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Her body blueprint

“70% of women miss dirty sex but they are ashamed to tell their partners about it.”

Is your sex life getting so boring you want to scream? Is your partner careless and almost numb to all your efforts between the sheets? Then you might need to revamp those foreplay skills. Our bodies are a hotbed of sexual pleasure to be discovered. Take your time and delve into each other if you want the most mind blowing orgasms of your life. Give your, and her nooks and crannies some love for a surprisingly sexy night!

Zone 1: Kissing

Most of us probably won’t spend a whole night making out if it’s not going to lead to sex. But we should. I always tell people to designate at least one day a month to kissing to help build intimacy. Avoiding all major erogenous zones will also get your body to refocus. Try a variety of styles all over the body: soft, hard, fast, slow, tongue and no tongue.

Zone 2: Ears

Four different sensory nerves make up the external ear, making them supersensitive. Give those cute little things some attention! Try a gentle nibble, a quick lick, or softly blowing on your partner’s earlobe. Whispering your desires with a hot and heavy breath will drive her totally wild. While you can nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, for courtesy’s sake avoid jamming your tongue inside her ear.

Zone 3: Neck

The neck is the first place you turn to when you want to turn someone on. It’s a total hot spot thanks to the carotid artery, which pumps blood through your body. Try breathing against it or lightly running your fingers over it. Make your way to the collar bone and give that spot a hard kiss. Try the nape of her neck as well. In ancient Japan, the back of a woman’s neck was seen as very attractive by men since it was one of the few places not covered by clothing. In modern times, the nape of the neck is often neglected in favor of more obvious pleasure centers, but never underestimate the power of gentle touches and kisses from her hairline to her shoulders.

Zone 4: Armpit

Though it may not seem sexy, you’ve been overlooking this hidden pleasure spot for years. Because they contain a major artery, your armpits can be a hotbed of sensitivity. If your partner enjoys a little bit of pain during sex, I suggest pressing your thumb into the hollow of her armpit, a pressure point. It can be a great way to incorporate some kink.

Zone 5: Above the butt

Our booties aren’t the only erogenous zones. Try massaging the hollow area of the lower back when you want to turn her on. It’s always good fun to explore around the obvious sexy parts. What makes this teaser so hot is that it’s fairly innocent, but it still feels kind of risqué. However, you’ll have to resist the urge to slip down to her vagina while you’re so close. Like teasing her inner thighs, kissing and licking around her bum will excite her until she’s begging for more. Prolong the sensation by leaving the region to focus on another body part for a while.

Zone 6: Nipples

Nipples are attached to a section of nerves that connect to the brain and genitals. When one of her love buttons is touched, the others are likely to be awoken. Pinch, suck, or lightly bite her nipples while you explore other parts of her body with your hands.

Zone 7: Abs

Licking, kissing and sucking the rib area can really turn a woman on. Make your way down to the belly button, another secret hot spot. Because the clitoris and the belly button grow from the same tissue in the womb, they are neurologically linked in adulthood. Before you lick her there, lightly place your finger inside to see for yourself how it feels.

Yes, every inch of her body is covered with nerve endings that could be stimulated, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have some no-go places. Some women can’t stand to have their faces touched, while others find it unbearable if their hands are tickled. As you explore, you’ll learn which places your touch has the best effect on and which you should avoid.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Re-write history on the map of her body by exploring these hot spots. Actually, how about taking an entire night just for this: arousing her senses so much that she won’t be able to wait any longer and scream for you to be inside her?

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Hot Hollywood Sex

“I don’t like to be told what to do unless I’m naked.”

Lights, camera action! (You know the kind I mean.) You love watching them on film – now it’s your turn to be the star and re-create the hottest, most iconic big-screen sex scenes at home (or in the wild.) Envelope, please: The orgasm goes to… you.

The Notebook.

Why it’s hot: I don’t need to explain you why a sex scene starring Rachel McAdams is a turn-on. But I will. After a torturous seven years wait, Rachel and a bearded Ryan Gosling finally consummate their passion in a grade-A thong-twister. Gosling pushes her against the wall, passionately rips off her clothes, and then carries her into the bedroom, where he feasts on her naked body. Yes, please!

