not meant to have things go in; only go out. Unlike the vagina which stretches to let a penis in and give birth to a baby, a rectum is not elastic at all. Not even a little bit folks. This can cause a woman major pain if she’s not prepared properly. That means a) asking her first (obviously) b) using lots of lube and c) going very slowly and not pounding into her like a jackrabbit. Be patient. Hold the penis and guide it in slowly. Try going in an inch, taking it out, and putting in again but going further. Keep trying until you’re in all the way.

Anal sex can be messy

Most ladies like to put much emphasis on making themselves look sexy so just the mere thought of a guy seeing them explode all over the place can be distressing to say the least. Instead of picturing her as this hot sex goddess, the male may begin picturing her covered in fecal matter. So not hot. The solution? An oral douche! If she takes one ahead of time it will ensure that her bowels are emptied. This way you can avoid any potentially messy accidents.

Don’t forget lube is your best friend forever

Unlike the vagina, the rectum does not create its own lubricant. Penetration without ample lube equals dry friction. Ouch! Use a silicone or water-based product and not petroleum jelly, which will just clog up the walls of your rectum and ruin the condom.

Get down with foreplay

It’s of utmost importance to get each other hot and bothered before the main event. When she’s feeling sexy and horny, her body will be much more receptive for rear penetration. She needs to ache for it like a cat in heat so she’ll be moaning with ecstasy not groaning in pain. Tease each other playfully getting each other excited. For example you can circle each other’s anus with your fingers. This will allow the anus to relax and get ready for penetration. While engaged in vaginal sex you can try inserting a finger into the woman’s anus for extra stimulation.

Keep it clean as a whistle

Both men and women are just as susceptible to disease with anal sex as they are with vaginal sex. The wall of the rectum is super duper thin and porous, so safe sex is imperative. Not only will condoms protect the penis against any stray fecal matter, but it will prevent her from having a butt full of semen. Semen can mix with the contents of the rectum and can make her ill as well. Consider using a condom and avoid the potential hassle.

Another no no? Do not under any circumstances put the penis back into the vagina after anal sex. You can resolve this little conundrum by using different condoms or keeping baby wipes on hand. But the best bet is to go from vagina to anus and not the other way around.

Practice makes perfect and anal sex is no different. Do it the right way and you can ensure that you’ll be having anal sex for many years to come. Screw it up and your anus (or your partner) may never forgive you.

„A man must have confidence in himself and his penis, to have anal sex with a woman. If he does not have this control, his penis will direct the action; he will move too quickly, hurt the once-willing woman, and rarely, rightly, will he be given a second chance”- Toni Bentley

For years it’s been viewed as one of the last sexual taboos. But ask a group of women if they’ve ever tried anal sex and I can guarantee a few vinos (and blushes) later, the confession will come.

Indeed, statistics show that anal sex- or fifth base, as it’s also known- among heterosexual couples is more popular than ever, with a Journal of Sexual Medicine study reporting that 40 per cent of women have done it at least once. And that’s because women are more sexually adventurous than they’ve ever been before. They’re looking for more intense stimulation- and anal sex certainly provides that.

Approached properly, anal sex can be intensely pleasurable. The naughtiness of a finger in the anus, another inside the vagina, and an expert tongue on her clitoris rates up there as one of life’s greatest pleasures.

So far, so adventurous. But it’s important to remember that sexual experimentation should be a two-way street, and agreed upon. Here’s a one hour program that will convince her good that anal sex definitely deserves a place in your sexual repertoire.

Start here!

8PM. While she’s watching TV, snatch the remote off her, turn off the set and when she asks you why you are interrupting her Desperate Housewives marathon, turn around, give her a come hither look and tell her you’ve prepared an indulging bubble bath for her. The sexy combination of hot water, steam and your magic hands massaging her all over with shower oils not only will make sure she’s clean, but it’s also an opportunity to get her relaxed.

8.01PM. It shouldn’t have taken her long to picture the erotic treat you have prepared for her. By now, she’s raced into the bathroom and is standing near the tub, overjoyed at the thought of what’s to come. Order her to remove her dress; in return, wriggle out your shirt and pants. Take your time to feast your eyes on her sexy hot body, which will arouse her even more.

8.03PM. Approach her slowly and start touching her underwear, taking your time before taking it off. If you can do it without your hands, all the better. Keep your underwear on- this way you’re sending her the message that, at least for now, her pleasure is the star of the show and you’ve put together this just to please her.

8.05PM. Keep her standing and start kissing from her hip right down the outside of leg, then repeat on the second one. Afterwards, kiss back up her inner leg, every so often using your tongue and sucking on her skin gently. When you make it her upper-inner thigh, linger for a while, giving lots of little kisses and gently breathing on her skin until you feel her start going crazy.

8.12PM. Take her in her arms and lie her down in the tub. As you take the moisturizer and the massage oils and start giving her an erotic massage. When you get to her down there area- concentrate around it for a while without actually touching it. The anticipation will make her heart go racing, speeding up the blood flow in her vaginal area even more.

8.19PM. When her panting grows heavier and heavier, and you know for sure she’s over head aroused, lean over and whisper in her ear that you’re thinking of trying something new this time. To help her get the message, slide your hand down her back, until you reach her buttocks. Linger there, while looking her straight in the eyes.

8.26PM. After you’re finished with the watery delight, soak the hot liquid off her body with a towel and take her to the bedroom. Once here, lie her down on the bed, with head on the pillow and her hands behind her head. Don’t let her move her hands from this spot. Whatever she wants to do to you in return- however much she wants to touch you- tell her this is all about her… for now. Start with a big, juicy french kiss, then kiss her all the way down to her stomach, then much lower, until you can finally concentrate on the clitoris.

