“There’s nothing better than good sex. But bad sex? A peanut butter and jelly sandwich is better than bad sex.”- Billy Joel
In order for anal sex to be a pleasurable and sensational experience, you need to take care of a set of extensive preparations beforehand. You don’t want any setbacks to interrupt you from achieving that, do you?
Well trimmed and clean nails
A not so perfect manicure is a no-go when it comes to any kind of sex, not just anal. With anal though, given the fact that the tissue of the anus and anal canal is much more delicate than that of the vagina, taking care of your nails before… getting down to business is a very crucial factor. Chipped, dirty nails may tear the skin and cause unwanted infections.
If you are planning to wear latex gloves, don’t think that this way you can save the money spent on a decent manicure. If your nails are too long or too irregular or pointy, they can tear through the latex, and even if they don’t, your girlfriend or wife might still feel them, which can cause tremendous discomfort. Make sure you cut them really short and even, so that they are smooth and don’t get stuck through layers of skin when you’re exploring.
Shaved butt and empty bowels
As well versed as she might be when it comes to her pubic hair, given the fact that the anus is not in plain sight most of the time, she might not come prepared at this aspect. If you don’t mind the hairs surrounding her anus, then it’s absolutely no problem, but if you are planning on some oral action as well, you might want her to come forth with a shaved butt.
In my Hot Licks program, where I talk about how the master the fine art of cunnilingus, there’s a chapter exactly about that, about how to convince her to shave her private parts, but also tricks about how to do it yourself, if she lets you.
In this case, it will be more effective if you’re the one holding the razor, given the fact that she can’t really see her back parts, and can end up hurting herself. As long as you have the right tools- a good shaving cream (a non-irritating one would be perfect), a sharp razor and willingness and attention, the whole experience is not bound to last more than a few minutes and it’s a good first step that can be turned into anal foreplay.
However, if things don’t go as perfect as planned and she ends up with a few minor bruises, as superficial as they might be, don’t have anal sex right away; there’s a good chance you’ll enhance her irritation.
As far as cleanliness inside her butt is concerned, as always, this matters more to some people than others. There are a few basic rules that shouldn’t be looked upon superficially though. The first one, she should have a bowel movement an hour or so before you two have anal sex, to ensure that nothing is encountered during any penetration, and then thoroughly bathe the area.
Enemas are also an option, especially if she’s self conscious about the possible waste that may not go away by simply washing the area with water and soap. This is especially worth considering in the case of actual penis penetration, since one gets a lot deeper than even the most diligent bathing process is going to be able to clean.
Also, if she has a poor diet, recurring constipation, diarrhea or other intestinal problems, the fecal matter that is bound to remain on the anal canal would be in a larger quantity, and an enema would solve that faster and with much more efficiency.
Prober lubricants and condoms
It’s only in porn films that saliva and free-flowing love juices provide enough lubrication to fully enjoy anal sex. Non lubricated penetration causes friction of the worst kind and can tear the sensitive tissue of the anus or the anal canal. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce a natural lubricant, only a sort of mucus, but that is definitely not enough.
Types of lubricants
Water based. This type comes in two forms: liquid-like (just like plain water, odorless, tasteless, non-staining and non-irritating) and jelly-like (it preserves the same properties as the first one, the only difference is that this one has a thicker consistency, like hair gel for example). The first one is probably the most popular, though some people complain that it wears off too easily and you have to reapply it ever so often. My advice? Try them both and see which works best in your case.
Oil based. The good thing about these ones: they don’t dry off like their water counterparts. The bad thing: they break down latex and pretty much ruin your protection. Moreover, they don’t wash off as easily as the water based ones and can lead to serious infections.
Silicone based. This is the best option for you because it lasts a long time, stays where you put it, and doesn’t evaporate- unlike water based lube- and it’s latex compatible- unlike oil based lube.
As far as condoms are concerned, there are a few things that it’s imperative you know before having anal sex.
First of all, have more than one at hand. If you’re going to be participating in different kinds of sex during your lovemaking session, you’ll need to change condoms every time you switch from vaginal to anal sex. Otherwise your girlfriend or wife can get a vaginal infection.
Second of all, only use plain, simple traditional latex. The textured, ribbed or flavored ones can hurt the soft tissue of the anus, or cause infections to the anal canal. Because of the lack of natural lubrication, this area is much more prone to infections of any kind and every type of rules disobeying can lead to serious damage.
Third of all, use it all the time! Condoms aren’t only for preventing pregnancy, but also for keeping you away from STDs, especially HIV (read more about this in the sixth chapter, dedicated to health matters).
Forth of all, latex doesn’t only mean condoms. You should also use dental dams, finger cots and latex gloves in order to be fully safe from infections.
Fifth of all, female condoms are also a good option. A larger version of the male condom, the female condom is a tube of polyurethane closed at one end and open at the other. If your girlfriend or wife is ok with it (some women don’t like the feeling of it), it’s a perfectly viable option when it comes to anal intercourse. In fact, it offers more protection because it lines perfectly the anal cavity, covering the penis and the outer area of the anus.
Have a sexy week,
P.S. Make sure your condoms are new and of good quality. If they tear up and get stuck in her anus, you might need to take a trip to the ER.