Re-create: The urgent, under-the-clothes quickie

The key is keeping things fast and furious. Be rough with kissing and touching as soon as you walk in the door – push her undies to the side, ask her to leave her shoes on, and do it under her dress. Hell, just get busy right against the wall if you must. (If you can get into an emotional flight in the rain beforehand, even better…)

Titanic

Why it’s hot: Kate Winslet’s Rose falls hard for a whimsical artist with no money and floppy blond hair. Been there. The scandalous Jasmine/Aladdin dynamic sets the stage for some seriously scorching sex. After Kate drops trou so that Leo can sketch her in the buff, these two crazy kids break into an empty car where they go at it so intensely they fog up the windows. Knowing they could get caught any minute raises the stakes, transforming ordinary nookie into a full-on erotic adventure.

Re-create: Bawdy backseat sex

No need to board a cruise ship on a glacier route. Just park your car somewhere that makes you feel rebellious – like a quiet suburban neighborhood – and do it like a couple of randy teens. Spoon-sex her in the backseat, have her straddle you on the passenger’s side (the seatbelt is a handy restraint), or position her over the center console and make doggie your default setting. Sweaty hands on the steamy windows are an absolute must.

Eyes wide shut

Why it’s hot: Three words – secret mansion orgy. In this practically X-rated sex saga, guests openly eff all over the house, partying like it’s 200 BC Rome. One particular couple, however, wins the award for most alluring public display of affection. The woman lies on a dark wood table, back arched, while a masked stranger stands over her, passionately thrusting into her. Call me voyeuristic, but mysterious, butt-grabbing strangers? Totally arousing.

Re-create: Sneaky, anonymous party sex

All you need to recreate this IRL is an abandoned chateau and 300 DTF guests. If that’s out of budget, try the pared-down version: Next time you’re partying, plan an escape to an empty room. The closet is a perfect sneaky hookup spot because you’re hidden, but there’s still a chance of getting busted, which ups the sauce factor. Go down on each other before trying a little from-behind action, holding the door shut and having your partner lean back on it. Forcing yourself to do it all quietly – so your moans don’t give you away – will feel extra naughty.

Pretty Woman

Why it’s hot: Julia sparked untold hotel sexcapades after taking control of the bump-and-grind at the Regent Beverly Wilshire. “What do you do?” Gere asks. “Everything”, she replies. “But I don’t kiss on the mouth.” Sometimes you’re in the mood to look into your partner’s eyes and make soft, sensual, Usher-style love… and other times, you want to rough-ride your woman. Simple.

Re-create: Kiss-anywhere-but-the-mouth sex

Take turns lying down totally nude while you kiss every inch of each other’s bodies – except the mouth. As things start to feel super delicious, go all the way, but remember: no lip-locking. No-kissing sex will feel all forbidden… and inspire more lip service to her ears, neck and nipples. Gray haired wig, optional.

Secretary

Why it’s hot: Spader’s Mr. Grey is masterfully kinky when spanking his assistant, Ms. Holloway, over a typo: “Put your elbows on the desk, bend over… and read it aloud.” S&M sex at the office is totally taboo – and super arousing. Come on, no one fantasizes about a loving monogamous couple doing it missionary style in their master bedroom…

Re-create: The kinky role-play romp

Be the boss and have her address you only as “Mr.”, or play the pupil and give her oral under the desk. All mistakes will be punishable by naughty spanking… and the sex position of the boss’s choice. Reverse-cowgirl-ing in an office chair will be overtime you won’t mind…

Ghost 

Why it’s hot: Nothing ferments my kombucha like some down-and-dirty whoopee. In this epic scene, Demi is sensually massaging clay on her potter’s wheel when a shirtless Swayze tries to distract her by caressing her neck and arms. Suddenly, nothing seems hotter than being sex-jumped when you’re totally absorbed with some hands-on project. Demi plays it really cool, pretending to focus on some wack ceramic pot while the biggest hunk of the nineties grinds on her from behind.

Re-create: The fun, frisky foreplay game

Even without an in-home pottery studio, you can still engage in some messy fun. Wash your car, frost a cake, pull some weeds – as long as you’re getting dirty (pun intended). Then challenge your partner to try to distract you with her hands and mouth. See how long you can resist before giving in to some gritty sex – whether on top of the kitchen table or in the garden.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. What other sex scenes would you love to re-create? These are the classics, but I’m sure you must have your own cinematic fantasies. Do share with the rest of us!