8.33PM. While your devouring her magic button, using soft and not-so-soft moves, slide one hand down to her anus and star massaging it gently, using circling motions. Once her clitoris is all swollen and her labia are wet with excitement, turn her over, put a pillow under her belly so that her bum is slightly raised and start kissing her anus, slightly inserting the tip, for more erotic arousal.

8.36PM. By now, she should want you so badly that she’ll be the one wishing for things to speed up so that she can feel you inside her. Grant her wish and insert your penis in her vagina, and one finger (lubed up, so keep a battle of the magic potion near the bedstand) in her anus, pumping it up slowly at first, then faster, in the same rhythm as your penis. Soon enough she’ll be moving in tandem with you, to maximize her pleasure.

8.43PM. When you feel she’s just about to come, stop and lie next to her, not touching her, until you drive her completely wild. I give her 10 seconds max on this one!

8.44PM. You really don’t want to lose the moment, so put your condom on and be ready to go… the other way. Get her to stand in a doggy-style position and position yourself behind her, with the lube in one hand and the fingers of the other on her clitoris, to arouse her from both ways. Start by inserting just the tip of your penis, to see how she responds to it. Complete the insertion S.L.O.W.L.Y., centimeter by centimeter, until it’s all inside her anus.

8.51PM. Pick up the pace and start thrusting in and out, with faster movements. Now that she’s got the hang of it, try something a bit different in the position department. Pick something you don’t do too often- on the side of the bed, lying sideways, on the couch- and give those a go. They might not bring you right to the edge of your orgasm, but racing to the finish line isn’t always the best plan in this situation.

8.55PM. Now for the grand finale. Pick the position that you know suits her orgasm best and start thrusting in rhythmic movements. While working on your way to a double climax for her (you didn’t forget about the clitoris, I hope), talk to each other. Communication is key here. If you’re both aware of where the other person’s at, then the chance you’ll get there right at the same time is that much higher.

8.59. Oh, oh, oh! Okay, so you don’t have to be so precise, but right about now is when you should both be blowing a gasket. You’re welcome!

Have a sensual week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. You don’t have to fit all this in just one hour. If you’re feeling more generous, treat her to a couple of hours of such intense bliss!

There are a lot of reasons that women like anal sex, but it can be easy with something so often seen as taboo to fixate on one particular fantasy, one fetish. Do you have an anal fetish? When you close your eyes and think about the kind of anal sex that you want, is the fantasy always the same? What does it look like?

Now consider this… what if your anal fantasy is getting in the way of making it happen? Could your fixation on getting it your way be preventing it from happening at all?

Your wife’s personal flavor, her desires and ambitions, her wants and needs, her fears and hesitations when it comes to anal will all be part of the way she feels when you come on to her. If she isn’t sure of your motives, or she isn’t into your specific flavor of anal, the fun and games could be over before it has even begun! Try to pinpoint her wants and feelings towards anal play before you go gung ho.

Sweet and Mild

For many women, the “first time” experience of anal sex is appealing because it is a way to experience that “new relationship energy” all over again. Whether it is entirely new for her, or just something you haven’t tried together yet, it gives the relationship a whole new barrier to breach, pun intended. You should treat this experience as if you are laying down with a virgin all over again. Go as superbly slow as possible. Woo her over the course of a few weeks or even months, if it suits you! The more time she has to become accustomed to the sensations of different kinds of anal penetration and become comfortable with stretching to accommodate you, the more likely she is to thoroughly enjoy a fully penetrating experience!

Wet and Wild

Some women get into anal sex specifically because it can be so sensually wet and messy, in a good way. She probably enjoys lube a whole lot and will get right into extended foreplay… but don’t back off too quickly either. She may want to get right down to the “dirty” stuff when she’s warmed up.

Beauty Beguiled

For some women, it is the experience of being an object of pleasure and delight, as well as a vision of beauty to be desired, which drives them to enjoy anal play. She may enjoy women-on-top anal positions, which can give you an incredible view and enough time to gather your thoughts and pull off some staggering word play. Do everything in your power to make her feel absolutely gorgeous, while she takes the physical lead and controls your pace and depth for a comfortable ride. Go!

Flower Child

Many women enjoy anal for its simple, sensual aspects. Erotic massage is the perfect lead in for this lovely lady, who may also enjoy having delicate fruits and chocolate licked and nibbled from her skin. Try to engage all of her senses. The overwhelming experience will not only help get her turned on, but can relax her muscles and initiate many different pleasure responses in her body that might not otherwise be active.

Talk it Out

These are of course only a few examples of the many different fantasies women might have about anal sex. If she isn’t quite sure what her fantasy might be, have her explore it. Perhaps the only images she has in her head about anal involve discomfort or pain. Perhaps she associates it with feeling ashamed, degraded or dirty. Don’t try to “convince” her that she wants to try something she doesn’t enjoy… but do explore the roots of her aversion.

As If

Ask her to simply try imagining anal sex as if she were enjoying it. It may not work at first. She may find it difficult, but with time many people can discover that their particular discomfort or reactive disgust stems from a specific emotional event or recurring experience from their past. For couples who have varied fetishes which they may not share, regular visualization can be a life saver for bringing kinky couples closer together! Working together to at least understand, if not adopt your lover’s sexual interests, can drastically increase not only your sexual activity, but your honesty and intimacy. You and your lover both deserve to have her deepest desires heard and understood.