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The appliance of science in the bedroom

“Sex, sexual dynamics and how we define our sexuality, is one of the major deals in everyone’s life.” – Molly Parker

If you’re a regular reader of the Iced Vovo-pink delight that is my website, you’ll know that every week I share with you some tantalizing tidbit or another – whether it’s that 84 percent of women get turned on by ear nibbling, 45 percent of men are sick for cut-out cossies, or 0.1 per cent of all sex goes on in space (all completely made up, but you catch my drift).

Not only was there a time when such salacious stats weren’t tolerated, sex wasn’t talked about at all. Not even by people having it! Couples could go their whole married life without seeing each other in the nuddy. They weren’t even looking each other in the eye while doing it, so you can image that talking about each other’s frustrations, pleasure or incompatibilities was completely out of the question and even immoral for some.

Back in those sexual dark ages (which were only 100-odd years ago), sex was predominantly thought of as a necessary evil. Case in point: a quote from a book titled Sex Tips for Husbands and Wives from 1894: “While sex is at best revolting and at worst painful, it has to be endured… when it cannot be prevented, it should be practiced only in total darkness. Lie perfectly still and never under any circumstances grunt or groan while the act is in progress.”

Yeeeah. So you can see we have come a long way. And it was William Masters and Virginia Johnson who started the revolution.

Busting the myths

Before the original sex researchers, Masters and Johnson, came along, hanky-panky was a hush-hush affair. People did it, but with what must be only very rare exceptions, they were certainly not studying it. So groundbreaking was the pioneering pair’s research that TV network Showtime has whipped their story up into a series, Masters of Sex. Among other things, Masters and Johnson were first to “discover” women were capable of multiple orgasms. I say “discover” because one can only assume some women were already well aware of it. This was quite the revelation to the mostly male scientific and medical community, though. Imagine that.

They also ascertained that most men masturbate (92 percent, actually – which, in related news, leads me to believe that eight per cent of men are chronic liars). Also, that a woman’s sexual peak is in her thirties, and that homosexuality is not a mental illness, as was previously believed. The duo also observed that men need a breather between sexy sessions, unlike women, who are basically like Energiser Bunnies when it comes to orgasmic energy; capable of climaxing again and again without a break.

But they didn’t stop at the very young and nubile – no sir. They also discovered people aged 70 and beyond were fully able to hit the hot spot; that there was in fact no age at which sexual function disappeared. It may take our elders a little longer to get aroused, but where there’s a will, there’s a way. I dare you not to picture your grandpa and grandma pounding private parts right now… Ahem. Moving on.

Rules of attraction

Most importantly, however, Masters and Johnson were the ones responsible for coming up with the very ahead-of-its-time four-stage model of sexual response – a biological progression that dissects sex into neat boxes. It seems to take a fair whack of magic out of the act, but still, it was a very impressive revelation.

The four stages are of course excitement (which can be brought on by the mere thought of getting it on), plateau (genitals start to swell, breath quickens), orgasm (the holy grails; fluids a-go-go) and resolution (the body now returns to its standard, not-quite-as-fun, non-electrified state). And they ascertained all of this in a decade when the only fornication that was condoned was the kind that led to procreation. A time when oral sex, even between husband and wife, was illegal in a lot of places.

The sheer fact that the pair were watching people get their rocks off in a lab in order to come to all of these conclusions was outrageous in itself – it got them on late-night talk shows and the cover of Time magazine. So if you’re thinking of changing careers… well, don’t dismiss the idea of furthering human knowledge of the best activity ever invented. Because, if you ask me, it’s a pretty sweet way to earn a paycheck.

Have a fun week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. If you found this introduction into the meanders of sex particularly interesting, don’t miss out on any of my columns, I’ll be sharing tips and tricks of the trade every week!

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What she wants more of in bed

“I like to feel sexy. I know my husband thinks I’m sexy. I think he is too. But I don’t go out half-naked with ‘sex’ written across my back.” – Catherine Zeta-Jones

Even though you are sexually satisfying your girl on a pretty regular basis, there are some special touches that she could use more of. Such as…

The effort you put into seducing her

Yes, you would think your good looks and suave personality alone would be enough to woo the panties off her, but when you go the extra mile to set the mood, it really shows you care about her and her needs. So rather than flipping off the TV and casually asking, “Are you ready for some of this?” (and by this you mean you’re junk, which you proudly reveal to her in neon lights, nothing romantic about that aspect), try lighting some  candles, putting on sexy music, stroking her hair in that particular way you know she likes so much. These sweet gestures show that you’re just as interested in her arousal, and you’re not only thinking with the little head.

Kissing throughout the act

Speaking of seduction, you probably kiss your girl as a prologue to sex. Which is great. But once the main event is under way, making out tends to take a backseat. Well, it damn well should still be a priority! Kissing is one of the most intimate sexual acts. When you do it during intercourse, the experience becomes even more intense and emotional for your partner and for yourself as well, mind you. So don’t put an end to the smooches once her panties are off and your penis is in action, on the contrary, intensify them and make them juicier than ever. You’ll rip the benefits in the form a very awesome and all-enticing orgasm.

The amount of time spent on foreplay

Even if you think you have warmed her enough, your girl still might need significantly more foreplay than you do. For many women, it’s good to make sure she has an orgasm before intercourse, from either manual or oral sex. Because she has already climaxed, she will be more aroused and able to enjoy the sex more fully. So take matters into your own hands, if you excuse the pun. A good session of fingering, topped off with some pretty seriously hot tongue tricks should make her climax in no time. Once that’s settled, head on to the real business of the night!

Receiving compliments on her skills

Sorry, guys, but grunting and moaning “Yeah, baby” are not adequate forms of expression. If you really want her to know just how much you liked the sex, you’ll have to try using complete sentences, verb and all. Get specific: tell her how much you loved her oral sex technique, that new position she suggested, or the way she moved during intercourse. Just like you, she wants to know that everything she’s doing is having the desired result: pleasing you, silly!

Have an awesome week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. After following these tricks religiously, don’t wonder why she suspects you of reading her mind.

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Is her first time still affecting her sex life?

“You think intercourse is a private act; it’s not, it’s a social act. Men are sexually predatory in life; and women are sexually manipulative. When two individuals come together and leave their gender outside the bedroom door, then they make love.” – Andrea Dworkin

Whether she lost her virginity with her first serious boyfriend or it was a one-night stand that’s best forgotten, the first time can affect her love-life forever. Is your partner happy with your sex life? Does she feel in control, and comfortable to experiment and get the love-life you deserve? Or does she lack the confidence to ask for what she wants in bed? Whichever camp she’s in, the key factor behind it could be how she lost her virginity. And the same rule applies to you. A recent US study, Gone but not forgotten: Virginity loss and current sexual satisfaction, published in The Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, investigated how influential our first time can be. They found that those who’d had the best experiences had the most fulfilling sex lives now. Whereas people with more negative memories were less happy with their current sex lives.

If there was a theme that linked most of them, it was disappointment. But, of course, your first time is unlikely to go smoothly – after all, you’ve never done it before, and your partner might not have, either. Of course, it’s also a matter of background: what you’ve been taught about sex, how it was dealt with by your parents, and so on. If you have a good sense of self, your first time is likely to have been more positive, even if the sex itself wasn’t that great. How your first time and subsequent sex life played out has to do with how you already were as a person in terms of confidence and self-image.

There are three groups we fall into when it comes to our first time:

  • Pragmatists, who it won’t be the best experience, but manage their expectations and have an OK time.
  • Stigmatised, who feel embarrassed by their virgin status and are determined to lose it as soon as possible, however possible.
  • Gifters, who see their virginity as a precious item to be handled with care.

Gifters were more likely to have felt devastated if anything went wrong. Likewise, those who felt virginity was a stigma also took a negative experience to heart, and often waited longer before having sex again. But the pragmatist saw it as just another life stage, and is more likely to have been satisfied, or at least learnt from it and so stood a better chance of getting what they wanted next time. Feeling you had a choice in the matter is also important in creating an ongoing feeling of empowerment. It sets the template for your current sexual relationships.

The Sex Factors

The truth is, first-time sex has no guarantees. It could have been with a long-term partner but disappointing, or with a stranger who turned out to be considerate. Your age will also likely have had an impact – although your emotional maturity counts for more than actual years. A woman’s body may be mature in her early teens, but that doesn’t necessarily mean she’s emotionally ready to start a sexual relationship. If you aren’t ready, there’s a risk you’ll feel the first time was disappointing or shameful and other feelings that stay with you. Or you may be in your late teens or early twenties, and still feel awkward. Even the place where it happened could have a bearing. Say, a rushed session in a car would give you few hints of how amazing sex can be when it’s done slowly, with no fear of anyone walking in on you.

Learn from experience

  • If the sex was a disaster. It needn’t dictate your sexual future. Most first times are underwhelming, but it gets better. The best cure is time – it can turn dreadful experiences into something we can laugh about later. Talking to people normalizes the situation. There’s a chance most will have had a less than brilliant first time too. The first time is just the first time – you can’t let it ruin the many wonderful experiences you’re having as an adult.
  • If she felt her virginity was taken from her. For some women, their first time may have happened when they weren’t planning it or didn’t feel ready. The most natural reaction after is a lack of trust in the bedroom. Don’t make her feel guilty for holding back. Share your own nerves about your first time with her.
  • If it was planned, with someone she trusted. This shows she had respect for herself and her body, but if her sexual life after that has followed a similar pattern, she might need to be more on the edge sexually. However, don’t feel you should push her boundaries just for the sake of it. Be happy she’s confident in knowing what she likes and she’ll soon open up to more adventurous romping.
  • If she waited until she was older. Women may berate themselves for being older than their friends when they lost their virginity, though they shouldn’t. In fact, this shows that they didn’t and won’t bow to pressure. She probably now uses this strength to her advantage – she never compromises her values and always feels confident to ask for what she wants in the bedroom. It will lead to fulfilling sex.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. However your first time played out, it’s important not to have any regrets. Sex is meant to be fun, after all.

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What she notices about sex

“Sex is a big question mark. It is something people will talk about forever.” – Catherine Deneuve

Even in the throes of passion, a woman is making surprising observations. You might not know this, but women, just like you guys, spend an inordinate amount of time thinking about sex – so much so that we think about it even while it’s happening (and right beforehand and immediately afterwards). Here are some of the things your girlfriend might be focusing on… behind your back.

If you premeditated the action

Candles, fresh sheets, a hot bath with exactly the type of bath oils you know she likes, condoms: their presence tells her you want your sexual encounters to be as pleasurable (and safe) as possible. You don’t have to break out every accessory on night one, but just knowing you’re stocked up and always ready to go is a turn-on for ever woman. “It’s confusing when a guy invites you to stay over and then doesn’t have condoms – was he really not anticipating this?” asks Jenny.

Your signature moves

It could be a sweet, soft kiss behind the ear, a charming grin you give her as you’re changing positions, or something naughty you do with your… well, the point is, it doesn’t have to be the Most Shocking Sex Act of the Year. Do anything small that she’s never encountered before and she’ll still be ruminating about it when she reaches the retirement home. “Right after I climaxed, my boyfriend runs his fingers down the full length of my back,” says Julia. “I get shivers that extend my pleasure a few extra precious seconds.”

Your body confidence

When you first get nude, she gets a sense of how comfortable you are with your body. Do you arm cover your abs when your shirt comes off or stand up straighter so she can see? Do you walk across the room naked after sex or swaddle yourself with sheets? “I went out with a guy who always kept his t-shirt on during sex”, says Carol. “It was a hot idea, but every time? I hated that he was so worried about showing her belly.” Here’s what a woman is thinking: If you have issues about living inside your own skin, what other issues might you have? 

The noise level

Just like with potato chips and presidential debates, moderation is key. Utter silence makes her think you’re praying for it to end, but crazy porno wailing seems kinda disingenuous – what’s with the dramatics? Urgent moaning, loud sighs, whispers instructing her what to do next – all this tells her you’re doing something right. When in doubts, just purr the classics: “Yes”, “More”, “Faster”, and so on. That way, when things do get so hot that you’re brought to wild banshee screams, she’ll know it’s authentic.

The morning after routine

Every morning after sex is the perfect morning. You have slept well and you feel relaxed. The perfect morning after for a woman is with you making sure she has an ideal time. Sneaking out to fix her breakfast in bed usually works nicely. Waking up and cuddling is also good, but don’t go straight to passionate kisses, women are self-conscious about morning breath. Another good idea: a hot bath to start fresh after a dirty… encounter.

Have a nice week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. A woman also notices how often you decide to initiate sex. Even though she might not be in the mood, she still wants you to initiate it, so that she feels desired.

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Make your favorite position orgasmic for her

Ben: Do you want to do it doggie-style?

Alison: You’re not going to fuck me like a dog.

Ben: It’s doggie-style. It’s just the style. We don’t have to go outside or anything.” – Knocked Up

You guys dig doggie-style – I know, shocking! But what may surprise you is that if done right, it could also give your partner more thrills that you ever thought possible. I realized this upon watching a talk show where celebrities were coming and getting personal about their lives. One thing the show host always tried to get all her guests to admit? Their favorite sex position, and surprisingly, the majority of these famous ladies said they prefer doggie-style.

What? Sure, we women like it fine, but you’d think a position with more of a pleasure payoff – like cowgirl – would top their lists. We already know that guys love doggie-style because it’s animalistic – literally, it’s something you see on Animal Planet, but it’s not a position generally associated with female orgasm. However, it should, because there are so many ways to make it work for a woman just as well as it does for a man. If you’re a fan of doggie too (or even if you’re not), try these three different versions designed to bring your partner home for the win.

1)    The Bee’s Knees

Play with the placement of her knees. It’s natural for a woman to spread her legs so that you are kneeling between them, but zipping them up tight can make your penis feel thicker and make her feel tighter to you. Plus, the farther apart your knees are on the bed, the easier it’s going to be for you to lean forward and play with her breasts and clitoris. And here’s a good-to-know rule of thumb for making sure you never thrust so deep that it’s uncomfortable: The higher her butt is in the air, the deeper you can penetrate her. The lower it is, the more restricted your motion is going to be.

2)    Doggie Domination

With you lying flat on your back, have her straddle your legs on all fours, facing your feet. Keeping her hands on the bed, she should lower her butt so that you can enter her. This angle is great for a couple of reasons – one, because she’s technically on top, she gets to control the pace and depth of penetration. And two, she is in the perfect G-spot-stimulating position. She should arch her back, and ride you in a forward and up-and-down motion to really target the sweet spot. Not only does it feel fantastic for the both of you, but seeing her back arched with her hair tumbling over is an erotic view for you.

3)    The Magic-Carper Ride

If you don’t own a shag rug, then get yourself a bath mat, pronto. You want a small one, so that you can easily move it around. You want shag because it feels plush against bare skin. I would also suggest slipping a vibrator underneath the mat (this way the sensation isn’t too intense), having her lie down, and positioning her pelvis over the vibrating area while you kneel above her and enter her. You’ll have to cobra your back and use a rocking motion – which is ideal, since your movement will help her grind against that spot.

Have a sensual week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. So yeah, if you want to be an animal in the sack, go ahead. She’ll love it just as much!

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Single? You’ll love these numbers!

“If you’re single, focus on being a better you instead of looking for someone better than your ex. A better you will attract a better next.” – Anonymous

In these days, information is key. The more you know about the opposite sex (and your own, for that matter), the more chances you’ll have at getting what you want from your love life: a relationship. Finding the one is easier if you have a handle on certain digits like these.

  • 2. The number of times you should say her name in a convo to show you’re interested. Experts reckon repeating someone’s name makes them feel connected to you – but doing it more than twice is too intense.
  • 92 per cent of single girls think dinner is the perfect setting for a first or a second date, so book a night at a fancy restaurant if you really want to show her that you want something more.
  • 97. The average number of days it takes guys to say ‘I love you’, according to a study led by The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. It takes you guys a while, that’s for sure, but it’s better to wait until you’re absolutely sure you’ve found the right person.
  • 30. The number of centimeters experts say you should sit from her on a first date to show you’re completely smitten – it’s called the intimate gap.
  • 78 per cent of women check you out online before a date, so make sure your profile is ‘clean’. No profile picture with your ex’s hand around your neck or nasty commentaries to other’s girl’s pictures.
  • 5. The number of times within 15 minutes you should casually touch a woman you like. Women aren’t always as fluent in subtlety as one might think, so several pats on the arm and hands on the knee are necessary if you want to send the proper ‘I’m interested!’ signals.
  • 22. The average number of women you’ll kiss before you meet Mrs. Right, according to a survey created by the dating site meeteez.com.
  • 50. The minimum amount of dollars most men spend on each date in the first few weeks of a relationship. From time to time, even though you don’t have to impress her like when you first started going out, a nice gesture will do the trick and rekindle your romance.
  • 6. The average number of disastrous dates you’ll go in your lifetime. Wrong person, wrong time, wrong place. It happens to the best of us.
  • 7.3. The number of seconds you’ll spend with your eyes glued to a woman’s mouth if she’s wearing red lipstick (compared to just 2.2 seconds when her lips are bare), says a Manchester study.
  • 21-34. The age range when most women want to have kids. I know, a whole lot of years, but bear with us, our biological clock is not something we can control.
  • 20. The number of minutes it takes a woman to decide if she wants to see you again, according to a survey by the dating site itsjustlunch.com.
  • 8. The number of times you should go out with her before introducing her to your friends. Experts say it’s crucial to solidify how you feel about someone before bringing it a bunch of outside opinions.

Have a wonderful week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. 1,110,782. The number of single women aged 20 to 35 in Australia. Write than on a plane ticket to Australia the next time you’re going through a sucky break-up.

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Clue in to her carnal cravings

“As if you were on fire from within. The moon lives in the lining of your skin.” – Pablo Neruda

Wondering what your partner really wants between the sheets? Her seduction lines shed some light to what her style is and she wants to do when it comes to sex. Read my translations and be prepared for your partner to suspect that you are actually reading her mind.

Lusty line: “I would love to go somewhere quiet with you so we can talk.”

Her mattress mood: Assuming she’s serious when she says it, a line like this signals that she’s craving an emotional connection, rather than a mere physical release. She is probably feeling romantic and wants to have a sensual, intimate encounter. Brace yourself for the s-l-o-o-o-w burn.

Lusty line: “I bet you that my bed is more comfortable than yours.”

Her mattress mood: A woman may challenge you in this lighthearted manner if she’s in a playful mindset. Indulge her flirtation and her arousal levels will likely elevate as a result, priming her for uninhibited passion. Get ready for erotic experimentation – bed optional.

Lusty line: “You seem uncomfortable. Let’s get you out of those clothes.”

Her mattress mood: Even though it’s couched in a funny statement, there is a sense of urgency to this line. Your partner is highly aroused and is taking control in order to fast-track both of your pleasure. You’re in for an exhilarating quickie. Repeat after me: “Wham, bam! Thank you, madam!”

Lusty line: “Are you stressed? I want to give you a full body massage.”

Her mattress mood: Good news: You’re about to have all-about-you sex. Massage is a loving gesture – not to mention a lot of work. When a woman offers to go to great lengths to please you, she has decided to make your satisfaction top priority.

Now that you know what she wants between the sheets, boost the passion while shaking things up. Whether you’ve been together for two weeks or two years, you can always find a way to spice up your bedroom routine. Work on these sultry moves with your lover and get ready to add some sizzle to the way your lovemaking unfolds.

Hot for teacher

Bestselling racy novel Fifty Shades of Grey is heating everyone’s bedroom nightstand. Read this to each other and try acting the stories out. An alternative is to mark a section of the book for her; leave a note telling her what her “homework” assignment is, then hold a book club discussion while naked. Erotic audiobooks let someone else do the talking for you; you can listen together – under the covers.

Hotel hookup

Give the “one-night stand” an update by booking a hotel for a hot weekend getaway. Many hotels have special packages that include body oils and sexy lubricants, edible honey dust and a ready to pop bottle of their finest champagne. Then order room service, get a couple’s massage, enjoy the hot tub, and flirt with each other at the bar. The Trojan Charged Sex Life Survey found that 50% of Americans want to give their sex lives a reboot; a staycation allows you to leave the stress of daily life at home and completely indulge.

Make sex a meal

Take breakfast in bed to a whole new level by incorporating her favorite foods into your foreplay. Draw out every sensual possibility as you serve her in bed wearing an apron… and only an apron. Feed her by hand, with kisses – or more – in between bites. Nibble on each other as you take time to savor every part of your meal and each other’s bodies.

Show and tell

Let her watch as you masturbate, showing her how you get off. Close your eyes if it helps and simply give her a glimpse into your secret world. Tell her what you think about when you’re alone. Feel like giving her the orders? I suggest starting with “Take off your panties!” Then help her out.

Have a sexy week,

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. Sexier hookups aren’t just nice visual scenes you see in romantic movies. If you’re willing to put some effort, that’s how your love life will look like as well.

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20 dirty questions, ANSWERED!

“Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant.” – Henry Miller

When looking for advice, sometimes you just want it snappy and spot on. Some sex questions are so personal that you might very well not find the answers in typical articles of the sort. That’s why, this week, I decided to answer some of your… more personal dilemmas regarding sex. Here, I deliver the dirty details fast and furiously.

  1. “Should I give her oral before we start having sex, or will she peak too quickly?” Actually, you want to give her oral until she peaks, then give her a couple of minutes to brush the fever off and start having sex properly. Women can stand (and want!) multiple orgasms. So don’t worry about her peaking and them letting you hang dry. It’s like with chocolates. Who wants to stop after just one delicious bite? Not us!
  1. “Do girls like it when their legs are straight up in the air during sex?” There’s no… straight answer. Some love it, because of the depth of the penetration, some not so much, because of the same reason. If she’s more sensitive to depth, you shouldn’t linger too much on that position. Just read the signs on her face. If she’s moaning in delight, keep at it, if she turns her face away to hide a pain feeling, switch up.
  1. “How can I initiate getting her to go down on me?” If you’re bold, when she’s kissing you, whisper “I’d love to have you do that elsewhere”. She’ll catch your drift. If you’re rather on the shy side, go down on her first, she’ll be more than happy to return the favor afterwards. Women are polite like that.
  1. “How do we deal with the condom and keep the mood?” Have her do it instead of you. If you do it, you just want to speed up the process and have it done and over with as soon as possible. If she does it, she’ll be more patient and more careful. You’ll both enjoy the slowness of it, trust me. Especially is she uses her mouth as well.
  1. “Is there a good way to switch position while remaining inside her?” Yes. Slowly. Slower than slowly. With passion. While you’re turning away the focus from the process of switching to the one of kissing like the French do.
  1. “What can I use to tie her up?” Her tights. A scarf. Your tie. Her lacy, sexy, black G-string. There’s a lot of bondage gear in your closet. You don’t need to buy a “professional” set unless you want to take things to a higher level.
  1. “What’s the easiest way to 69?” Lie side by side. It’s more comfortable and neither is in the “ungrateful” position of being up, which usually leads to a tenser body, which actually spoils half of the fun.
  1. “What’s a hot thing to do after sex?” A sensual massage. Start by scratching her scalp lightly with your nails and caressing her hair. Who knows, maybe it will lead to a second round?
  1. “What do I do when I need a break from giving her oral?” Don’t stop all the way you’re your work down there! It will leave her frustrated. Use your hand to fondle her and use your lips on her nipples or belly. This way you can rest your jaw while still getting her hot and bothered.
  1. “Should I try to control how loud I moan?” Would you want her to do the same? Of course not! So go ahead and use your vocals as loud as you feel like it. Women love manly vociferations as well.
  1. “She has a small clitoris. Is it less likely she’ll orgasm?” Not a chance. It’s not a matter of size, but of what underneath. And trust me, she’s got millions of pleasure nerve endings throughout her entire vaginal area. She’ll orgasm if you know what to do. Which is, touch her in different areas down there, not just on the clitoris.
  1. “How should I wake her up for sex?” Kiss her neck and work your way down her body. But do it slowly. You want her to wake up gradually, not all of a sudden. You might risk scaring her.
  1. “What’s the best position in a small space?” Spooning with bent legs. Lie on your sides, you behind. She should push her butt towards you as you enter her.
  1. “Are blue balls a real condition?” It’s just slang for fluid build-up in the glands near your scrotum due to arousal. But the area doesn’t actually turn blue, mind you. And no, it’s also not true that your balls will turn blue if you’ve not had sex in a longer period of time.
  1. “Can you get an infection from having sex in a Jacuzzi?” Regretfully, yes. You’d better not risk it. And not only you, but especially your female partner. Her areas are more exposed to the bubbly water and more prone to developing nasty infections.
  1. “What’s a good quickie spot?” There are more than one, thank heavens. Over the kitchen table, facing the front door or a wall, in the shower, leaning against the washing machine. Have your pick.
  1. “I have a hot sex life but I still masturbate daily. Is that weird?” Not at all. Having regular sex boosts your drive. Consequently, you’re more passionate during intercourse and your orgasms are stronger. And your sperm is healthier.
  1. “Why does her whole body shake post-orgasm?” No, it’s not a sign of epilepsy. It’s called the orgasmic shudder and can happen to anyone following intense pleasure.
  1. “Is there a good substitute for lube emergencies?” Yes, and it’s called saliva. Don’t try her creamy lotions or soap or shower gel. You’ll both risk getting burns or even infections.
  1. “We want to try role-playing. Where do we start?” Try meeting at a bar as strangers, pretending you’ve just met or reenact the moment you’ve first met. It will bring back good memories and it will help you take the edge off.

Gabrielle Moore

P.S. If you have questions that concern your partner in particular, shake the shy away and ask her what you need to know. You’ll both rip the benefits.